Lovely Bones reminds me of watching someone pick a zit. I don't want to watch but some how I just can't stop.
Personally, I would not be interested in a woman who felt like she needed to keep her last name. I think that displays too much type-A behavior and there is only room for one type A in a relationship(I being the other type A). But I would support a couple who chose to go with the woman's last name.
Really, there should be a new rule made that isnt gender specific. I propose, Whoever is the main breadwinner in the relationship should use their name. So if you are a woman, and want to keep your last name- go on the search for a trophy stay at home type man (or school teacher)... then everything is solved
But I absolutely LOATH people who hyphenate their names because they can't figure out what to do. Because of their lack of ability to communicate effectively before marriage and make a decision they make the GENERAL PUBLIC suffer by having us pronounce extremely long last names. It is not only inefficient, but also pretentious. What makes you feel like you are so important that people need to garbble out MULTIPLE last names to greet you formally. And then the children being at school, having to explain why mommy and daddy have different names- the whole thing is a mess.
Just choose a name (for the entire family), and stick to it!
Expect a whole bunch of self rightous estragin filled responces to that one.....
Yeah, your kids siblings names being different dosn't scream trailor park at all......that couldn't possibly complicate things....I'm not a guy but I want to give my two cents.
I am married and I kept my own last name. My husband was really cool about it and even offered to take MY last name.
If he doesn't love you enough to let you keep your name do you think he will love you enough to get you through years and years of marriage?
Any guy who needs a woman to change her name for his peace of mind is too insecure, insensitive and stupid to make a good husband any way.
As to the kid issue, you can always do what my aunt did and alternate last names. It seems to work well for them.