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Messages - Haynes7
« on: April 29, 2010, 12:36:56 AM »
I agree that hyphenated names are awkward. I also dislike them because it places the issue of picking a name on the next generation. What happens when someone named "Brown-Stuber" marries a "Anderson-Leif"? Do they become "Brown-Stuber-Anderson-Leif"? It's impractical!
I do not think it is very common for there to be a single breadwinner in families anymore. Plus, you never know who will turn out to be the breadwinner. My grandpa was the breadwinner for years and then he was unable to work anymore and my grandmother became the breadwinner. Its simply not possibly to predict the economic contributions each partner will make to the relationship ahead of time.
The decision of names and naming must be decided on a case by case basis based on the desires of preferences of those involved. It turned out in my situation my husbands last name sounds AWFUL with my first name...I mean REALLY bad. If his last name sounded good with my first name I might have taken it. I'm not saying that in principle women ought to keep their maiden names, just that if she wants to keep her maiden name, he should respect that.
Personally, I would not be interested in a woman who felt like she needed to keep her last name. I think that displays too much type-A behavior and there is only room for one type A in a relationship(I being the other type A). But I would support a couple who chose to go with the woman's last name.
« on: April 29, 2010, 12:10:52 AM »
Gosh! You say that like its a bad thing! (I assume you meant estrogen)
Expect a whole bunch of self rightous estragin filled responces to that one.....
« on: April 28, 2010, 01:11:51 AM »
Actually, obviously doesn't since both of them went to ivy league schools and one of them is now a professor of math. at Emory University.
Why are you so concerned about being from a trailer park anyway? If you are smart, clever and hardworking no one is going to think there is anything wrong with you just because of your last name.
How does the name complicate things?
And further more WHY should the woman take the man's name. If you are so worried about inconsistency in the last name why don't you take your wife's name? Women have sacrificed enough in the name of consistency. I think it is time the men sacrifice for awhile
Yeah, your kids siblings names being different dosn't scream trailor park at all......that couldn't possibly complicate things....I'm not a guy but I want to give my two cents.
I think you are very brave to admit that you were not accepted into a law school that you wanted to go to.
People may be snippy but at least you have balls and courage. You are a far more pleasant person than that snobby waste of oxygen.
I also understand your frustration with impersonal rejection letters. For the money you payed to apply they could at least give you a reason why they didn't accept you. It sucks to pay something for nothing.
« on: April 27, 2010, 12:05:30 AM »
I'm not a guy but I want to give my two cents.
I am married and I kept my own last name. My husband was really cool about it and even offered to take MY last name.
If he doesn't love you enough to let you keep your name do you think he will love you enough to get you through years and years of marriage?
Any guy who needs a woman to change her name for his peace of mind is too insecure, insensitive and stupid to make a good husband any way.
As to the kid issue, you can always do what my aunt did and alternate last names. It seems to work well for them.
« on: April 15, 2010, 01:18:14 AM »
I understand your frustration. My whole life I was told that going to college would get you a good job. I did what all the adults in my life told me and went to college. Now I cannot find a job to save my life.
My question for you is...do you honestly think your comment is going to change anyone's mind?
Im broke and facing having to default on my loans from my undergraduate degree. If law school does nothing else it buys me three more years. I feel like law school is the ONLY thing my undergrad degree has gotten me and you are telling me to give that up? What is the worst that could happen? I end up unemployed and homeless...well that is gonna happen even if I don't go to law school. At least if I have a law education I will be a homeless person with a darn good understand of the law.
« on: April 10, 2010, 11:21:47 PM »
Many people say that it is not worth it to attend a 4th tier school period. I have been accepted to Whittier with a nice little scholarship. I have not been able to find a job since I graduated from college and I am flat broke. My feeling is that things cannot possibly get worse for me. I have heard a lot of complaining from people that they are forced to take low paying jobs after law school. I would rather work like a dog for peanuts then continue being unemployed and facing homelessness. Should I go to law school? What possible consequences could I face from attending a 4th tier school?