« on: July 07, 2007, 04:25:31 PM »
QuotePresent partners and safe sex should be the only concerns.
I disagree. Some people are concerned about what values the potential future mother of their children has... What type of values will a promiscuous woman teach to their daughter(s)? It's ok to have "fu*kbuddies?"
My point is that some people look for different values in women and have a right to have other concerns beside safe sex.
I happen to agree with this one. While in high school my best friends mom had all kind of guys going in and out of that house. She even had her daughter drive her to the other womans house on one occasion. Yet, when her daughter lost her virginity at 18 to some random dude (unprotected), her mother called her all kind ungodly of names. It's unrealistic to expect your child have a set of values you as a parent never practiced and neglected to teach them.
A good anecdote that reflects the point...
We can parse the point by saying the person will change values later, but do peoples' values change often? Enough to make the current choice in a partner that will more than likely affect your offspring's life?
Funia's anecdote shows the consequences of a parent value.