« on: July 09, 2007, 04:53:04 PM »
FOR THE RECORD...
I'm secure enough in myself to not let how many guys a woman has slept with be the ultimate deciding factor. You know why I say this, because for one SOME women are promiscuous because they were looking for love and attention from all the wrong places. That doesn't make them a whore, scumbag, slut. Also SOME women may have just enjoyed sex, still doesn't necessarily make them a whore, scumbag, slut.
What matters more to me is whether I feel that they can be in a committed relationship and my feelings for them. Heck I've been with a few women in my life, and I would hate to be judged solely on that factor, so I cannot judge a woman the same way.
if I love you I love you, whether you've been with 3 men or 30 men. As long as you have moved on from your past your alright with me.
Now this I can agree with... For the record, my point wasn’t about how many people a person had monogamous relationship with, whether 3 or 100. My point was the type of woman that continues to believe that casual sex for the point of getting your rocks off is cool and passing that view down to her daughters. ...And/or the woman that lacks the moral authority to instill values of monogamous relationship. And even then, I am not saying that all women that have those values are not marriage material or are not good mothers. I am saying that some men should have the right to require a woman with monogamous values for more than safe sex reasons.
I think some people are reading entirely to much into my statement.
Of course men have that right to choose a woman with whatever values they want- whether that be monogamous or "getting their rocks off" as u put it. Whatever floats their boat. So do women for that matter. I guess I just dont understand what u meant.
The following point was an extension/reiteration of my original post:
QuotePresent partners and safe sex should be the only concerns.
I disagree. Some people are concerned about what values the potential future mother of their children has... What type of values will a promiscuous woman teach to their daughter(s)? It's ok to have "fu*kbuddies?"
My point is that some people look for different values in women and have a right to have other concerns beside safe sex.
ETA: Btw, you've pretty much got the gist of what I meant in your response.