« on: October 09, 2006, 07:57:19 AM »
i'm writing this b/c i'm EXTREMELY frustrated w/my current situation & i need some feedback from unbiased people.
many articles & show have been written & shown about adult kids who move back in w/their parents so they can "take time off" or "get themselves together". usually, the kids are made out to be selfish slackers.
what about when parents want to move in w/their adult children. my dad is trying to move in w/me after i told him that i do not want to live w/him or my mom anymore. I AM 36YRS OLD W/A 13YR OLD KID!!! but it seems like he can't hear me!!!
i'm not being some kind of ungrateful kid who doesn't want her parents around. i don't mind when the come visit & stay for a few days or even a few wks. BUT i don't feel like it's my responsibility to take in my dad b/c he has put himself in a bad situation due to his irresposibility & lack of planning. it's not like some unforeseen incident happened that put him & my mom out of their home (that would be a totally different situation). they no longer have a home because my dad DIDN'T WANT TO PAY A MORTGAGE ANYMORE...so he just stopped. WTF?? i don't want to pay rent, so should i stop & shack up w/my sister & bring my kid & dad along w/me??
i'm so upset. i'm going to have to tell him again that i don't want to live w/him, but of course @ the same time i feel EXTREMELY guilty.
anybody, please help!!