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Title: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: law_dawg_07 on July 04, 2007, 07:53:25 PM
Sorry if this thread is going on somewhere else but it seems to be of discussion on several boards. Should you date in law school?  Is there time for a relationship?  Who is hunting who (sisters after the brothers or brothers after the sisters)?  Anyone care to share their stories?
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 04, 2007, 09:34:03 PM
Sorry if this thread is going on somewhere else but it seems to be of discussion on several boards. 1Should you date in law school?  2Is there time for a relationship?  3Who is hunting who (sisters after the brothers or brothers after the sisters)?  4Anyone care to share their stories?

1. Sure, if you meet the right person.
2. Yes
3. Both I guess.
4. No stories to share...
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: dat_raw_n_tellect on July 04, 2007, 09:40:47 PM
Hey babe!!

Good questions!!

In all honesty, I am going to try my best to avoid anything from distracting me my very first semester...including cute, nerdy guys *sigh*  :-\  lol we will see how that works out!  I am as single as a hit song...so I have no stories to add whatsoever!  :D
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Rudy Huckleberry on July 04, 2007, 09:52:57 PM
Hey babe!!

Good questions!!

In all honesty, I am going to try my best to avoid anything from distracting me my very first semester...including cute, nerdy guys *sigh*  :-\  lol we will see how that works out!  I am as single as a hit song...so I have no stories to add whatsoever!  :D

great line. I'm stealing it. :)
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Stand under my Umbrella ella ella, aye!! on July 04, 2007, 11:56:49 PM
Sorry if this thread is going on somewhere else but it seems to be of discussion on several boards. Should you date in law school?  Is there time for a relationship?  Who is hunting who (sisters after the brothers or brothers after the sisters)?  Anyone care to share their stories?

I dont know the answer to any of your questions.  But I plan on making it over to my schools school of education at some point to find me a school teacher-guidance counselor slash wife.  Probably around the end of my 2L year. 

Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: dat_raw_n_tellect on July 05, 2007, 12:05:04 AM
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great line. I'm stealing it.

lol girl, please feel free!!  I don't know where I heard it from...but I could relate to it so well!

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But I plan on making it over to my schools school of education at some point to find me a school teacher-guidance counselor slash wife.  Probably around the end of my 2L year.
 

lol I like how you have your future wifey fulfilling multiple roles already!  I plan on being in the School of Engineering taking applications, myself!  Something about those Biomedical Engineers!!  :D
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: n/a on July 05, 2007, 12:41:25 AM
No dating or relationships in 1L, unless its with your civ pro book.  I plan to take it out on the town occasionally.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Funia on July 05, 2007, 01:45:01 AM
Knowing my luck, I'll probably meet the man of my dreams and have to turn him away.  :'(

 :D
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: pikey on July 05, 2007, 06:02:02 AM
Sorry if this thread is going on somewhere else but it seems to be of discussion on several boards. 1Should you date in law school?  2Is there time for a relationship?  3Who is hunting who (sisters after the brothers or brothers after the sisters)?  4Anyone care to share their stories?

1. Sure, if you meet the right person.
2. Yes
3. Both I guess.
4. No stories to share...

I agree with the above.  I'm in a relationship that I plan to continue through law school.  We've been long distance for two years, so I definitely have experience being flexible and working through a less than ideal experience.  Maybe I'll have stories to share after 1L.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: law_dawg_07 on July 05, 2007, 06:07:18 AM
Great idea on finding a cutie in another grad school program. Dont think I could date another law school student.  Imagine what an argument would be like?
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Kirk Lazarus on July 05, 2007, 06:24:35 AM
Sorry if this thread is going on somewhere else but it seems to be of discussion on several boards. Should you date in law school?  Is there time for a relationship?  Who is hunting who (sisters after the brothers or brothers after the sisters)?  Anyone care to share their stories?

1. Why not?
2. ummm...24 hours in a day and you have weekends off. If you don't have time in law school, you sure as hell won't have time when you're working.
3. ehhh...not enough info to answer
4. My SO and I met in undergrad. Decided sophomore yeaer to go to the same law school. Got into the same law school. Live together in law school and are having a great time.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 06:27:01 AM
Sorry if this thread is going on somewhere else but it seems to be of discussion on several boards. Should you date in law school?  Is there time for a relationship?  Who is hunting who (sisters after the brothers or brothers after the sisters)?  Anyone care to share their stories?

1. Why not?
2. ummm...24 hours in a day and you have weekends off. If you don't have time in law school, you sure as hell won't have time when you're working.
3. ehhh...not enough info to answer
4. My SO and I met in undergrad. Decided sophomore yeaer to go to the same law school. Got into the same law school. Live together in law school and are having a great time.


Awww you guys live together too? This *&^% is cute.  :P
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: law_dawg_07 on July 05, 2007, 06:38:52 AM
Sorry if this thread is going on somewhere else but it seems to be of discussion on several boards. Should you date in law school?  Is there time for a relationship?  Who is hunting who (sisters after the brothers or brothers after the sisters)?  Anyone care to share their stories?

1. Why not?
2. ummm...24 hours in a day and you have weekends off. If you don't have time in law school, you sure as hell won't have time when you're working.3. ehhh...not enough info to answer
4. My SO and I met in undergrad. Decided sophomore yeaer to go to the same law school. Got into the same law school. Live together in law school and are having a great time.


Wow! Kudos to you guys! and in regards to #2. You are the first person I have heard that said you actually get weekends off in law school...lol...(I will be a 1L in the fall so I am assuming you are not referring to this group of people).
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: 2Lacoste on July 05, 2007, 08:04:10 AM
Did a long distance relationship, it tanked.  Dated indiscriminately, worked alright.  Dated long distance again, working out well.  No reason you can't see people 1L year.  You're going to law school, not a monastery.  Lighten up.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: cui bono? on July 05, 2007, 08:09:09 AM
LMAO.  this question keeps on being asked every cycle is seems (if u did a search like 10 things will pop up).  The attitude of PLS II is  dating as a release.  I say, date in ur second semester if u must.  1L, 1st semester hell no.  I have a strong no dating policy in my particular ls.  Neighboring schools... fine.  Long distance...fine.  But have to veto the whole dating in your particular school.  Break up, then that's one person that u may think u have to avoid.  Unnecessary potential drama.  Not a good look.   Anything that causes u drama in ls needs to be dropped. 
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: 2Lacoste on July 05, 2007, 08:41:50 AM
LMAO.  this question keeps on being asked every cycle is seems (if u did a search like 10 things will pop up).  The attitude of PLS II is  dating as a release.  I say, date in ur second semester if u must.  1L, 1st semester hell no.  I have a strong no dating policy in my particular ls.  Neighboring schools... fine.  Long distance...fine.  But have to veto the whole dating in your particular school.  Break up, then that's one person that u may think u have to avoid.  Unnecessary potential drama.  Not a good look.   Anything that causes u drama in ls needs to be dropped. 


Dating in your school is a bad look.  Dating in your university is slightly better if it's large.  I did the dating within the university jump-off second semester; again, not a good look.  But dating long distance or someone who ain't at the school is fine.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Kirk Lazarus on July 05, 2007, 08:44:22 AM
LMAO.  this question keeps on being asked every cycle is seems (if u did a search like 10 things will pop up).  The attitude of PLS II is  dating as a release.  I say, date in ur second semester if u must.  1L, 1st semester hell no.  I have a strong no dating policy in my particular ls.  Neighboring schools... fine.  Long distance...fine.  But have to veto the whole dating in your particular school.  Break up, then that's one person that u may think u have to avoid.  Unnecessary potential drama.  Not a good look.   Anything that causes u drama in ls needs to be dropped. 


Dating in your school is a bad look.  Dating in your university is slightly better if it's large.  I did the dating within the university jump-off second semester; again, not a good look.  But dating long distance or someone who ain't at the school is fine.

I humbly disagree.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 08:47:43 AM
LMAO.  this question keeps on being asked every cycle is seems (if u did a search like 10 things will pop up).  The attitude of PLS II is  dating as a release.  I say, date in ur second semester if u must.  1L, 1st semester hell no.  I have a strong no dating policy in my particular ls.  Neighboring schools... fine.  Long distance...fine.  But have to veto the whole dating in your particular school.  Break up, then that's one person that u may think u have to avoid.  Unnecessary potential drama.  Not a good look.   Anything that causes u drama in ls needs to be dropped. 


Dating in your school is a bad look.  Dating in your university is slightly better if it's large.  I did the dating within the university jump-off second semester; again, not a good look.  But dating long distance or someone who ain't at the school is fine.

I humbly disagree.

I do too. I don't see why two adults can't have a romantic relationship just cause they go to school together. Just be grown about it and it's fine.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: 2Lacoste on July 05, 2007, 08:50:04 AM
The problem isn't having the relationship.  The problem is still attending that same school and moving in the same circles when the relationship ends (even if it ends on "good terms").
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: law_dawg_07 on July 05, 2007, 08:53:31 AM
The problem isn't having the relationship.  The problem is still attending that same school and moving in the same circles when the relationship ends (even if it ends on "good terms").

good point!
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: pikey on July 05, 2007, 08:58:28 AM
The problem isn't having the relationship.  The problem is still attending that same school and moving in the same circles when the relationship ends (even if it ends on "good terms").

I tend to agree.  I'm not saying don't do it, but it can become "sticky" when things end, especially since the black communities at most schools are really small and incestuous anyway.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 08:59:38 AM
The problem isn't having the relationship.  The problem is still attending that same school and moving in the same circles when the relationship ends (even if it ends on "good terms").

I tend to agree.  I'm not saying don't do it, but it can become "sticky" when things end, especially since the black communities at most schools are really small and incestuous anyway.

date white people then.

ETA: I'm incognegro at my school.. so it wouldn't matter. lol
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: iscoredawaitlist on July 05, 2007, 09:00:46 AM
I'm dating a girl who just finished her 1L year of law school. We started in the first semester, and it was fine. If you're a particularly needy person who needs to be with your significant other large portions of every week, then hold off. But if you're normal and can stand to only really "see" your SO a few nights a week, you shouldn't have any problem.

Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: cui bono? on July 05, 2007, 09:17:18 AM
LMAO.  this question keeps on being asked every cycle is seems (if u did a search like 10 things will pop up).  The attitude of PLS II is  dating as a release.  I say, date in ur second semester if u must.  1L, 1st semester hell no.  I have a strong no dating policy in my particular ls.  Neighboring schools... fine.  Long distance...fine.  But have to veto the whole dating in your particular school.  Break up, then that's one person that u may think u have to avoid.  Unnecessary potential drama.  Not a good look.   Anything that causes u drama in ls needs to be dropped. 


Dating in your school is a bad look.  Dating in your university is slightly better if it's large.  I did the dating within the university jump-off second semester; again, not a good look.  But dating long distance or someone who ain't at the school is fine.

I humbly disagree.

I do too. I don't see why two adults can't have a romantic relationship just cause they go to school together. Just be grown about it and it's fine.

     Just because folks go to LS does not mean they're grown.  LS is kinda like high school all over again-  only this time we're on our own and drive our own cars. Still wit the lockers and still with petty drama.  "ooooh I saw so and so studying with such and such in the library but then he was studing with someone else on friday"   gettheheckoutta here!  Never thought anyone in LS could be needy.  Surely someone in LS would be self-reliant; self-entertainable. The admissions/LSAT process should surely mellow 'em out. Nope.  Was def proven wrong. 
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Kirk Lazarus on July 05, 2007, 09:32:20 AM
LMAO.  this question keeps on being asked every cycle is seems (if u did a search like 10 things will pop up).  The attitude of PLS II is  dating as a release.  I say, date in ur second semester if u must.  1L, 1st semester hell no.  I have a strong no dating policy in my particular ls.  Neighboring schools... fine.  Long distance...fine.  But have to veto the whole dating in your particular school.  Break up, then that's one person that u may think u have to avoid.  Unnecessary potential drama.  Not a good look.   Anything that causes u drama in ls needs to be dropped. 


Dating in your school is a bad look.  Dating in your university is slightly better if it's large.  I did the dating within the university jump-off second semester; again, not a good look.  But dating long distance or someone who ain't at the school is fine.

I humbly disagree.

I do too. I don't see why two adults can't have a romantic relationship just cause they go to school together. Just be grown about it and it's fine.

     Just because folks go to LS does not mean they're grown.  LS is kinda like high school all over again-  only this time we're on our own and drive our own cars. Still wit the lockers and still with petty drama.  "ooooh I saw so and so studying with such and such in the library but then he was studing with someone else on friday"   gettheheckoutta here!  Never thought anyone in LS could be needy.  Surely someone in LS would be self-reliant; self-entertainable. The admissions/LSAT process should surely mellow 'em out. Nope.  Was def proven wrong. 

I'll be damned if I'd let a bunch of childish law students and their gossip deter me from dating a woman I wanted.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Special Agent Dana Scully on July 05, 2007, 09:32:33 AM
LMAO.  this question keeps on being asked every cycle is seems (if u did a search like 10 things will pop up).  The attitude of PLS II is  dating as a release.  I say, date in ur second semester if u must.  1L, 1st semester hell no.  I have a strong no dating policy in my particular ls.  Neighboring schools... fine.  Long distance...fine.  But have to veto the whole dating in your particular school.  Break up, then that's one person that u may think u have to avoid.  Unnecessary potential drama.  Not a good look.   Anything that causes u drama in ls needs to be dropped. 


