Let me ask you this then. Let's say instead that you said, "I can't help (my poor decision making skills). I'm African American."
Can you see this would be offensive? If that's offensive, why isn't offensive to generalize about women that way?
But she didn't say anything about poor decision making skills, she said this:
I KNOW. But I'm a girl! Give me some pretty and affordable alternatives and I'll be happy. The recommedations in this thread fail at least one of those standards. I'm offended by the ugliness of the thinkpad and the price of the Sony. What can I do?
I read that as "I'm a girl, thus my requirements are different. The dell seems to be the only computer I can think of that suits them." Nowhere do I see "I'm a girl, so I can't make a good decision." Just because you (or I, for that matter) think it's a bad decision according to our standards doesn't mean that it is for hers.
she said she might buy a dell anyway (after long thread within which are several suggestions to not buy a dell), someone else says "nooooooo" she says she can't help it because she's a girl.
if she buys a dell because she's had good experiences with them and likes them, more power to her, its her money. i don't care.
see the difference?
You're totally mischaracterizing her "i'm a girl" statement. It wasn't "I'm a girl, thus I can't do anything but make bad decisions," it was "I'm a girl, thus your reasons for ruling out a Dell are weaker than my reasons for ruling out all the other choices."
She said this: "I KNOW. But I'm a girl! Give me some pretty and affordable alternatives and I'll be happy. The recommedations in this thread fail at least one of those standards. I'm offended by the ugliness of the thinkpad and the price of the Sony. What can I do?"
Note, that isn't "I'm a stupid girl, what can I do?", it's "I need a pretty and affordable computer, thus I can't consider a thinkpad or a sony." The whole "i'm a girl" part is totally irrelevant - it's simply background info for her real criteria. You could change her sentence to say "I'm a rabid panda, thus I need a pretty and affordable computer," and it would still reach the same conclusions with regard to her purchasing decision.