How is it his stuff if she sacrificed her independence and self-reliance and spent 20 years catering to him so that he could become that bigwig executive? At the very least he should reimburse her for lost wages. (at the going rate for a scretary if he's determined to be a prick about it)
I don't even know that she sacrificed anything. There's plenty of women looking to get 'married well' so they don't have to work and stand on their own feet. There's no sacrifice to them, they get to live the life of Paris Hilton, shopping without having an income etc. I'm not saying this is the case for ljg's example, but there's plenty of women who actively seek to not have to do jack sh*t. I don't feel the least bit sorry for these people when their sugar daddy packs up and leave. If you based your life on marriage and decided to not amount to a productive human being yourself; @#!* you.
Yet again, this isn't relevant to ljg's example at all, I know nothing about neither of these people. It is however my very strong opinion that money and wealth belongs to the person who created it. No, being a house wife isn't a $500k/year job. Especially if you're not doing house work to begin with, that'd done by Carmen the illegal maid.
The more I talk to women about these kind of things, the more reassured I become I'll never want to marry any of you.
I don't think it's quite so black and white...
Let's take my mother, for example. Brilliant woman- she grew up in poverty, worked her way through one of the top colleges in MA, became a CPA and met my father while working as an intern at his accounting firm. They got married when she was 21, had me when she was 23, and had my sister when she was 26. When it got to the point where paying for care for me (and eventually my sister) was costing more than my mother was making at work, her and my father made a joint
decision that she would stay home to raise us while my father continued on the partner track at work.
28 years later, my father owns his own accounting firm and is a big player in the accounting world in my state, and my mother "dabbles" in private accounting. She hasn't worked as a CPA since I was a baby, but has kept her certification. I would argue that her job as a mother MORE than warrants a "salary"- between me and my sister she was always on the run, cleaning, cooking, doing the errands, driving us to school and picking us up, bringing us to play dates, doctors appointments, after school activities, sports games in high school...you get the picture. Most of the time, because of my father's long work hours, she did this with little to no help from him (I LOVE my father more than anything, we have a great relationship, but the truth is that he wasn't around much when I was growing up). My mother, being the intelligent woman that she is, also handles most of my parent's investments- it's because of her smart choices that both my sister and I were able to graduate college with no debt (if she had gone with my father's wishes the money would have been lost in the stock market), and my parents live a wonderful life- they're constantly travelling around the world (most recent trips were to Australia, New Zealand and Alaska, and next on the list is China), doing work on our house, buying each other wonderful presents "just because", etc.
So, if (God forbid) my parents got divorced, could you really argue that my Dad's wealth belongs to him and only him? Would my mother deserve nothing because my parents decided AS A COUPLE that the best thing for the family was for her to raise us, since my dad was making more $$ at the time? I have no doubt that if my mother had stayed in the working world she would have climbed the corporate latter and made big bucks- just doesn't seem fair to say that all of my parents' money really belongs to my dad because he was the one working.