Dating in your school is a bad look.  Dating in your university is slightly better if it's large.  I did the dating within the university jump-off second semester; again, not a good look.  But dating long distance or someone who ain't at the school is fine.

I humbly disagree.

I do too. I don't see why two adults can't have a romantic relationship just cause they go to school together. Just be grown about it and it's fine.

     Just because folks go to LS does not mean they're grown.  LS is kinda like high school all over again-  only this time we're on our own and drive our own cars. Still wit the lockers and still with petty drama.  "ooooh I saw so and so studying with such and such in the library but then he was studing with someone else on friday"   gettheheckoutta here!  Never thought anyone in LS could be needy.  Surely someone in LS would be self-reliant; self-entertainable. The admissions/LSAT process should surely mellow 'em out. Nope.  Was def proven wrong. 

eh college was like highschool too...if you dealt with ish in college, i'm sure you can deal with it in ls.

ppl should man up and go on about their business.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Kirk Lazarus on July 05, 2007, 09:33:53 AM
LMAO.  this question keeps on being asked every cycle is seems (if u did a search like 10 things will pop up).  The attitude of PLS II is  dating as a release.  I say, date in ur second semester if u must.  1L, 1st semester hell no.  I have a strong no dating policy in my particular ls.  Neighboring schools... fine.  Long distance...fine.  But have to veto the whole dating in your particular school.  Break up, then that's one person that u may think u have to avoid.  Unnecessary potential drama.  Not a good look.   Anything that causes u drama in ls needs to be dropped. 


Dating in your school is a bad look.  Dating in your university is slightly better if it's large.  I did the dating within the university jump-off second semester; again, not a good look.  But dating long distance or someone who ain't at the school is fine.

I humbly disagree.

I do too. I don't see why two adults can't have a romantic relationship just cause they go to school together. Just be grown about it and it's fine.

     Just because folks go to LS does not mean they're grown.  LS is kinda like high school all over again-  only this time we're on our own and drive our own cars. Still wit the lockers and still with petty drama.  "ooooh I saw so and so studying with such and such in the library but then he was studing with someone else on friday"   gettheheckoutta here!  Never thought anyone in LS could be needy.  Surely someone in LS would be self-reliant; self-entertainable. The admissions/LSAT process should surely mellow 'em out. Nope.  Was def proven wrong. 

eh college was like highschool too...if you dealt with ish in college, i'm sure you can deal with it in ls.

ppl should man up and go on about their business.

precisely
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 09:34:56 AM

I'll be damned if I'd let a bunch of childish law students and their gossip deter me from dating a woman I wanted.

titcr
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 05, 2007, 09:35:52 AM
I'll be damned if I'd let a bunch of childish law students and their gossip deter me from dating a woman I wanted.

Yeah, who cares what other people think about such things?
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: 2Lacoste on July 05, 2007, 09:36:45 AM
Oh, definitely f*ck what others say.  But it can still be very uncomfortable, annoying, or painful for YOU to have to see this chick every day for the next 2 years if it doesn't work out.  That's a female dog.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: UNAS on July 05, 2007, 09:38:45 AM
To brothers...time management is key in law school no one can dispute that, but for those of us who want to continue our player lifestyles what do you make of it??
 8)
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 09:40:08 AM
To brothers...time management is key in law school no one can dispute that, but for those of us who want to continue our player lifestyles what do you make of it??
 8)

Can you put a pic up of yourself in your avatar? I feel like I should make fun of you for the next 3 hrs.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Nemesis on July 05, 2007, 10:19:38 AM
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Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Nemesis on July 05, 2007, 10:50:45 AM
Great idea on finding a cutie in another grad school program. Dont think I could date another law school student.  Imagine what an argument would be like?

I dunno Galt. The man has a point  :D
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 10:52:34 AM
See! She thinks youre a man too.

Great idea on finding a cutie in another grad school program. Dont think I could date another law school student.  Imagine what an argument would be like?

I dunno Galt. The man has a point  :D
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Nemesis on July 05, 2007, 10:59:46 AM
See! She thinks youre a man too.

 :-[

My bad.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 05, 2007, 11:04:07 AM
See! She thinks youre a man too.

Great idea on finding a cutie in another grad school program. Dont think I could date another law school student.  Imagine what an argument would be like?

I dunno Galt. The man has a point  :D

So did a bunch of people...we had this discussion a while back.  Keep up!
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: law_dawg_07 on July 05, 2007, 11:43:57 AM
The "dawg" throws people off as I have been told its a term usually used by males.  But I can definitely understand the confusion and the need for discussion among a group of law degree-seeking students in reading intensive programs that neglect to take the time to view a profile.

But anyways...I am headed to Dawg Country (UGA) for law school...hence the term...law_dawg_07

And yes...please keep it up...I am still waiting for Massa to say something funny before I graduate from law school in 2010.

See! She thinks youre a man too.

Great idea on finding a cutie in another grad school program. Dont think I could date another law school student.  Imagine what an argument would be like?

I dunno Galt. The man has a point  :D

So did a bunch of people...we had this discussion a while back.  Keep up!
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 05, 2007, 11:48:26 AM
take the time to view a profile.

Meh I only do that when people say something interesting and I want to look at their old posts.  Otherwise, I (and I would imagine most people) don't care.


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And yes...please keep it up...I am still waiting for Massa to say something funny before I graduate from law school in 2010.

Lol I told rbg to keep up, not keep it up.  Although you two could possibly be entertaining together.  Let's try it out when he gets back from the rib shack.


Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: law_dawg_07 on July 05, 2007, 11:53:22 AM
I agree cause I couldnt tell you if you were male/female if anyone asked but if it inspired discussion, then I would simply check the profile. Ya dig?

take the time to view a profile.

Meh I only do that when people say something interesting and I want to look at their old posts.  Otherwise, I (and I would imagine most people) don't care.

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And yes...please keep it up...I am still waiting for Massa to say something funny before I graduate from law school in 2010.

Lol I told rbg to keep up, not keep it up.  Although you two could possibly be entertaining together.  Let's try it out when he gets back from the rib shack.



Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 12:03:16 PM
The "dawg" throws people off as I have been told its a term usually used by males.  But I can definitely understand the confusion and the need for discussion among a group of law degree-seeking students in reading intensive programs that neglect to take the time to view a profile.

But anyways...I am headed to Dawg Country (UGA) for law school...hence the term...law_dawg_07

And yes...please keep it up...I am still waiting for Massa to say something funny before I graduate from law school in 2010.

See! She thinks youre a man too.

Great idea on finding a cutie in another grad school program. Dont think I could date another law school student.  Imagine what an argument would be like?

I dunno Galt. The man has a point  :D

So did a bunch of people...we had this discussion a while back.  Keep up!

I recall you being on my nuts when I was jokin Dolla bill. *&^% isn't so funny when it's about you huh? Ole disloyal ass heffa...
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Lady13 on July 05, 2007, 12:05:42 PM
I'm glad to see this is being discussed. I'm in a serious relationship and once I move to Chicago for ls, we'll be long distance  :(. Just hoping and praying that we'll be okay...
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 12:06:39 PM
I'm glad to see this is being discussed. I'm in a serious relationship and once I move to Chicago for ls, we'll be long distance  :(. Just hoping and praying that we'll be okay...

ha. girls get rid of their bfs quick at my school. lol at least the black girls anyway.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: law_dawg_07 on July 05, 2007, 12:06:52 PM
I am enjoying this cause I am bored as hell at work.  Plus, the mere fact that I was all on ya nuts when you was dissin dollar bill should have been an indication that I was female nukka!  


P.S.  I am only loyal to God and the money they put his name on...

The "dawg" throws people off as I have been told its a term usually used by males.  But I can definitely understand the confusion and the need for discussion among a group of law degree-seeking students in reading intensive programs that neglect to take the time to view a profile.

But anyways...I am headed to Dawg Country (UGA) for law school...hence the term...law_dawg_07

And yes...please keep it up...I am still waiting for Massa to say something funny before I graduate from law school in 2010.

See! She thinks youre a man too.

Great idea on finding a cutie in another grad school program. Dont think I could date another law school student.  Imagine what an argument would be like?

I dunno Galt. The man has a point  :D

So did a bunch of people...we had this discussion a while back.  Keep up!

I recall you being on my nuts when I was jokin Dolla bill. sh*t isn't so funny when it's about you huh? Ole disloyal ass heffa...
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 12:07:38 PM
I am enjoying this cause I am bored as hell at work.  Plus, the mere fact that I was all on ya nuts when you was dissin dollar bill should have been an indication that I was female nukka! 


P.S.  I am only loyal to God and the money they put his name on...

The "dawg" throws people off as I have been told its a term usually used by males.  But I can definitely understand the confusion and the need for discussion among a group of law degree-seeking students in reading intensive programs that neglect to take the time to view a profile.

But anyways...I am headed to Dawg Country (UGA) for law school...hence the term...law_dawg_07

And yes...please keep it up...I am still waiting for Massa to say something funny before I graduate from law school in 2010.

See! She thinks youre a man too.

Great idea on finding a cutie in another grad school program. Dont think I could date another law school student.  Imagine what an argument would be like?

I dunno Galt. The man has a point  :D

So did a bunch of people...we had this discussion a while back.  Keep up!

I recall you being on my nuts when I was jokin Dolla bill. sh*t isn't so funny when it's about you huh? Ole disloyal ass heffa...

I know you are female. But i wanted to make a joke. It happens.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: law_dawg_07 on July 05, 2007, 12:10:50 PM
Soooo not offended whatsoever.


I am enjoying this cause I am bored as hell at work.  Plus, the mere fact that I was all on ya nuts when you was dissin dollar bill should have been an indication that I was female nukka! 


P.S.  I am only loyal to God and the money they put his name on...

The "dawg" throws people off as I have been told its a term usually used by males.  But I can definitely understand the confusion and the need for discussion among a group of law degree-seeking students in reading intensive programs that neglect to take the time to view a profile.

But anyways...I am headed to Dawg Country (UGA) for law school...hence the term...law_dawg_07

And yes...please keep it up...I am still waiting for Massa to say something funny before I graduate from law school in 2010.

See! She thinks youre a man too.

Great idea on finding a cutie in another grad school program. Dont think I could date another law school student.  Imagine what an argument would be like?

I dunno Galt. The man has a point  :D

So did a bunch of people...we had this discussion a while back.  Keep up!

I recall you being on my nuts when I was jokin Dolla bill. sh*t isn't so funny when it's about you huh? Ole disloyal ass heffa...

I know you are female. But i wanted to make a joke. It happens.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 12:11:28 PM
If you were, that would have been fine too.  :P
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Lady13 on July 05, 2007, 12:18:45 PM
I'm glad to see this is being discussed. I'm in a serious relationship and once I move to Chicago for ls, we'll be long distance  :(. Just hoping and praying that we'll be okay...

ha. girls get rid of their bfs quick at my school. lol at least the black girls anyway.

Interesting. And what school is that?
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 12:20:04 PM
I'm glad to see this is being discussed. I'm in a serious relationship and once I move to Chicago for ls, we'll be long distance  :(. Just hoping and praying that we'll be okay...

ha. girls get rid of their bfs quick at my school. lol at least the black girls anyway.

Interesting. And what school is that?

harvard. they be lookin' for the upgrade.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: blk_reign on July 05, 2007, 12:21:10 PM
amen.. screw everyone else's thoughts.. if i'm happy...then that's what matters...i don't care who sees me..

LMAO.  this question keeps on being asked every cycle is seems (if u did a search like 10 things will pop up).  The attitude of PLS II is  dating as a release.  I say, date in ur second semester if u must.  1L, 1st semester hell no.  I have a strong no dating policy in my particular ls.  Neighboring schools... fine.  Long distance...fine.  But have to veto the whole dating in your particular school.  Break up, then that's one person that u may think u have to avoid.  Unnecessary potential drama.  Not a good look.   Anything that causes u drama in ls needs to be dropped. 


Dating in your school is a bad look.  Dating in your university is slightly better if it's large.  I did the dating within the university jump-off second semester; again, not a good look.  But dating long distance or someone who ain't at the school is fine.

I humbly disagree.

I do too. I don't see why two adults can't have a romantic relationship just cause they go to school together. Just be grown about it and it's fine.

     Just because folks go to LS does not mean they're grown.  LS is kinda like high school all over again-  only this time we're on our own and drive our own cars. Still wit the lockers and still with petty drama.  "ooooh I saw so and so studying with such and such in the library but then he was studing with someone else on friday"   gettheheckoutta here!  Never thought anyone in LS could be needy.  Surely someone in LS would be self-reliant; self-entertainable. The admissions/LSAT process should surely mellow 'em out. Nope.  Was def proven wrong. 

eh college was like highschool too...if you dealt with ish in college, i'm sure you can deal with it in ls.

ppl should man up and go on about their business.

precisely
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: 2Lacoste on July 05, 2007, 12:26:50 PM
I'm glad to see this is being discussed. I'm in a serious relationship and once I move to Chicago for ls, we'll be long distance  :(. Just hoping and praying that we'll be okay...

ha. girls get rid of their bfs quick at my school. lol at least the black girls anyway.

