isn't there a tactful way of asking for more money without threatening to withdraw? seems dangerous to me to withdraw unless you know for sure they'll offer you more money.
Here's an example of an email I wrote:
Dear Ms Walton,
Let me say that I am thrilled to have been accepted to Rutgers, and even more so to have been awarded a Dean's Scholarship. Rutgers is my alma mater, and uneqivocally my first choice of all the schools to which I have applied. In fact, I had gone so far as to write the check for my tuition deposit and seal the envelope. It is only in the last hour that I feel myself wavering in my decision to attend.
Having just spoken to the admissions office at the St. John's University, I was informed that I had been awarded a scholarship for full tuition. While the prospect of not attending Rutgers is a decidedly unpleseant one, I cannot overlook the significance this new offer brings. However, I also cannot accept their offer until I know for certain that Rutgers will not match it.
So, my question is, what is the proper procedure for re questing an adjustment in my scholarship offer?
I anxiously await your response.
It worked. Just be corteous and straightforward. Don't come off as demanding.