That would hurt! The way I see it, there is not an objective correlation between happiness within a marriage and spouse name change. However, the name change symbolizes unity and togetherness which is obviously an issue in the event it doesn't happen. Just to illustrate my point - how would you feel if he expected you to marry him, but didn't give you a ring or a nice wedding ceremony? What if he wanted to skip the ring altogether? What if his idea of a nice wedding was to take you in his car down to the court building and marry you, then afterwards, take you to an all you can eat buffet then drop you off at home before going to work? You'd probably feel like crap because of what those things actually sybolize. On a broader scale, people rarely admit the importance of appearance and how things look to friends, family, and colleagues.
I'd probably react by explaining how important the name thing is. If I had to beg, I wouldn't want to move forward because begging is not cool. If I had to beg about this, then there is no telling what else i'd have to beg for. Just my thoughts. Be good
If unity and togetherness is what it's supposed to symbolize, is there any good argument reason why the man shouldn't take his wife's last name?
No. I don't have a good argument against the man changing his last name. However, image is important to some people and I know that if one of my friends told me that he was going to change HIS last name, well, lets just say he probably wouldn't get a call for the annual superbowl party. This is soooo ridiculous. I can't believe its come to this....... If this is how you really feel then here are my suggestions:
1. Find a girlie man, metrosexual, or or man femminist that will agree with you. It would make your life easier.
2. Skip the marriage or
3. Get a sex change
How would you feel if a guy asked you to marry him under this condition:
You are not ALLOWED to take his last name and he states that he will not even entertain taking your last name. This changes things up a tad bit now doesn't it. You no longer have the option to have his last name so its not even under discussion and as matter of fact, he looks you square in the eyes and says: "I want to marry you but I will not ALLOW you to take my last name, and there is no way that I'm taking yours". You'd feel like crap. You probably wouldn't take the same position. You'd probably side with me and my "symbolize" argument.