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General Board / Respect: Automatic or Earned?
« on: January 27, 2006, 04:08:02 AM »
On another thread this kept coming up, and it's worth a thread of its own. Two questions:
1. How do you define respect?
2. Must it be earned or should it be automatically given (it can always be taken away)?
Question 1 is tough. I think it should be given automatically, but I am open to changing that view. Maybe I am confusing it with "courtesy." If you think that is the case, how do you differentiate courtesy and respect?
A third question:
3. Who is worthy of respect? Scalia and Ginsburg our really good friends - they obviously respect each other's viewpoints. But few Americans do the same with those we disagree with.
Scalia/Ginsburg is interesting: Does he respect her intelligence, her principled stance, her decency, her ability to hold her own in an argument? Is it possible to respect Lindsey Graham's character, but not his stance on habeus rights for detainees?
I have an answer, and I asserted one earlier, but I may need to take it back. Was I just defending courtesy, incorrectly using respect like people often incorrectly use the world "ironic?"
How we each define that word illustrates how hard it is for us to all talk with each other when we use words that mean different things to us. It happens a lot. Conservative and Liberal - they've totally lost any substantive meaning. Catholics are liberal on death penalty, conservative on abortion. Blacks vote the most liberal, but are very conservative with traditional religious values. Bill Weld, Republican, is a fiscal conservative, but social libertarian and started the first program in the country for gay high school kids. Guiliani is another example.
How do we talk to each other when we define words differently? It's like the case of that case with the ship the "Peerless" - on guy thought it was the ship arriving in October, the other another ship with the same name arriving in April. Same word, but not the same thing.
That's happening to our political language. Which makes it hard for us to discuss solutions to problems. The next post is an example of how confused we get when our leaders talk. Dems do it too, but not to the mastery of the Repubs.
Either way, what these guys are doing, all of them, is bad for the country...we aren't speaking the same language anymore. How can we talk about respect, or give it to each other, when we define it differently?
Deborah Tannen is one of our premier linguists (and liberal). Still, she illustrates this point in the article in the two posts below (I had to split them)
1. How do you define respect?
2. Must it be earned or should it be automatically given (it can always be taken away)?
Question 1 is tough. I think it should be given automatically, but I am open to changing that view. Maybe I am confusing it with "courtesy." If you think that is the case, how do you differentiate courtesy and respect?
A third question:
3. Who is worthy of respect? Scalia and Ginsburg our really good friends - they obviously respect each other's viewpoints. But few Americans do the same with those we disagree with.
Scalia/Ginsburg is interesting: Does he respect her intelligence, her principled stance, her decency, her ability to hold her own in an argument? Is it possible to respect Lindsey Graham's character, but not his stance on habeus rights for detainees?
I have an answer, and I asserted one earlier, but I may need to take it back. Was I just defending courtesy, incorrectly using respect like people often incorrectly use the world "ironic?"
How we each define that word illustrates how hard it is for us to all talk with each other when we use words that mean different things to us. It happens a lot. Conservative and Liberal - they've totally lost any substantive meaning. Catholics are liberal on death penalty, conservative on abortion. Blacks vote the most liberal, but are very conservative with traditional religious values. Bill Weld, Republican, is a fiscal conservative, but social libertarian and started the first program in the country for gay high school kids. Guiliani is another example.
How do we talk to each other when we define words differently? It's like the case of that case with the ship the "Peerless" - on guy thought it was the ship arriving in October, the other another ship with the same name arriving in April. Same word, but not the same thing.
That's happening to our political language. Which makes it hard for us to discuss solutions to problems. The next post is an example of how confused we get when our leaders talk. Dems do it too, but not to the mastery of the Repubs.
Either way, what these guys are doing, all of them, is bad for the country...we aren't speaking the same language anymore. How can we talk about respect, or give it to each other, when we define it differently?
Deborah Tannen is one of our premier linguists (and liberal). Still, she illustrates this point in the article in the two posts below (I had to split them)
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