« on: June 14, 2004, 02:15:56 PM »
I'm trying to make a very hard decision right now, and I was hoping you guys could give me some advice. My mother is very sick right now. She has had stage 4 colon cancer for over seven years, and is currently going through her fourth battle with it. She's been in the hospital for the past three months, and while the chemo therapy is reducing her cea (cancer count) she isn't subjectivly better than she was three months ago. I honestly don't know what will happen with her, and while I believe in my heart that she'll make it through this, I'm really not sure that she will.
I've been thinking about a lot of things lately, and it seems to me like I should defer school for a year. When she comes home, my father will need help taking care of her, and I also want to make sure I can see her a lot, incase she does take a turn for the worse. I'm still young, and I really don't think it matters if I graduate when I'm 25 or 26, so that's a non-issue. The problem is that I've spent so much time thinking about law school that it really doesn't feel right to take the defferal. But I know that if I don't take it and she doesn't make it, then I will regret my choice for the rest of my life.
If I do defer, I'll use the time to see my mom, help care for her when she comes home, and to try and work off some of the stress from dealign with her illness during my last semester of ugrad. I'll also be able to use the time to take a more hands on role with the computer security business I'm starting (which I will get a salary for), and to read all the 1L resources. I'm really having a hard time here, and I think that if I do defer I should do it very soon, so and advice you guys can give would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.