Interesting. And what school is that?

harvard. they be lookin' for the upgrade.



Not in my class.  Looks like the black women in c/o 2009 have, as a group, tended to stay with their non-law school boyfriends.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Kirk Lazarus on July 05, 2007, 12:27:36 PM
I'm glad to see this is being discussed. I'm in a serious relationship and once I move to Chicago for ls, we'll be long distance  :(. Just hoping and praying that we'll be okay...

ha. girls get rid of their bfs quick at my school. lol at least the black girls anyway.

Interesting. And what school is that?

harvard. they be lookin' for the upgrade.



Not in my class.  Looks like the black women in c/o 2009 have, as a group, tended to stay with their non-law school boyfriends.

same at Yale.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 12:28:22 PM
I'm glad to see this is being discussed. I'm in a serious relationship and once I move to Chicago for ls, we'll be long distance  :(. Just hoping and praying that we'll be okay...

ha. girls get rid of their bfs quick at my school. lol at least the black girls anyway.

Interesting. And what school is that?

harvard. they be lookin' for the upgrade.



Not in my class.  Looks like the black women in c/o 2009 have, as a group, tended to stay with their non-law school boyfriends.

really? for some reason I think the other classes were different.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 05, 2007, 12:33:49 PM
I'm glad to see this is being discussed. I'm in a serious relationship and once I move to Chicago for ls, we'll be long distance  :(. Just hoping and praying that we'll be okay...

ha. girls get rid of their bfs quick at my school. lol at least the black girls anyway.

Interesting. And what school is that?

harvard. they be lookin' for the upgrade.



Not in my class.  Looks like the black women in c/o 2009 have, as a group, tended to stay with their non-law school boyfriends.

same at Yale.

Of the ones I know, though, there wouldn't really be anything to upgrade to.  They're all power couples.  I wonder if there's a differential in the break-up rate between those who are dating others in grad/prof schools and those who are dating people with less educational attainment.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: law_dawg_07 on July 05, 2007, 12:40:48 PM
Checked out my school's BLSA website and definitely saw no upgrade material.  Heck, I didnt even see any "let me play around with this for a minute" material...
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: 2Lacoste on July 05, 2007, 12:41:08 PM
I'm glad to see this is being discussed. I'm in a serious relationship and once I move to Chicago for ls, we'll be long distance  :(. Just hoping and praying that we'll be okay...

ha. girls get rid of their bfs quick at my school. lol at least the black girls anyway.

Interesting. And what school is that?

harvard. they be lookin' for the upgrade.



Not in my class.  Looks like the black women in c/o 2009 have, as a group, tended to stay with their non-law school boyfriends.

really? for some reason I think the other classes were different.


I mean, I know of a couple of couplings in my class.  I don't believe any of the women involved were in relationships prior to their HLS couplings, but I don't know too much about their business.  Even if a bunch of the women left their men upon arrival at HLS, they either haven't been impressed with us or too busy chasing B-School guys to make that fact signficant.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: blk_reign on July 05, 2007, 12:44:11 PM
there probably is.. i can tell you from experience...the person that i dated in the past seemed to be intimidated by the moves that i'm making (or that i was making back then)..that doesn't seem to be a problem with my current relationship as we are both on this "power" track...i guess that makes me wonder... are some men intimidated by women that either A- make more money than they do or B- have more and/or better education?

I'm glad to see this is being discussed. I'm in a serious relationship and once I move to Chicago for ls, we'll be long distance  :(. Just hoping and praying that we'll be okay...

ha. girls get rid of their bfs quick at my school. lol at least the black girls anyway.

Interesting. And what school is that?

harvard. they be lookin' for the upgrade.



Not in my class.  Looks like the black women in c/o 2009 have, as a group, tended to stay with their non-law school boyfriends.

same at Yale.

Of the ones I know, though, there wouldn't really be anything to upgrade to.  They're all power couples.  I wonder if there's a differential in the break-up rate between those who are dating others in grad/prof schools and those who are dating people with less educational attainment.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 12:45:42 PM
yes
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: 2Lacoste on July 05, 2007, 12:47:33 PM
there probably is.. i can tell you from experience...the person that i dated in the past seemed to be intimidated by the moves that i'm making (or that i was making back then)..that doesn't seem to be a problem with my current relationship as we are both on this "power" track...i guess that makes me wonder... are some men intimidated by women that either A- make more money than they do or B- have more and/or better education?

I'm glad to see this is being discussed. I'm in a serious relationship and once I move to Chicago for ls, we'll be long distance  :(. Just hoping and praying that we'll be okay...

ha. girls get rid of their bfs quick at my school. lol at least the black girls anyway.

Interesting. And what school is that?

harvard. they be lookin' for the upgrade.



Not in my class.  Looks like the black women in c/o 2009 have, as a group, tended to stay with their non-law school boyfriends.

same at Yale.

Of the ones I know, though, there wouldn't really be anything to upgrade to.  They're all power couples.  I wonder if there's a differential in the break-up rate between those who are dating others in grad/prof schools and those who are dating people with less educational attainment.


LOL, you sound like a black Harvard woman already.  You'll fit in nicely.

But hey, you may have a point.  Some guys may be intimidated.  Entirely plausible.  Black women at Harvard may also be setting their sights too high and missing out on a lot of good guys (the Daddy's Little Girl problem).
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 05, 2007, 12:49:22 PM
there probably is.. i can tell you from experience...the person that i dated in the past seemed to be intimidated by the moves that i'm making (or that i was making back then)..that doesn't seem to be a problem with my current relationship as we are both on this "power" track...i guess that makes me wonder... are some men intimidated by women that either A- make more money than they do or B- have more and/or better education?

Of course they are.  That's why you should get a dood that either doesn't mind or is also on the power track, like you said.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 12:49:27 PM
The problem isn't having the relationship.  The problem is still attending that same school and moving in the same circles when the relationship ends (even if it ends on "good terms").

I tend to agree.  I'm not saying don't do it, but it can become "sticky" when things end, especially since the black communities at most schools are really small and incestuous anyway.

date white people then.

ETA: I'm incognegro at my school.. so it wouldn't matter. lol

I work with someone who knows you from school.

pm me the name.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 05, 2007, 12:51:23 PM
The problem isn't having the relationship.  The problem is still attending that same school and moving in the same circles when the relationship ends (even if it ends on "good terms").

I tend to agree.  I'm not saying don't do it, but it can become "sticky" when things end, especially since the black communities at most schools are really small and incestuous anyway.

date white people then.

ETA: I'm incognegro at my school.. so it wouldn't matter. lol

I work with someone who knows you from school.

PM me what s/he said.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 12:53:05 PM
lol stalker alci
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: 2Lacoste on July 05, 2007, 12:53:27 PM
there probably is.. i can tell you from experience...the person that i dated in the past seemed to be intimidated by the moves that i'm making (or that i was making back then)..that doesn't seem to be a problem with my current relationship as we are both on this "power" track...i guess that makes me wonder... are some men intimidated by women that either A- make more money than they do or B- have more and/or better education?

I'm glad to see this is being discussed. I'm in a serious relationship and once I move to Chicago for ls, we'll be long distance  :(. Just hoping and praying that we'll be okay...

ha. girls get rid of their bfs quick at my school. lol at least the black girls anyway.

Interesting. And what school is that?

harvard. they be lookin' for the upgrade.



Not in my class.  Looks like the black women in c/o 2009 have, as a group, tended to stay with their non-law school boyfriends.

same at Yale.

Of the ones I know, though, there wouldn't really be anything to upgrade to.  They're all power couples.  I wonder if there's a differential in the break-up rate between those who are dating others in grad/prof schools and those who are dating people with less educational attainment.


LOL, you sound like a black Harvard woman already.  You'll fit in nicely.

But hey, you may have a point.  Some guys may be intimidated.  Entirely plausible.  Black women at Harvard may also be setting their sights too high and missing out on a lot of good guys (the Daddy's Little Girl problem).

the same CERTAINLY AS I CAN PERSONALLY ATTEST goes for black men!

tmi?


Us setting out sights too high, you mean?  Yeah, I can definitely see it but I think it a lot rarer an occurrence.  Looking at the HLS Black males I know, the few that are actively dating are not nearly as credential-driven as the Black women I know.  We'll pursue a beautiful girl with no degree whatsoever (not saying we'll wife her, or even date her...but we'll pursue)...
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: blk_reign on July 05, 2007, 12:56:59 PM


I don't think it's a matter of setting entirely too high or unattainable standards though... I haven't seen Daddy's Little Girls but I know the premise surrounding it.. people are going to like what they like regardless you know?

I've never been the type of woman to have this idea of - well if I'm doing this- then he must do that... however I want my man/future husband to have aspirations for himself that he plans to accomplish...I don't want him to be comfortable with being mediocre esp knowing his potential...the last thing that I desire is a carbon copy of myself.. but the principles and ethics must be the same..

at the same time I feel that as women who are attaining advanced degrees... in a lot of cases- within our generation...(whether a man without those degrees comes off as the type of person who isn't affected by your success in the beginning or not).. at some point and time it will become an issue... and I feel that it's a pride thing on the man's part personally...

don't get me wrong.. I acknowledge the fact that there are some women that are educated or financially successful that are almost impossible to deal with.. but there are some of us that are not that are merely seeking the same thing that we bring to the table from our SO...
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 05, 2007, 12:58:39 PM
The problem isn't having the relationship.  The problem is still attending that same school and moving in the same circles when the relationship ends (even if it ends on "good terms").

I tend to agree.  I'm not saying don't do it, but it can become "sticky" when things end, especially since the black communities at most schools are really small and incestuous anyway.

date white people then.

ETA: I'm incognegro at my school.. so it wouldn't matter. lol

I work with someone who knows you from school.

PM me what s/he said.

lmao there was nothing said. we were talking about an HLS professor gossip story and I was trying to remember who told me; was verbally going through the names of potential sharers and (s)he was like, "You know [Opto]?" He was in my section!

Lol that's funny.  Although that does seem to be the only way Harvardlings know each other.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Nemesis on July 05, 2007, 01:03:28 PM
there probably is.. i can tell you from experience...the person that i dated in the past seemed to be intimidated by the moves that i'm making (or that i was making back then)..that doesn't seem to be a problem with my current relationship as we are both on this "power" track...i guess that makes me wonder... are some men intimidated by women that either A- make more money than they do or B- have more and/or better education?

Guys have always found me intimidating so I'm sure law school didn't help that at all. I just go after what I want.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 05, 2007, 01:15:10 PM
Guys have always found me intimidating

This must've been back during your smoking days.  There's a whole other you that I don't know! :-\
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: blk_reign on July 05, 2007, 01:16:39 PM
undergrad was real interesting.. u two were blessed to find one another... i used to always get the "u're the wife type not the one to date"...plenty of single days in DC in ug



Guys have always found me intimidating so I'm sure law school didn't help that at all. I just go after what I want.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Nemesis on July 05, 2007, 01:23:42 PM
This must've been back during your smoking days.  There's a whole other you that I don't know! :-\

Nope. It still happens. I have no idea why. I've never had a boyfriend that I didn't approach first. I get random "secret admirer" emails because guys felt they couldn't approach me  ??? Very weird indeed. Personally, I think I'm a very approachable person. Oh well.

undergrad was real interesting.. u two were blessed to find one another... i used to always get the "u're the wife type not the one to date"...plenty of single days in DC in ug

You're right, I think we were really lucky. I've had to see my sister and girlfriends deal with some real jerks  ::)
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 05, 2007, 01:26:31 PM
I get random "secret admirer" emails because guys felt they couldn't approach me 

Lol you still get them??  Uh-oh, Galt!

The g/f gets them too.  I find them amusing.  She won't let me write back though :(.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Nemesis on July 05, 2007, 01:30:25 PM
Lol you still get them??  Uh-oh, Galt!

The g/f gets them too.  I find them amusing.  She won't let me write back though :(.

That was about a year ago. At first I thought it was Galt messing around. I don't think he cares. I bet he gets a couple that I don't know about!
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 01:49:04 PM
You're right, I think we were really lucky. I've had to see my sister and girlfriends deal with some real jerks  ::)

guys like me huh?  ;)
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Nemesis on July 05, 2007, 01:52:11 PM
guys like me huh?  ;)

No, you're just a dork.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 01:53:19 PM
guys like me huh?  ;)

No, you're just a dork.

I'm bad. I'm a bad boy. And a heartbreaker.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 05, 2007, 01:55:37 PM
guys like me huh?  ;)

No, you're just a dork.

Having observed the SOs of many of my classmates and coworkers, I've come to the conclusion that lots of attractive women seem to like dorks.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 01:59:19 PM
 :D
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 05, 2007, 02:01:09 PM
guys like me huh?  ;)

No, you're just a dork.

Having observed the SOs of many of my classmates and coworkers, I've come to the conclusion that lots of attractive women seem to like dorks.

They just want them for their money. The dorky women like me are left with no one. Stick to your own kind!!!

Lol :D. 

But that doesn't explain the students.  Why date them when you could get someone who already has money?  I think there's some real attraction going on.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 02:02:20 PM
guys like me huh?  ;)

No, you're just a dork.

Having observed the SOs of many of my classmates and coworkers, I've come to the conclusion that lots of attractive women seem to like dorks.

