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Incoming 1Ls / Relationships and first year law.
« on: September 21, 2011, 09:43:01 AM »
Ok I know this topic has been talked about numerous times someone on this message board which is why I registered for it. I am coming from the position as someone who is not a law student but is dating a girl who is about a month in. Prior to her starting law school we built a really good relationship where SHE was often the one who talked of the future of us, marriage, house, etc. and even at times an insecurity that that may not happen.

However, now that she has started law school she is almost a different person in regards to us. I can hardly talk to her about "us" anymore without her getting frustrated and throwing out accusations about my "demanding" nature. The funny thing is I see her less than I ever have, ask less of her, etc. Except to feel as though I actually am in a relationship. You see she is going out making friends, being social doing the school thing etc. which is all well and good but it has cut me out in the sense that its at a point where doesn't even to spend some nights with me. Pre-law school she would get upset if that were going to be the case.

I guess what I am looking for is some opinions or confirmations that these things are a normal thing for a first year law student. I know she is overwhlemed a bit, that she gets anxious, and has a real need to fit in with people. I just want to know from an insider is this just a storm to be weathered or could this perhaps be a relationship on the way out.

I love her very much and she does love me, but it just seems that love is perhaps more the liking of an idea rather than the relationship. I could be over reacting. I don't know. I just don't want to lose her.

Thanks in advance.

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