Engagement rings have become so outdated in the world we live in. I could understand a woman wanting the biggest diamond or ring she could get back in the 50's when the social expectations of women were to be housewifes, but in today's society where women make there own money and sometimes make more than their husband, why should he go broke trying to impress you? Whatever happened to falling in love with a brother with a buspass? Yeah, I guess the best things in life, like love, are not free.
Amen, I totally agree. That's actually what I was going to say - what are we, back in the 1950's???
Oh, on another note, I don't understand why engagement rings are such a big deal in the US. If you look at Europe, no one there gives a toss. All my cousins over there have really plain rings (if they have rings at all), and most of them have happy marriages/partnerships. Hell, ironically, my richest cousin who got the whole she-bang from her husband (gorgeous house, jewelry, car, ring) had to get a divorce as her husband was bopping his secretary (I guess that's a no-no in marriage, haha). My parents were poor growing up and my mom got a small 5 dollar trinket from my dad's mom as her "engagement ring." It was a simple silver ring that she wears to this day, and my parents are still married. Whoever thinks big-ass engagement rings are a prediction of the union's future are clearly misguided and need a definite reality check.
I personally don't like wearing rings, period. Give me big-ass earrings, a necklace or a bracelet. I find rings to be a huge inconvenience. I hate washing my hands wearing them - as the wet platinum or metal or whatever the hell they are made of nowadays getting wet and touching my skin gives me the heebie-jeebies. Plus I hate the fact that you constantly need to clean fancy jewelry - I have a ton of fancy jewelry laying around from all my exes that I don't bother wearing as I don't feel like getting it cleaned. It's just a nuisance to me.
Don't know where you got this from...it's a big leap from "Ooooh, diamonds are pretty and I want one" to "the bigger my diamond, the more successful my marriage will be".
My Mom has a big ring...and big diamond earrings, and a necklace, and my parents have been happily married for 25 years. And fancy jewelry isn't very hard to clean yourself- buy a small bottle of cleaning solution, drop the jewelry in for a minute or two and viola!! Clean jewelry.
Plus, it's a lot harder to get away with wearing "big-ass earings" at a conservative law firm than a big-ass ring...