They just want them for their money. The dorky women like me are left with no one. Stick to your own kind!!!

Lol :D. 

But that doesn't explain the students.  Why date them when you could get someone who already has money?  I think there's some real attraction going on.

Yes. Cute girls like dorks. Esp those comfortable in their own skin. It's great. yada yada yada. You figured it out. Get lost.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Kirk Lazarus on July 05, 2007, 02:03:23 PM
Dorks are more likey to be rich AND powerful. Specially dorky cats in law school.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Nemesis on July 05, 2007, 02:04:41 PM
I'm the dork that landed to the "popular" guy. Sweet!

But dorks are awesome. They tend to have great personalities. I'm not sure what happened with Opoto.

*He's just straight (http://www.thescoopydoop.com/pictures/Yound%20Steve%20Urkel.jpg)
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 02:05:41 PM
I'm the dork that landed to the "popular" guy. Sweet!

But dorks are awesome. They tend to have great personalities. I'm not sure what happened with Opoto.

He just straight (http://www.thescoopydoop.com/pictures/Yound%20Steve%20Urkel.jpg)

rofl. I have a great personality too!
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 05, 2007, 02:06:15 PM
guys like me huh?  ;)

No, you're just a dork.

Having observed the SOs of many of my classmates and coworkers, I've come to the conclusion that lots of attractive women seem to like dorks.

They just want them for their money. The dorky women like me are left with no one. Stick to your own kind!!!

Lol :D. 

But that doesn't explain the students.  Why date them when you could get someone who already has money?  I think there's some real attraction going on.

Yes. Cute girls like dorks. Esp those comfortable in their own skin. It's great. yada yada yada. You figured it out. Get lost.

Who has to be comfortable in their own skin?

Dood, I got it.  We should both be columnists at competing newspapers.  Then we can become pundits on CNN.  Excellent.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Kirk Lazarus on July 05, 2007, 02:08:57 PM
I get random "secret admirer" emails because guys felt they couldn't approach me 

Lol you still get them??  Uh-oh, Galt!

The g/f gets them too.  I find them amusing.  She won't let me write back though :(.

Man, i'm not even stressing. Think about how rare we are, #1. Ultra educated, focused, savvy, morally grounded, funny, socially adept, Black, male. All those qualities in one package and we have to worry about Mr. Magoo sending anonymous messages?...never that.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 05, 2007, 02:10:18 PM
I'm the dork that landed to the "popular" guy. Sweet!

I was popular in my own circle 8)
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 02:11:00 PM
guys like me huh?  ;)

No, you're just a dork.

Having observed the SOs of many of my classmates and coworkers, I've come to the conclusion that lots of attractive women seem to like dorks.

They just want them for their money. The dorky women like me are left with no one. Stick to your own kind!!!

Lol :D. 

But that doesn't explain the students.  Why date them when you could get someone who already has money?  I think there's some real attraction going on.

Yes. Cute girls like dorks. Esp those comfortable in their own skin. It's great. yada yada yada. You figured it out. Get lost.

Who has to be comfortable in their own skin?

Dood, I got it.  We should both be columnists at competing newspapers.  Then we can become pundits on CNN.  Excellent.

the dork as to be comfortable. Ain't nobody tryin to be on TV with your ass. Wayne Brady v  Bernie Mac. We'd know which one they'd love.  ::)  :P
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 02:11:27 PM
I get random "secret admirer" emails because guys felt they couldn't approach me 

Lol you still get them??  Uh-oh, Galt!

The g/f gets them too.  I find them amusing.  She won't let me write back though :(.

Man, i'm not even stressing. Think about how rare we are, #1. Ultra educated, focused, savvy, morally grounded, funny, socially adept, Black, male. All those qualities in one package and we have to worry about Mr. Magoo sending anonymous messages?...never that.

ROFL!
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 02:11:53 PM
I get random "secret admirer" emails because guys felt they couldn't approach me 

Lol you still get them??  Uh-oh, Galt!

The g/f gets them too.  I find them amusing.  She won't let me write back though :(.

Man, i'm not even stressing. Think about how rare we are, #1. Ultra educated, focused, savvy, morally grounded, funny, socially adept, Black, male. All those qualities in one package and we have to worry about Mr. Magoo sending anonymous messages?...never that.

LMAO. This is why I can't be talking to Negroes. Get a little edumacation and...

hahahaha
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 05, 2007, 02:12:18 PM
I get random "secret admirer" emails because guys felt they couldn't approach me 

Lol you still get them??  Uh-oh, Galt!

The g/f gets them too.  I find them amusing.  She won't let me write back though :(.

Man, i'm not even stressing. Think about how rare we are, #1. Ultra educated, focused, savvy, morally grounded, funny, socially adept, Black, male. All those qualities in one package and we have to worry about Mr. Magoo sending anonymous messages?...never that.

That's exactly what I say!  Then the g/f will say something like "you must not value me," so I pretend to be jealous every now and then.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Nemesis on July 05, 2007, 02:12:35 PM
Man, i'm not even stressing. Think about how rare we are, #1. Ultra educated, focused, savvy, morally grounded, funny, socially adept, Black, male. All those qualities in one package and we have to worry about Mr. Magoo sending anonymous messages?...never that.

 ::)

The arrogance! I'm glad I have witnesses!
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: 2Lacoste on July 05, 2007, 02:15:40 PM
Yeah, it's easy to be confident and secure when Regular Joes are trying to get at your girl.  Like SRSLY?  My face is on buses, Negro.

The problem develops where the girl, like mine, "knows everyone" and travels in more exclusive circles (from the modelling days).  So in addition to Regular Joes, I have to worry about lawyers, club owners, businessmen, and other millionaires trying to holler.

Mreh, don't bother me though.  I got girls, girls, girls, girls -- girls I do adore...
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 02:16:14 PM
Man, i'm not even stressing. Think about how rare we are, #1. Ultra educated, focused, savvy, morally grounded, funny, socially adept, Black, male. All those qualities in one package and we have to worry about Mr. Magoo sending anonymous messages?...never that.

 ::)

The arrogance! I'm glad I have witnesses!

hahahaha lol. I'd never say somethin' like that (pre-empt a joke "cause it's not true") but it's definitely true for you guys so I can understand the sentiment.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Nemesis on July 05, 2007, 02:32:57 PM
Yeah, it's easy to be confident and secure when Regular Joes are trying to get at your girl.  Like SRSLY?  My face is on buses, Negro.

The problem develops where the girl, like mine, "knows everyone" and travels in more exclusive circles (from the modelling days).  So in addition to Regular Joes, I have to worry about lawyers, club owners, businessmen, and other millionaires trying to holler.

Mreh, don't bother me though.  I got girls, girls, girls, girls -- girls I do adore...

I just threw up in my mouth a little...
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Funia on July 05, 2007, 02:36:45 PM
Yeah, it's easy to be confident and secure when Regular Joes are trying to get at your girl.  Like SRSLY?  My face is on buses, Negro.

The problem develops where the girl, like mine, "knows everyone" and travels in more exclusive circles (from the modelling days).  So in addition to Regular Joes, I have to worry about lawyers, club owners, businessmen, and other millionaires trying to holler.

Mreh, don't bother me though.  I got girls, girls, girls, girls -- girls I do adore...

I just threw up in my mouth a little...

 :D gross.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Burning Sands, Esq. on July 05, 2007, 03:04:07 PM
Well ever since I can remember I been poppin my collar...poppin poppin my collar...poppin poppin my collar....



Carry on, Gentlemen.


Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Burning Sands, Esq. on July 05, 2007, 03:05:14 PM
Oh and for the record...stay out of relationships during 1L.  Do whatcha like during the other 2 years.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: justGem on July 05, 2007, 03:32:28 PM
Oh and for the record...stay out of relationships during 1L.  Do whatcha like during the other 2 years.

Advising from experience? 

I think its doable.  LS is not the paramount priority (first semester 1L included) in every student's life. Regardless of how it affects performance, some go in knowing that a job, children, certain relationships will be more important.  Under these circumstances so still manage to have the focus to do well. IMO, it just takes the maturity to have balance amongst priorities. If one is in a serious relationship that has post-ls and long-term potential, why let it go?
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Funia on July 05, 2007, 04:12:30 PM
Oh and for the record...stay out of relationships during 1L.  Do whatcha like during the other 2 years.

Gosh. I'm going to have to break a lot of hearts during 1L.  :-\
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: law_dawg_07 on July 05, 2007, 04:18:10 PM
<----Loves the fact that my b/f reminds me daily that I am disposable (in other words, he knows he has a lot to offer!)  Keeps a sista in check and up on her game...
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Stand under my Umbrella ella ella, aye!! on July 05, 2007, 04:29:11 PM
I get random "secret admirer" emails because guys felt they couldn't approach me 

Lol you still get them??  Uh-oh, Galt!

The g/f gets them too.  I find them amusing.  She won't let me write back though :(.

Man, i'm not even stressing. Think about how rare we are, #1. Ultra educated, focused, savvy, morally grounded, funny, socially adept, Black, male. All those qualities in one package and we have to worry about Mr. Magoo sending anonymous messages?...never that.

That's exactly what I say!  Then the g/f will say something like "you must not value me," so I pretend to be jealous every now and then.

I thought I was the only one who did that.  hahaha.   

Oh and I wouldn't date people in my law school.  It may not even be that one of you are immature (probably one of you are though) it could just be that you guys have mutual friends.  then the friends take sides and you dont know whats being said (if the gf told everyone about your bondage fetish  ;)), if anything is being said at all.  It can get sticky and is just a hassle for such an important time period.  Of course if you all are already together thats one thing.  I'd be wary of forging brand new romantic relationships though.  its not just the other.  This movie called The Break Up, with Jennifer Anniston, was a pretty good example of how SO tend to tangle themselves up in your life and make things hard once separated.  not worth it in law school for me.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Special Agent Dana Scully on July 05, 2007, 05:42:09 PM
there probably is.. i can tell you from experience...the person that i dated in the past seemed to be intimidated by the moves that i'm making (or that i was making back then)..that doesn't seem to be a problem with my current relationship as we are both on this "power" track...i guess that makes me wonder... are some men intimidated by women that either A- make more money than they do or B- have more and/or better education?

I'm glad to see this is being discussed. I'm in a serious relationship and once I move to Chicago for ls, we'll be long distance  :(. Just hoping and praying that we'll be okay...

ha. girls get rid of their bfs quick at my school. lol at least the black girls anyway.

Interesting. And what school is that?

harvard. they be lookin' for the upgrade.



Not in my class.  Looks like the black women in c/o 2009 have, as a group, tended to stay with their non-law school boyfriends.

same at Yale.

Of the ones I know, though, there wouldn't really be anything to upgrade to.  They're all power couples.  I wonder if there's a differential in the break-up rate between those who are dating others in grad/prof schools and those who are dating people with less educational attainment.


LOL, you sound like a black Harvard woman already.  You'll fit in nicely.

But hey, you may have a point.  Some guys may be intimidated.  Entirely plausible.  Black women at Harvard may also be setting their sights too high and missing out on a lot of good guys (the Daddy's Little Girl problem).

the same CERTAINLY AS I CAN PERSONALLY ATTEST goes for black men!

tmi?


Us setting out sights too high, you mean?  Yeah, I can definitely see it but I think it a lot rarer an occurrence.  Looking at the HLS Black males I know, the few that are actively dating are not nearly as credential-driven as the Black women I know.  We'll pursue a beautiful girl with no degree whatsoever (not saying we'll wife her, or even date her...but we'll pursue)...

but women tend to marry up...lots of guys don't care if shorty is as dumb as rocks as long as she's cute.

Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Special Agent Dana Scully on July 05, 2007, 05:43:22 PM


I don't think it's a matter of setting entirely too high or unattainable standards though... I haven't seen Daddy's Little Girls but I know the premise surrounding it.. people are going to like what they like regardless you know?

I've never been the type of woman to have this idea of - well if I'm doing this- then he must do that... however I want my man/future husband to have aspirations for himself that he plans to accomplish...I don't want him to be comfortable with being mediocre esp knowing his potential...the last thing that I desire is a carbon copy of myself.. but the principles and ethics must be the same..

at the same time I feel that as women who are attaining advanced degrees... in a lot of cases- within our generation...(whether a man without those degrees comes off as the type of person who isn't affected by your success in the beginning or not).. at some point and time it will become an issue... and I feel that it's a pride thing on the man's part personally...

don't get me wrong.. I acknowledge the fact that there are some women that are educated or financially successful that are almost impossible to deal with.. but there are some of us that are not that are merely seeking the same thing that we bring to the table from our SO...

agreed
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 05:43:48 PM


but women tend to marry up...lots of guys don't care if shorty is as dumb as rocks as long as she's cute.



that's how women marry up...
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Special Agent Dana Scully on July 05, 2007, 05:46:50 PM


but women tend to marry up...lots of guys don't care if shorty is as dumb as rocks as long as she's cute.



that's how women marry up...

but u see my point tho?  credentialed women tend to want credentialed men...credentialed men tend not to really care about that.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: blk_reign on July 05, 2007, 06:04:28 PM
it's doable... you know your priorities and you have a solid fam...i can't even imagine things going bad in your case..i think that you will thrive with your current situation.. it'll help keep you grounded when other things around u will not...

