« on: May 06, 2009, 04:47:27 PM »
I am in a very complex situation. I come from a backwards state that I wish to move out of some day, but have to save up first adn of course for law school itself. I am dating someone who is beginning med school in the fall and has chosen to go to school in Boston, which is very, very far away. I have always wanted to leave the state, so this can be a good opportunity. However, I know that medical school and law school are extremely intense. I really love this person, and the person wants me to come with and have also told me that they love me. I am just freaking out because I don't want to lose the person I am with, though odds are not great for people like us to stay together.
The person I am dating got accepted into BU and received good financial aid and it was a wonderful thing to them because they thought that they wouldn't be able to go to a nice institution like that one. I am just worried as hell right now what to do. I am worried of all the usual things in relationships, but now add in a move and both of us going to professional school and this just makes it a real headache.
Lots of people are telling me to just go for it, but to be prepared since Boston is an expensive city. Others are saying that I should just cool it because our careers are complicated and may not allow relationships in our educations as well as other things. Plus, I am 24 and never lived on my own before and my parents are a bit old fashioned. I know that they will probably not like it, plus they wouldn't be able to help me if I ever got in financial trouble since they are barely making it themselves. I just don't know if I can find another person like them and it will hurt like nothing ever before to lose them. I know that long distance relationships are tough to make work, even if one does plan to be with the other in a few months.
Jobwise, it has been s struggle for me to get one where I live. One place in Boston offered me a job but I wouldn't be able to take it because they would want me to move right away and the pay isn't good. It has been mroe than I am getting out here though.
This is just driving me crazy because I want to go to law school, but I also want to be with this person, but I wonder if all this is compatible. Can anyone enlighten?