The larger purpose of my post was to point out that there are benefits to waiting.
Yes, and the larger purpose of my post was to point out that there are also negatives to waiting. These are things that people should be aware of when they decide to put off kids as opposed to when they decide to try to have kids. I know that if I was 45 and heard those statistics for the first time, I would wish that I had known them when I was younger and making my original decision to wait to have kids. Not necessarily because waiting is a bad decision, but just so I could have made an informed decision.
The statistics on chromosomal abnormalities are a small part of the data on risks that you will end up weighing if and when you get decide to try and get pregnant - your friends, family, care provider, and the internet will make sure of it. There is a lot of fear and blame that women are exposed to in their reproductive lives (during infertility, pregnancy, birth, and parenting.) If and when you do decide to try to have a family, you will be bombarded with well-intentioned, personal, heartbreaking stories of tragedy and pain, as well as a barrage of statistics.
Very true. But please let me point out again that people should be aware of these things when they are deciding to put off kids, just so they can make an informed decision.
I would plead with you to be mindful of that and try not to participate in the negativity when you discuss your options in a public forum.
I'm not trying to be negative, just realistic. As I stated earlier, I myself plan on waiting, so I definitely wouldn't criticize someone else for doing the same.
The superwoman dilemma is only as bad as we make it.
Not really. It is hard for any woman to have a career and children without making some compromises. It sucks, but it's reality.