Oh and for the record...stay out of relationships during 1L.  Do whatcha like during the other 2 years.

Advising from experience? 

I think its doable.  LS is not the paramount priority (first semester 1L included) in every student's life. Regardless of how it affects performance, some go in knowing that a job, children, certain relationships will be more important.  Under these circumstances so still manage to have the focus to do well. IMO, it just takes the maturity to have balance amongst priorities. If one is in a serious relationship that has post-ls and long-term potential, why let it go?
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: blk_reign on July 05, 2007, 06:10:57 PM
i know what u're saying.. in a way we women would feel as if we're settling..whether that mentality is right or  wrong doesn't really matter.. but i look at it this way.. if i have 3 degrees and i'm getting ready to get a 4th..expecting my future husband to at the very least have a master's degree or (rather) be on his *&^%..isn't too much to ask for..

opoto calls it bougie.. well that's all fine and well but at the end of the day i really don't want to marry the garbage man with a high school education who will in all probability later have an attitude or take issue with the fact that my earning potential is greater than his...

at the end of the day we ALL have the opportunity to achieve whatever we desire.. it is up to us to make it happen..bottom line for me is that the only male that i will raise is my son (if i have one).. i'm not down with that "teach me" ish that musiq is talkin bout :D




but women tend to marry up...lots of guys don't care if shorty is as dumb as rocks as long as she's cute.



that's how women marry up...

but u see my point tho?  credentialed women tend to want credentialed men...credentialed men tend not to really care about that.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: jarhead on July 05, 2007, 06:16:17 PM
very interesting conversation and i totally understand what the ladies are saying. i've been accused of being bougie because i refuse to go out with the chick speaking broken english and working at walmart,blockbuster, etc. at 35. who wants to plug into a weaker battery all they're going to do is drain your power...eventually.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: naturallybeyoutiful on July 05, 2007, 06:16:56 PM
...bottom line for me is that the only male that i will raise is my son (if i have one).. i'm not down with that "teach me" ish that musiq is talkin bout :D

::waving a hand in the air:: Amen!!!!
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Funia on July 05, 2007, 06:19:19 PM
True. True.

This weekend (during down time at a church retreat) a lady from my churched was inquiring about my marriage potential. I simply said in some areas my standards are uncompromisingly high. She said, "well, you're going to have to change that, you need to stay on the lookout for a man with a job even if he has kids." I said, "I don't want a man with kids." She said, "well then you're going to end up alone, then." 

She had the nerve to give me this lecture with her sons well-known jumpoff in the room. This man has 3-4 kids, lives with his baby momma and has a girl on the side and his mother is lecturing me on what I need to settle for. Thanks lady, I'll pass. I'd rather be alone then end up with someone like her son.

I'm 24. I'm not looking for a husband. Dammit. I'm not even looking for a commitment of any kind. Yet, I am already getting the "settle" speech. I say all this to point out that what some black mothers teach their daughters differs greatly from what they teach their sons. If I was a guy in a masters program hoping to go on and get my JD, her behind would not be telling me to settle for one of these women out here with kids.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Special Agent Dana Scully on July 05, 2007, 06:20:56 PM
i know what u're saying.. in a way we women would feel as if we're settling..whether that mentality is right or  wrong doesn't really matter.. but i look at it this way.. if i have 3 degrees and i'm getting ready to get a 4th..expecting my future husband to at the very least have a master's degree or (rather) be on his *&^%..isn't too much to ask for..

opoto calls it bougie.. well that's all fine and well but at the end of the day i really don't want to marry the garbage man with a high school education who will in all probability later have an attitude or take issue with the fact that my earning potential is greater than his...

at the end of the day we ALL have the opportunity to achieve whatever we desire.. it is up to us to make it happen..bottom line for me is that the only male that i will raise is my son (if i have one).. i'm not down with that "teach me" ish that musiq is talkin bout :D




but women tend to marry up...lots of guys don't care if shorty is as dumb as rocks as long as she's cute.



that's how women marry up...

but u see my point tho?  credentialed women tend to want credentialed men...credentialed men tend not to really care about that.

x____Jem______

yea man, homie had to AT LEAST have gone to college....I'm not dealing with some dudes insecurities about my earning potential and i'm not about to make some man feel good by dumbing myself down.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Stand under my Umbrella ella ella, aye!! on July 05, 2007, 06:22:42 PM


but women tend to marry up...lots of guys don't care if shorty is as dumb as rocks as long as she's cute.



that's how women marry up...

but u see my point tho?  credentialed women tend to want credentialed men...credentialed men tend not to really care about that.

I care.  I just dont want a particularly (similarly) credentialed woman.  

 
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: jarhead on July 05, 2007, 06:24:16 PM
i'm not down with that "teach me" ish that musiq is talkin bout

 ;D

i missed this before me and my boys were just talking about this the other day like what is dude talking about. what kind of rap is that??...a grown as- man talking about teach me how to love..dude shoulda let chris brown or bow wow or somebody have that song
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Funia on July 05, 2007, 06:25:27 PM
I love that musiq song, though. I understand where ya'll are coming from.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 06:28:34 PM
bougie ass heffas.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Special Agent Dana Scully on July 05, 2007, 06:31:06 PM
bougie ass heffas.

wtfever negro...we had this convo b4 and u told me u wouldn't marry some1 that didn't go to college
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Funia on July 05, 2007, 06:31:43 PM
bougie ass heffas.

wtfever negro...we had this convo b4 and u told me u wouldn't marry some1 that didn't go to college

 :D Busted.

If I had to choose between being bougie or ghetto, I'd choose bougie a million times over.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: pikey on July 05, 2007, 06:33:58 PM
My minimum requirements are a bachelor's degree and some ambition.  I tend to think post-grad degrees are little overrated anyway.  :P
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: jarhead on July 05, 2007, 06:37:25 PM
whats the deal with the whole bougie ghetto thing, not getting all deep i know for the most part it's funny but some "people" will call you bougie in a minute for behaving like you were raised with some good g-damned sense? those are the broads i hate extremely dislike
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Stand under my Umbrella ella ella, aye!! on July 05, 2007, 06:38:45 PM
bougie ass heffas.

ahaha.  I'm not mad, though.  Daddys Little Girls is some BS.  I know a T20 grad, black female working in BIGLAW about to marry a bro with 4 kids and a felony he served time for.  That *&^% is ridiculous.  really pretty woman, too.  When I heard I wanted to propose .  I was like damn its like that where do I sign up?  But apparently they're really in love.  Still.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: blk_reign on July 05, 2007, 06:39:29 PM
 :D pretty much.."no one ever showed me" whatever.. grown men and women shouldn't have to be taught by other grown men and women how to express their emotions..if they can't articulate what they're feeling after a certain amount of time.. as Jem says..

DEUCES..

i'm not down with that "teach me" ish that musiq is talkin bout

 ;D

i missed this before me and my boys were just talking about this the other day like what is dude talking about. what kind of rap is that??...a grown as- man talking about teach me how to love..dude shoulda let chris brown or bow wow or somebody have that song
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Funia on July 05, 2007, 06:40:10 PM
bougie ass heffas.

ahaha.  I'm not mad, though.  Daddys Little Girls is some BS.  I know a T20 grad, black female working in BIGLAW about to marry a bro with 4 kids and a felony he served time for.  That sh*t is ridiculous.  really pretty woman, too.  When I heard I wanted to propose .  I was like damn its like that where do I sign up?  But apparently they're really in love.  Still.

roll the credits...  :D
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: jarhead on July 05, 2007, 06:40:40 PM
My minimum requirements are a bachelor's degree and some ambition.  


that's what i'm saying i don't think it's too much to ask for...and not be crazy...and not think because you have a degree your ish don't stink...and not get all brand new overnight and start frontin' like you were born with a silver spoon in your mouth...that's not too much to ask for right
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 06:42:48 PM
bougie ass heffas.

wtfever negro...we had this convo b4 and u told me u wouldn't marry some1 that didn't go to college

no i didnt. So I repeat:

bougie ass heffas
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 06:43:25 PM
bougie ass heffas.

wtfever negro...we had this convo b4 and u told me u wouldn't marry some1 that didn't go to college

 :D Busted.

If I had to choose between being bougie or ghetto. I'd choose bougie a million times over.

I'd choose ghetto. I'm hood tho.  :D
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: blk_reign on July 05, 2007, 06:44:30 PM
ok cool..i saw a pretty young woman out @ the shelter the other day..next time i drive past there i'll give her your #...since u know..it doesn't matter... :D

bougie ass heffas.

wtfever negro...we had this convo b4 and u told me u wouldn't marry some1 that didn't go to college

no i didnt. So I repeat:

bougie ass heffas
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Funia on July 05, 2007, 06:45:34 PM
bougie ass heffas.

wtfever negro...we had this convo b4 and u told me u wouldn't marry some1 that didn't go to college

 :D Busted.

If I had to choose between being bougie or ghetto. I'd choose bougie a million times over.

I'd choose ghetto. I'm hood tho.  :D

The kind of man that shows off his bullet holes and stab wounds on the first date.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: blk_reign on July 05, 2007, 06:47:19 PM
yeah we picked up on that from those hoodies u liked the other day lol

bougie ass heffas.

wtfever negro...we had this convo b4 and u told me u wouldn't marry some1 that didn't go to college

 :D Busted.

If I had to choose between being bougie or ghetto. I'd choose bougie a million times over.

I'd choose ghetto. I'm hood tho.  :D
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: naturallybeyoutiful on July 05, 2007, 06:48:14 PM
This weekend (during down time at a church retreat) a lady from my churched was inquiring about my marriage potential. I simply said in some areas my standards are uncompromisingly high. She said, "well, you're going to have to change that, you need to stay on the lookout for a man with a job even if he has kids." I said, "I don't want a man with kids." She said, "well then you're going to end up alone, then." 

:o

It might be cliche, but it's true: When you settle for less than you deserve, you will end up with less than you settled for.  I'm a little confused why she is trying to push some sorry dude, her son or otherwise, off on a woman with ambition, self-respect, and enough knowledge about and love for herself to know what she wants out of life.  Sounds like your church needs to do a love/dating/marriage seminar and school some people on one of life's most important relationships!
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: law_dawg_07 on July 05, 2007, 06:49:23 PM
I think being called bougie is a compliment.  Speaks to how you carry yourself, how you interact, and the choices you make...

whats the deal with the whole bougie ghetto thing, not getting all deep i know for the most part it's funny but some "people" will call you bougie in a minute for behaving like you were raised with some good g-damned sense? those are the broads i hate extremely dislike
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Special Agent Dana Scully on July 05, 2007, 06:49:48 PM
bougie ass heffas.

wtfever negro...we had this convo b4 and u told me u wouldn't marry some1 that didn't go to college

no i didnt. So I repeat:

bougie ass heffas

convo log...i should look for that *&^%
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: blk_reign on July 05, 2007, 06:50:02 PM
u know why.. she realizes she screwed his life up and wants a strong woman to fix him...

This weekend (during down time at a church retreat) a lady from my churched was inquiring about my marriage potential. I simply said in some areas my standards are uncompromisingly high. She said, "well, you're going to have to change that, you need to stay on the lookout for a man with a job even if he has kids." I said, "I don't want a man with kids." She said, "well then you're going to end up alone, then." 

:o

It might be cliche, but it's true: When you settle for less than you deserve, you will end up with less than you settled for.  I'm a little confused why she is trying to push some sorry dude, her son or otherwise, off on a woman with ambition, self-respect, and enough knowledge about and love for herself to know what she wants out of life.  Sounds like your church needs to do a love/dating/marriage seminar and school some people on one of life's most important relationships!
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: naturallybeyoutiful on July 05, 2007, 06:51:29 PM
u know why.. she realizes she screwed his life up and wants a strong woman to fix him...

A failure on her part does not constitute an emergency on Funia's (or any other woman's) though...  :-\
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: blk_reign on July 05, 2007, 06:54:13 PM
of course not..this is what happens when the mother's from our parents generation coddle their sons..it's an unfortunate chain of events...

u know why.. she realizes she screwed his life up and wants a strong woman to fix him...

A failure on her part does not constitute an emergency on Funia's (or any other woman's) though...  :-\
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Stand under my Umbrella ella ella, aye!! on July 05, 2007, 06:55:22 PM
My minimum requirements are a bachelor's degree and some ambition.  I tend to think post-grad degrees are little overrated anyway.  :P

is credited.  I might trade the bachelors for a woman with an entrepeneurial spirit ..Ambition with the raw tools to fulfill at least some of it is good enough for me.  
u know why.. she realizes she screwed his life up and wants a strong woman to fix him...

This weekend (during down time at a church retreat) a lady from my churched was inquiring about my marriage potential. I simply said in some areas my standards are uncompromisingly high. She said, "well, you're going to have to change that, you need to stay on the lookout for a man with a job even if he has kids." I said, "I don't want a man with kids." She said, "well then you're going to end up alone, then." 

:o

It might be cliche, but it's true: When you settle for less than you deserve, you will end up with less than you settled for.  I'm a little confused why she is trying to push some sorry dude, her son or otherwise, off on a woman with ambition, self-respect, and enough knowledge about and love for herself to know what she wants out of life.  Sounds like your church needs to do a love/dating/marriage seminar and school some people on one of life's most important relationships!

cliche?  I never heard it.  But damn if it doesnt reek of truth
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: jarhead on July 05, 2007, 06:56:06 PM
I think being called bougie is a compliment.  Speaks to how you carry yourself, how you interact, and the choices you make...

whats the deal with the whole bougie ghetto thing, not getting all deep i know for the most part it's funny but some "people" will call you bougie in a minute for behaving like you were raised with some good g-damned sense? those are the broads i hate extremely dislike


that was kind of my point. how you carry yourself and all that is what i said, behaving like you were raised well. some of our less "sophisticated" brethern automatically equate this to being bougie. bougie imo is too often confused with having class. when i call someone bougie i mean that someone is so faking it. remember regine from living single? how she was from the same neighborhood as everyone else but acted all snooty, when i hear bougie that's what i think of.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: jarhead on July 05, 2007, 06:59:00 PM
u know why.. she realizes she screwed his life up and wants a strong woman to fix him...

A failure on her part does not constitute an emergency on Funia's (or any other woman's) though...  :-\


man please you know how old school rolls, if you're over 20 and not married you need to figure four leg lock the first man you see...good luck with pinning down all the kids and baby mama's,..and back child support (whitney)  :)
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: pikey on July 05, 2007, 07:01:37 PM
of course not..this is what happens when the mother's from our parents generation coddle their sons..it's an unfortunate chain of events...

u know why.. she realizes she screwed his life up and wants a strong woman to fix him...

A failure on her part does not constitute an emergency on Funia's (or any other woman's) though...  :-\

This is sooooooo true.  I see too many young men who can't do a damn thing for themselves and expect the world to be handed to them on a silver platter because of their parents spoiling them rotten.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 07:09:12 PM
you could replace women with men and it would still be true.  y'all be on that bull at nights it seems. think you can get away with that crap at night. nah son. I'm here to regulate.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Special Agent Dana Scully on July 05, 2007, 07:09:53 PM
you could replace women with men and it would still be true.  y'all be on that bull at nights it seems. think you can get away with that crap at night. nah son. I'm here to regulate.

 ???

the @#!* you talking about?
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: blk_reign on July 05, 2007, 07:11:04 PM
he doesn't know..he's lonely so he's trying to start some ish lol...

you could replace women with men and it would still be true.  y'all be on that bull at nights it seems. think you can get away with that crap at night. nah son. I'm here to regulate.

 ???

the @#!* you talking about?
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Funia on July 05, 2007, 07:13:03 PM
he doesn't know..he's lonely so he's trying to start some ish lol...

you could replace women with men and it would still be true.  y'all be on that bull at nights it seems. think you can get away with that crap at night. nah son. I'm here to regulate.

 ???

the @#!* you talking about?

He's looking for that coddling Reign was referring too.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: law_dawg_07 on July 05, 2007, 07:15:56 PM
Cant understand why people always tell black women to lower their standards so they can find a "suitable" mate.  Your standards are your standards and I am not sure when it became our responsiblity to bring a brother from point E to Z.  I mean I dont have a problem helping him get from V to Z if he had some issues in the past or currently dealing with but when did black women become Captain Save A Negro?
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: jarhead on July 05, 2007, 07:18:06 PM
Cant understand why people always tell black women to lower their standards so they can find a "suitable" mate.  Your standards are your standards and I am not sure when it became our responsiblity to bring a brother from point E to Z.  I mean I dont have a problem helping him get from V to Z if he had some issues in the past or currently dealing with but when did black women become Captain Save A Negro?


you should be happy to have a man
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Funia on July 05, 2007, 07:18:51 PM
Cant understand why people always tell black women to lower their standards so they can find a "suitable" mate.  Your standards are your standards and I am not sure when it became our responsiblity to bring a brother from point E to Z.  I mean I dont have a problem helping him get from V to Z if he had some issues in the past or currently dealing with but when did black women become Captain Save A Negro?

lol...

I always say, I don't play flip-this-man (like Flip this House). I don't rebuild, remodel, redo or foot the bill for the process. I need a ready made man or a steady getting there type of dude. I don't do fixer uppers.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Stand under my Umbrella ella ella, aye!! on July 05, 2007, 07:19:48 PM
Cant understand why people always tell black women to lower their standards so they can find a "suitable" mate.  Your standards are your standards and I am not sure when it became our responsiblity to bring a brother from point E to Z.  I mean I dont have a problem helping him get from V to Z if he had some issues in the past or currently dealing with but when did black women become Captain Save A Negro?

ahahaha.  women are always saving men - from themselves, each other...Been like that forever and a day.  why are our black women forsaking us?
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 05, 2007, 07:29:12 PM
I think this is about the time that someone raises the problem of the "shortage" of black men and we devolve into a collective woe is me.  So yeah: shortage of black men, high standards, go!
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Burning Sands, Esq. on July 05, 2007, 07:30:58 PM
Oh and for the record...stay out of relationships during 1L.  Do whatcha like during the other 2 years.

Advising from experience? 

I think its doable.  LS is not the paramount priority (first semester 1L included) in every student's life. Regardless of how it affects performance, some go in knowing that a job, children, certain relationships will be more important.  Under these circumstances so still manage to have the focus to do well. IMO, it just takes the maturity to have balance amongst priorities. If one is in a serious relationship that has post-ls and long-term potential, why let it go?

I should clarify by stating that "stay out of relationships" should be interpreted as don't start anything new, and don't end anything old for that matter.  Wherever you happen to find yourself in August, stay there.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 07:37:58 PM
he doesn't know..he's lonely so he's trying to start some ish lol...

you could replace women with men and it would still be true.  y'all be on that bull at nights it seems. think you can get away with that crap at night. nah son. I'm here to regulate.

 ???

the @#!* you talking about?

so much on that bull can't even understand. this is sad. a sad sight indeed.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: GoldenAfro on July 05, 2007, 07:39:50 PM
I think this is about the time that someone raises the problem of the "shortage" of black men and we devolve into a collective woe is me.  So yeah: shortage of black men, high standards, go!

I'm less concerned about being in a relationship in law school than finding a relationship worthwhile. Let's face it: there aren't exactly an abundance of black men at Yale to begin with.  And as far as the New Haven community, I have very high standards, and I don't know if I will be able to find a man. Woe is me.  :-\

Was that good Alci?
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 07:40:52 PM
I think this is about the time that someone raises the problem of the "shortage" of black men and we devolve into a collective woe is me.  So yeah: shortage of black men, high standards, go!

I'm less concerned about being in a relationship in law school than finding a relationship worthwhile. Let's face it: there aren't exactly an abundance of black men at Yale to begin with.  And as far as the New Haven community, I have very high standards, and I don't know if I will be able to find a man. Woe is me.  :-\

Was that good Alci?

Just live your life like it's golden and you'll be fine...
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: GoldenAfro on July 05, 2007, 07:41:33 PM
I think this is about the time that someone raises the problem of the "shortage" of black men and we devolve into a collective woe is me.  So yeah: shortage of black men, high standards, go!

I'm less concerned about being in a relationship in law school than finding a relationship worthwhile. Let's face it: there aren't exactly an abundance of black men at Yale to begin with.  And as far as the New Haven community, I have very high standards, and I don't know if I will be able to find a man. Woe is me.  :-\

Was that good Alci?

Just live your life like it's golden and you'll be fine...

Haha thanks... I was j/king anyway
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: law_dawg_07 on July 05, 2007, 07:42:03 PM
Excuse me??? Why should I be happy? I mean I am happy with the b/f but I was equally happy by myself...

Cant understand why people always tell black women to lower their standards so they can find a "suitable" mate.  Your standards are your standards and I am not sure when it became our responsiblity to bring a brother from point E to Z.  I mean I dont have a problem helping him get from V to Z if he had some issues in the past or currently dealing with but when did black women become Captain Save A Negro?


you should be happy to have a man
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Nemesis on July 05, 2007, 07:43:56 PM
I'm less concerned about being in a relationship in law school than finding a relationship worthwhile. Let's face it: there aren't exactly an abundance of black men at Yale to begin with.  And as far as the New Haven community, I have very high standards, and I don't know if I will be able to find a man. Woe is me.  :-\

Was that good Alci?

Not open to dating other kinds of men?

Srsly, I was the only Trini at my college that dated an American. Everyone thought it was so strange. But there was definitely a shortage of Caribbean men. So why limit myself? I'm really glad I branched out.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 07:45:07 PM
I'm less concerned about being in a relationship in law school than finding a relationship worthwhile. Let's face it: there aren't exactly an abundance of black men at Yale to begin with.  And as far as the New Haven community, I have very high standards, and I don't know if I will be able to find a man. Woe is me.  :-\

Was that good Alci?

Not open to dating other kinds of men?

Srsly, I was the only Trini at my college that dated an American. Everyone thought it was so strange. But there was definitely a shortage of Caribbean men. So why limit myself? I'm really glad I branched out.

yah... I'm glad you branched out in the diaspora. Next time try a dark-skinned man... You really took a huge leap and it paid off for you... ::)
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 05, 2007, 07:47:12 PM
I think this is about the time that someone raises the problem of the "shortage" of black men and we devolve into a collective woe is me.  So yeah: shortage of black men, high standards, go!

I'm less concerned about being in a relationship in law school than finding a relationship worthwhile. Let's face it: there aren't exactly an abundance of black men at Yale to begin with.  And as far as the New Haven community, I have very high standards, and I don't know if I will be able to find a man. Woe is me.  :-\

Was that good Alci?

Lol percentage-wise, there are more black men at YLS than most other law schools.  12 in my class alone (6 females).  Otherwise, yes that's about right ;).  Just throw in something about the available educated men having too high standards/not wanting to settle down/wanting only hoochies and we'll be off to a good start :).
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: GoldenAfro on July 05, 2007, 07:48:06 PM
I'm less concerned about being in a relationship in law school than finding a relationship worthwhile. Let's face it: there aren't exactly an abundance of black men at Yale to begin with.  And as far as the New Haven community, I have very high standards, and I don't know if I will be able to find a man. Woe is me.  :-\

Was that good Alci?

Not open to dating other kinds of men?

Srsly, I was the only Trini at my college that dated an American. Everyone thought it was so strange. But there was definitely a shortage of Caribbean men. So why limit myself? I'm really glad I branched out.

Lol. I'm was really j/k cause of #1's post.  But I am open to dating other kinds of men.  Although, I guess I'm not that concerned with dating really.  It'd be nice, but it's not a pressing concern.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Nemesis on July 05, 2007, 07:49:54 PM
yah... I'm glad you branched out in the diaspora. Next time try a dark-skinned man... You really took a huge leap and it paid off for you... ::)

Be quiet BBM.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: law_dawg_07 on July 05, 2007, 07:50:59 PM
Why would they think dating an American man was strange?  I am from the islands myself and there is not enough islanders up here to justify not dating American man.  Sad...

P.S. Trini's are good people. I am from the VI but I swear yall throw the best damn carnivals!!!

I'm less concerned about being in a relationship in law school than finding a relationship worthwhile. Let's face it: there aren't exactly an abundance of black men at Yale to begin with.  And as far as the New Haven community, I have very high standards, and I don't know if I will be able to find a man. Woe is me.  :-\

Was that good Alci?

Not open to dating other kinds of men?

Srsly, I was the only Trini at my college that dated an American. Everyone thought it was so strange. But there was definitely a shortage of Caribbean men. So why limit myself? I'm really glad I branched out.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: GoldenAfro on July 05, 2007, 07:51:33 PM
I think this is about the time that someone raises the problem of the "shortage" of black men and we devolve into a collective woe is me.  So yeah: shortage of black men, high standards, go!

I'm less concerned about being in a relationship in law school than finding a relationship worthwhile. Let's face it: there aren't exactly an abundance of black men at Yale to begin with.  And as far as the New Haven community, I have very high standards, and I don't know if I will be able to find a man. Woe is me.  :-\

Was that good Alci?

Lol percentage-wise, there are more black men at YLS than most other law schools.  12 in my class alone (6 females).  Otherwise, yes that's about right ;).  Just throw in something about the available educated men having too high standards/not wanting to settle down/wanting only hoochies and we'll be off to a good start :).

Oh that's right. I'll be sure to integrate that next time...
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: jarhead on July 05, 2007, 07:52:31 PM
Excuse me??? Why should I be happy? I mean I am happy with the b/f but I was equally happy by myself...

Cant understand why people always tell black women to lower their standards so they can find a "suitable" mate.  Your standards are your standards and I am not sure when it became our responsiblity to bring a brother from point E to Z.  I mean I dont have a problem helping him get from V to Z if he had some issues in the past or currently dealing with but when did black women become Captain Save A Negro?


you should be happy to have a man


did you read my prior posts? im telling you why they think you have to be captain save a negro...because a lot of women have it in their head that you should be happy to have a man...be he blind cripple or crazy
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: pikey on July 05, 2007, 07:54:34 PM
Why would they think dating an American man was strange?  I am from the islands myself and there is not enough islanders up here to justify not dating American man.  Sad...

P.S. Trini's are good people. I am from the VI but I swear yall throw the best damn carnivals!!!

I'm less concerned about being in a relationship in law school than finding a relationship worthwhile. Let's face it: there aren't exactly an abundance of black men at Yale to begin with.  And as far as the New Haven community, I have very high standards, and I don't know if I will be able to find a man. Woe is me.  :-\

Was that good Alci?

Not open to dating other kinds of men?

Srsly, I was the only Trini at my college that dated an American. Everyone thought it was so strange. But there was definitely a shortage of Caribbean men. So why limit myself? I'm really glad I branched out.

titcr.  I barely knew of one guy from the Caribbean in my entire 4 years of ug.  We had a few more girls, but still not much.  Our Caribbean association was more Americans that anyone else!  I've actually never dated a Bermudian guy.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Nemesis on July 05, 2007, 07:55:57 PM
Why would they think dating an American man was strange?  I am from the islands myself and there is not enough islanders up here to justify not dating American man.  Sad...

P.S. Trini's are good people. I am from the VI but I swear yall throw the best damn carnivals!!!

We created Carnival  ;)

But there is a huge Caribbean population at my alma mater and I guess people took a lot of pride in dating within the Caribbean community.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: pikey on July 05, 2007, 07:58:11 PM
Why would they think dating an American man was strange?  I am from the islands myself and there is not enough islanders up here to justify not dating American man.  Sad...

P.S. Trini's are good people. I am from the VI but I swear yall throw the best damn carnivals!!!

We created Carnival  ;)

But there is a huge Caribbean population at my alma mater and I guess people took a lot of pride in dating within the Caribbean community.

Did you know twins from Bermuda (guys)?  I think they may have been in your graduating class or maybe the one before yours/
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: law_dawg_07 on July 05, 2007, 08:00:14 PM
Okay Okay...you had me worried there for a minute.  Feel you on that note though...I hear that all the time but folks only see the superficial.  There is a lot that goes on in the relationship itself.  The b/f travels a lot, which is cool with me, but in the off season when his azz has all this time on his hands, getting adjusted to having him around takes some patience (thank you Lord for patience)!  They may think I should be happy just to have a warm body to call my own but if they had to put up with some of his issues...they would be gone...like yesterday...



Excuse me??? Why should I be happy? I mean I am happy with the b/f but I was equally happy by myself...

Cant understand why people always tell black women to lower their standards so they can find a "suitable" mate.  Your standards are your standards and I am not sure when it became our responsiblity to bring a brother from point E to Z.  I mean I dont have a problem helping him get from V to Z if he had some issues in the past or currently dealing with but when did black women become Captain Save A Negro?


you should be happy to have a man


did you read my prior posts? im telling you why they think you have to be captain save a negro...because a lot of women have it in their head that you should be happy to have a man...be he blind cripple or crazy
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Nemesis on July 05, 2007, 08:01:56 PM
Did you know twins from Bermuda (guys)?  I think they may have been in your graduating class or maybe the one before yours/

I think I would have remembered them! I only knew one guy from Bermuda and I'm pretty sure he didn't have a twin brother. Beautiful accent though :)
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: pikey on July 05, 2007, 08:02:56 PM
Did you know twins from Bermuda (guys)?  I think they may have been in your graduating class or maybe the one before yours/

I think I would have remembered them! I only knew one guy from Bermuda and I'm pretty sure he didn't have a twin brother. Beautiful accent though :)

I think the Bermy accent is one that you either love or hate...  What was his name (PM?)  I might know him.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Funia on July 05, 2007, 08:03:40 PM
WOE WOE WOE.....

I just had to get that out my system.  :D
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: GoldenAfro on July 05, 2007, 08:57:24 PM
Oh girl I feel you.  It just gets to be too much sometimes... just let it all out.  ;)
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 09:37:38 PM
My minimum requirements are a bachelor's degree and some ambition.  I tend to think post-grad degrees are little overrated anyway.  :P

I'm a sucker for a PhD, no lie.  :-[

so you're saying after I get my PhD, I'd have a chance? Sweeeet!  :P
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 09:42:58 PM
lol
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 05, 2007, 09:50:20 PM
My minimum requirements are a bachelor's degree and some ambition.  I tend to think post-grad degrees are little overrated anyway.  :P

I'm a sucker for a PhD, no lie.  :-[

so you're saying after I get my PhD, I'd have a chance? Sweeeet!  :P

Nah, just so long as you're on your way, you might have a shot.  Well, not you, but still. ;)

And really it's pretty much all grad degrees - I like my SOs vastly overeducated.

She likes dem nerds!
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Captain on July 05, 2007, 10:03:30 PM
Knowing my luck, I'll probably meet the man of my dreams and have to turn him away.  :'(

 :D

You would turn me away? :(
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 05, 2007, 10:05:47 PM
I thought that was Alci for a second. I was like... this fool dun lost his damn mind!
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Funia on July 05, 2007, 10:22:26 PM
My minimum requirements are a bachelor's degree and some ambition.  I tend to think post-grad degrees are little overrated anyway.  :P

I'm a sucker for a PhD, no lie.  :-[

so you're saying after I get my PhD, I'd have a chance? Sweeeet!  :P

Nah, just so long as you're on your way, you might have a shot.  Well, not you, but still. ;)

And really it's pretty much all grad degrees - I like my SOs vastly overeducated.

She likes dem nerds!

They have the biggest... umm... rulers.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 06, 2007, 05:22:14 AM
I thought that was Alci for a second. I was like... this fool dun lost his damn mind!

:D
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: pikey on July 06, 2007, 06:01:18 AM
<----Loves the fact that my b/f reminds me daily that I am disposable (in other words, he knows he has a lot to offer!)  Keeps a sista in check and up on her game...

S.M.H.

If some guy said that to me, I wouldn't be the one getting disposed.  In check, indeed. ::)


Titcr.  My bf telling me how much he loves and appreciates me encourages me to keep up on my game.  You catch more flies with honey than vinegar.  :P
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: law_dawg_07 on July 06, 2007, 06:13:35 AM
It is very rare for me to find a man that has equal to or more to offer than I do (intellectually, spiritually, and financially). Just glad to have found someone that pushes me to that next level...

<----Loves the fact that my b/f reminds me daily that I am disposable (in other words, he knows he has a lot to offer!)  Keeps a sista in check and up on her game...

S.M.H.

If some guy said that to me, I wouldn't be the one getting disposed.  In check, indeed. ::)


Titcr.  My bf telling me how much he loves and appreciates me encourages me to keep up on my game.  You catch more flies with honey than vinegar.  :P
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: blk_reign on July 06, 2007, 06:22:38 AM
indeed indeed...I'm still happy about the fact that my bf drove from Atlanta to Houston to pick up my dogs and drove them up to Boston for me the other day... when I first got accepted to Harvard he was actually in Boston for a conference... the first thing he did was buy me my first couple of Harvard shirts.. flew down to Houston and surprised me with them.. ;D

<----Loves the fact that my b/f reminds me daily that I am disposable (in other words, he knows he has a lot to offer!)  Keeps a sista in check and up on her game...

S.M.H.

If some guy said that to me, I wouldn't be the one getting disposed.  In check, indeed. ::)


Titcr.  My bf telling me how much he loves and appreciates me encourages me to keep up on my game.  You catch more flies with honey than vinegar.  :P
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 06, 2007, 06:24:44 AM
sounds like a female private part to me.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: pikey on July 06, 2007, 06:48:29 AM
It is very rare for me to find a man that has equal to or more to offer than I do (intellectually, spiritually, and financially). Just glad to have found someone that pushes me to that next level...

<----Loves the fact that my b/f reminds me daily that I am disposable (in other words, he knows he has a lot to offer!)  Keeps a sista in check and up on her game...

S.M.H.

If some guy said that to me, I wouldn't be the one getting disposed.  In check, indeed. ::)


Titcr.  My bf telling me how much he loves and appreciates me encourages me to keep up on my game.  You catch more flies with honey than vinegar.  :P

What does that mean?  I'm not trying to hate, but I don't understand why the fact he has just as much (or more) to offer than you means that he should tell you all the time that you're lucky to be with him.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: blk_reign on July 06, 2007, 07:03:30 AM
don't be that kid today
 :D
sounds like a female private part to me.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: law_dawg_07 on July 06, 2007, 07:03:46 AM
Im not going to even lie...simply because I have my ways.  :D  When we first met he was sincere but I didnt give him the time of day because I felt he was up to no good.  Now I know differently about him.  It's tough dating a professional athlete and now its the off season where he has a lot of time, it tough getting used to having him around ALL the time cause I already have a schedule in place.  He knows he is a good man and he wants to be appreciated for that.  I have no problem with him telling me on a regular that I lucky to be with him because I tell him the same thing!  All I can say is that it works...   ;D


It is very rare for me to find a man that has equal to or more to offer than I do (intellectually, spiritually, and financially). Just glad to have found someone that pushes me to that next level...

<----Loves the fact that my b/f reminds me daily that I am disposable (in other words, he knows he has a lot to offer!)  Keeps a sista in check and up on her game...

S.M.H.

If some guy said that to me, I wouldn't be the one getting disposed.  In check, indeed. ::)


Titcr.  My bf telling me how much he loves and appreciates me encourages me to keep up on my game.  You catch more flies with honey than vinegar.  :P

What does that mean?  I'm not trying to hate, but I don't understand why the fact he has just as much (or more) to offer than you means that he should tell you all the time that you're lucky to be with him.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: pikey on July 06, 2007, 07:14:36 AM
Im not going to even lie...simply because I have my ways.  :D  When we first met he was sincere but I didnt give him the time of day because I felt he was up to no good.  Now I know differently about him.  It's tough dating a professional athlete and now its the off season where he has a lot of time, it tough getting used to having him around ALL the time cause I already have a schedule in place.  He knows he is a good man and he wants to be appreciated for that.  I have no problem with him telling me on a regular that I lucky to be with him because I tell him the same thing!  All I can say is that it works...   ;D


It is very rare for me to find a man that has equal to or more to offer than I do (intellectually, spiritually, and financially). Just glad to have found someone that pushes me to that next level...

<----Loves the fact that my b/f reminds me daily that I am disposable (in other words, he knows he has a lot to offer!)  Keeps a sista in check and up on her game...

S.M.H.

If some guy said that to me, I wouldn't be the one getting disposed.  In check, indeed. ::)


Titcr.  My bf telling me how much he loves and appreciates me encourages me to keep up on my game.  You catch more flies with honey than vinegar.  :P

What does that mean?  I'm not trying to hate, but I don't understand why the fact he has just as much (or more) to offer than you means that he should tell you all the time that you're lucky to be with him.

Well as long as it works for you.  The bf and I are the complete opposite.  I feel lucky to have him and he feels the same, so we have a mutual appreciation society.  :P
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: FrankWhite on July 06, 2007, 07:32:06 AM
Sorry if this thread is going on somewhere else but it seems to be of discussion on several boards. Should you date in law school?  Is there time for a relationship?  Who is hunting who (sisters after the brothers or brothers after the sisters)?  Anyone care to share their stories?

I dont know the answer to any of your questions.  But I plan on making it over to my schools school of education at some point to find me a school teacher-guidance counselor slash wife.  Probably around the end of my 2L year. 



School of Education? I'm making a bee line to the med school....
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 06, 2007, 07:34:20 AM
Im not going to even lie...simply because I have my ways.  :D  When we first met he was sincere but I didnt give him the time of day because I felt he was up to no good.  Now I know differently about him.  It's tough dating a professional athlete and now its the off season where he has a lot of time, it tough getting used to having him around ALL the time cause I already have a schedule in place.  He knows he is a good man and he wants to be appreciated for that.  I have no problem with him telling me on a regular that I lucky to be with him because I tell him the same thing!  All I can say is that it works...   ;D


It is very rare for me to find a man that has equal to or more to offer than I do (intellectually, spiritually, and financially). Just glad to have found someone that pushes me to that next level...

<----Loves the fact that my b/f reminds me daily that I am disposable (in other words, he knows he has a lot to offer!)  Keeps a sista in check and up on her game...

S.M.H.

If some guy said that to me, I wouldn't be the one getting disposed.  In check, indeed. ::)


Titcr.  My bf telling me how much he loves and appreciates me encourages me to keep up on my game.  You catch more flies with honey than vinegar.  :P

What does that mean?  I'm not trying to hate, but I don't understand why the fact he has just as much (or more) to offer than you means that he should tell you all the time that you're lucky to be with him.

Well as long as it works for you.  The bf and I are the complete opposite.  I feel lucky to have him and he feels the same, so we have a mutual appreciation society.  :P

yuck!
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 06, 2007, 07:40:49 AM
Sorry if this thread is going on somewhere else but it seems to be of discussion on several boards. Should you date in law school?  Is there time for a relationship?  Who is hunting who (sisters after the brothers or brothers after the sisters)?  Anyone care to share their stories?

I dont know the answer to any of your questions.  But I plan on making it over to my schools school of education at some point to find me a school teacher-guidance counselor slash wife.  Probably around the end of my 2L year. 



School of Education? I'm making a bee line to the med school....

Lol that's worse than dating a lawyer.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: pikey on July 06, 2007, 07:41:28 AM
Im not going to even lie...simply because I have my ways.  :D  When we first met he was sincere but I didnt give him the time of day because I felt he was up to no good.  Now I know differently about him.  It's tough dating a professional athlete and now its the off season where he has a lot of time, it tough getting used to having him around ALL the time cause I already have a schedule in place.  He knows he is a good man and he wants to be appreciated for that.  I have no problem with him telling me on a regular that I lucky to be with him because I tell him the same thing!  All I can say is that it works...   ;D


It is very rare for me to find a man that has equal to or more to offer than I do (intellectually, spiritually, and financially). Just glad to have found someone that pushes me to that next level...

<----Loves the fact that my b/f reminds me daily that I am disposable (in other words, he knows he has a lot to offer!)  Keeps a sista in check and up on her game...

S.M.H.

If some guy said that to me, I wouldn't be the one getting disposed.  In check, indeed. ::)


Titcr.  My bf telling me how much he loves and appreciates me encourages me to keep up on my game.  You catch more flies with honey than vinegar.  :P

What does that mean?  I'm not trying to hate, but I don't understand why the fact he has just as much (or more) to offer than you means that he should tell you all the time that you're lucky to be with him.

Well as long as it works for you.  The bf and I are the complete opposite.  I feel lucky to have him and he feels the same, so we have a mutual appreciation society.  :P

yuck!

Don't hate.  You know you wish you had a girl who had it going on and felt lucky to be with you!  :P
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: blk_reign on July 06, 2007, 07:43:03 AM
drs..more specifically men in their residency program think they know everything :D :D :D :D

Sorry if this thread is going on somewhere else but it seems to be of discussion on several boards. Should you date in law school?  Is there time for a relationship?  Who is hunting who (sisters after the brothers or brothers after the sisters)?  Anyone care to share their stories?

I dont know the answer to any of your questions.  But I plan on making it over to my schools school of education at some point to find me a school teacher-guidance counselor slash wife.  Probably around the end of my 2L year. 



School of Education? I'm making a bee line to the med school....

Lol that's worse than dating a lawyer.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 06, 2007, 07:44:51 AM
Don't hate.  You know you wish you had a girl who had it going on and felt lucky to be with you!  :P

i'm workin on it.  :P
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: 2Lacoste on July 06, 2007, 08:07:16 AM
Med school has the hottest girls at Harvard.  Too bad they show up to the first party of the year, steal your heart, and then disappear for the remainder of your law school career.  Damn med school.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: FrankWhite on July 06, 2007, 08:10:05 AM
Sorry if this thread is going on somewhere else but it seems to be of discussion on several boards. Should you date in law school?  Is there time for a relationship?  Who is hunting who (sisters after the brothers or brothers after the sisters)?  Anyone care to share their stories?

I dont know the answer to any of your questions.  But I plan on making it over to my schools school of education at some point to find me a school teacher-guidance counselor slash wife.  Probably around the end of my 2L year. 



School of Education? I'm making a bee line to the med school....

Lol that's worse than dating a lawyer.

But I want my Huxtable household... ;D
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Nemesis on July 06, 2007, 08:17:26 AM
Med school has the hottest girls at Harvard.  Too bad they show up to the first party of the year, steal your heart, and then disappear for the remainder of your law school career.  Damn med school.

 :D

CRY ME A RIVER!
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Special Agent Dana Scully on July 06, 2007, 08:27:47 AM
Sorry if this thread is going on somewhere else but it seems to be of discussion on several boards. Should you date in law school?  Is there time for a relationship?  Who is hunting who (sisters after the brothers or brothers after the sisters)?  Anyone care to share their stories?

I dont know the answer to any of your questions.  But I plan on making it over to my schools school of education at some point to find me a school teacher-guidance counselor slash wife.  Probably around the end of my 2L year. 



School of Education? I'm making a bee line to the med school....

Lol that's worse than dating a lawyer.

But I want my Huxtable household... ;D

me too...but i want to marry a plastic surgeon so i can get free botox  :D
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: pikey on July 06, 2007, 08:46:28 AM
You need to step off that botox mess. :D

titcr.

Use sunscreen (with proper UVA protection) and wear shades and you won't need botox.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Nemesis on July 06, 2007, 09:00:37 AM
me too...but i want to marry a plastic surgeon so i can get free botox  :D

Don't listen to them girl. Botox all the way!
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: blk_reign on July 06, 2007, 09:02:59 AM
u guys are funny lol
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: blk_reign on July 06, 2007, 09:18:13 AM
i really don't know much about it... i always think about karen walker from will and grace whenever anyone mentions it
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 06, 2007, 09:18:42 AM
Sorry if this thread is going on somewhere else but it seems to be of discussion on several boards. Should you date in law school?  Is there time for a relationship?  Who is hunting who (sisters after the brothers or brothers after the sisters)?  Anyone care to share their stories?

I dont know the answer to any of your questions.  But I plan on making it over to my schools school of education at some point to find me a school teacher-guidance counselor slash wife.  Probably around the end of my 2L year. 



School of Education? I'm making a bee line to the med school....

Lol that's worse than dating a lawyer.

But I want my Huxtable household... ;D

me too...but i want to marry a plastic surgeon so i can get free botox  :D

Yeah, girl. HOLLER

HOLLA
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Nemesis on July 06, 2007, 09:21:35 AM
i really don't know much about it... i always think about karen walker from will and grace whenever anyone mentions it

I'm so into Will & Grace this summer...
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 06, 2007, 09:29:26 AM
Sorry if this thread is going on somewhere else but it seems to be of discussion on several boards. Should you date in law school?  Is there time for a relationship?  Who is hunting who (sisters after the brothers or brothers after the sisters)?  Anyone care to share their stories?

I dont know the answer to any of your questions.  But I plan on making it over to my schools school of education at some point to find me a school teacher-guidance counselor slash wife.  Probably around the end of my 2L year. 



School of Education? I'm making a bee line to the med school....

Lol that's worse than dating a lawyer.

But I want my Huxtable household... ;D

me too...but i want to marry a plastic surgeon so i can get free botox  :D

Yeah, girl. HOLLER

HOLLA

nope!

You sound like one of our classmates with that "er"
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 06, 2007, 09:53:18 AM
Pretty boy
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Nemesis on July 06, 2007, 09:58:59 AM
Pretty boy

Who isn't a pretty boy??  :D
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 06, 2007, 10:02:58 AM
I'll take that as a compliment 8)
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: cui bono? on July 06, 2007, 10:15:04 AM
okay so I may be alone in this but how do u guys feel about dating someone in the field vs someone outside of it?  in a lot of ways it's easier but sometimes, its harder. what do u guys think?  
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: law_dawg_07 on July 06, 2007, 10:20:48 AM
I dont want to date another lawyer. I would rather have someone in another field to diversify the conversations as opposed to always having to come back to law. I have dated folks in my field before and we talked about work a lot...very draining.

okay so I may be alone in this but how do u guys feel about dating someone in the field vs someone outside of it?  in a lot of ways it's easier but sometimes, its harder. what do u guys think?  
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: pikey on July 06, 2007, 10:24:08 AM
I dont want to date another lawyer. I would rather have someone in another field to diversify the conversations as opposed to always having to come back to law. I have dated folks in my field before and we talked about work a lot...very draining.

okay so I may be alone in this but how do u guys feel about dating someone in the field vs someone outside of it?  in a lot of ways it's easier but sometimes, its harder. what do u guys think?  

I wouldn't want to date another lawyer either, cause then we'd both be busy as hell.  Also, sometimes you just want to get away from it all.  

On the flip side, he'd have a greater understanding on those days when you want to complain about a client or brief...  I grew up hearing my parents talk finance (and participating) over the dinner table, so it can also benefit your kids too.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: 2Lacoste on July 06, 2007, 10:29:38 AM
Hey, I'll date whomever I fall in love with.  In the field, out of the field, out of left field...  Thus far I've yet to date another law student/lawyer.  Don't see it happening but I'm not opposed to it.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: cui bono? on July 06, 2007, 10:34:15 AM
I think it's a lot easier as far as when u have a bad day like u guys said, the SO will understand more.  Perhaps even help out with the work.  But I'm wondering if the relationship grows-  someone will have to take a backseat. At least u'd have to alternate taking a backseat to do other things.  Like if someone's career is on fire and the other one isn't.  who maintains the household/ kids, etc? 
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: cui bono? on July 06, 2007, 10:34:53 AM
Hey, I'll date whomever I fall in love with.  In the field, out of the field, out of left field...  Thus far I've yet to date another law student/lawyer.  Don't see it happening but I'm not opposed to it.


u r straight ignant (bolded) :D
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: blk_reign on July 06, 2007, 10:35:24 AM
honestly i don't think it's a big deal either way... i tend to leave the law and everything surrounding it @ the job...after work is over i'm pretty much done with it...i was the same way in law school to be honest so going out and flexing my legal muscles never really played a role in my relationships or friendships..that is of course unless there was a legal issue that a friend or bf needed to consult me on..


i think it depends on a person's personality..if life began and ended when the legal career began then of course that's all they're going to have to talk about..but if there are many other things of interest going on in one's life then the probability of spending an extensive amount of time on the law is unlikely...

I dont want to date another lawyer. I would rather have someone in another field to diversify the conversations as opposed to always having to come back to law. I have dated folks in my field before and we talked about work a lot...very draining.

okay so I may be alone in this but how do u guys feel about dating someone in the field vs someone outside of it?  in a lot of ways it's easier but sometimes, its harder. what do u guys think?  
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: blk_reign on July 06, 2007, 10:38:00 AM
what do u mean who maintains the household???

I think it's a lot easier as far as when u have a bad day like u guys said, the SO will understand more.  Perhaps even help out with the work.  But I'm wondering if the relationship grows-  someone will have to take a backseat. At least u'd have to alternate taking a backseat to do other things.  Like if someone's career is on fire and the other one isn't.  who maintains the household/ kids, etc? 
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: cui bono? on July 06, 2007, 10:40:10 AM
I'm saying if the relationship progresses to marriage/living together/engagement.  Who does the "grunt work"?

what do u mean who maintains the household???

I think it's a lot easier as far as when u have a bad day like u guys said, the SO will understand more.  Perhaps even help out with the work.  But I'm wondering if the relationship grows-  someone will have to take a backseat. At least u'd have to alternate taking a backseat to do other things.  Like if someone's career is on fire and the other one isn't.  who maintains the household/ kids, etc? 
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: 2Lacoste on July 06, 2007, 10:43:36 AM
I'm saying if the relationship progresses to marriage/living together/engagement.  Who does the "grunt work"?

what do u mean who maintains the household???

I think it's a lot easier as far as when u have a bad day like u guys said, the SO will understand more.  Perhaps even help out with the work.  But I'm wondering if the relationship grows-  someone will have to take a backseat. At least u'd have to alternate taking a backseat to do other things.  Like if someone's career is on fire and the other one isn't.  who maintains the household/ kids, etc? 

The maid?



Brilliant.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: cui bono? on July 06, 2007, 10:45:06 AM
LMAO!  ya'll r too much.  Okay smartypantses  :D
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: iman on July 06, 2007, 10:45:41 AM
i used to be against relationships in ls--but now i agree with Sands et. al. just stay where you are during your first year. you don't really have time for dating is the key thing. so if you are in a relationship--staying there is not really "dating" and being single and trying to find someone new isn't going to work either imo. but after that--do whatever. ymmv

sometimes i think about having a b.a. requirement, but i don't really have one. i just want someone who wants to be with me and isn't trying to get a free ride. i just try to be honest about who i am--what i'm doing--where i went to school. even though it might sound like bragging to some, i feel like putting it all out there allows guys to opt out. (which they oftentimes do) i mean i've gotten the screw face many times when i've mentioned where i went to school/that i was in law school etc. i've also recently gotten the "you'll be rich" comment, which weirds me out as well. do y'all worry about that?

moni and annabel--i'm american, but for the past 5 years or so i've only really gone out with africans/caribbeans. i wonder sometimes what thats about. but since i don't approach guys--its whatever. i just think its funny that some people look down on it. that hadn't really occurred to me. my sisters think its funny--but other than that nobody really cares. to them its just black people with accents or parents that have accents.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: cui bono? on July 06, 2007, 10:49:15 AM
Gotta admit I'm a lil scared of Caribbean men.  {fam's from the Caribbean-  too dominating for my taste}.  eh, I'm totally against dating folks in one's law school but not dating in its entirety
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: blk_reign on July 06, 2007, 11:11:53 AM
lol

I'm saying if the relationship progresses to marriage/living together/engagement.  Who does the "grunt work"?

what do u mean who maintains the household???

I think it's a lot easier as far as when u have a bad day like u guys said, the SO will understand more.  Perhaps even help out with the work.  But I'm wondering if the relationship grows-  someone will have to take a backseat. At least u'd have to alternate taking a backseat to do other things.  Like if someone's career is on fire and the other one isn't.  who maintains the household/ kids, etc? 

The maid?



Brilliant.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 06, 2007, 11:19:43 AM
okay so I may be alone in this but how do u guys feel about dating someone in the field vs someone outside of it?  in a lot of ways it's easier but sometimes, its harder. what do u guys think? 

I'm doing it.  It works.  But she doesn't like to talk about the law.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 06, 2007, 11:20:04 AM
Pretty boy

Who isn't a pretty boy??  :D

But this dude is MORE than pretty ::fanning myself:: ;)

Lol y'all womenfolk.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: cui bono? on July 06, 2007, 11:26:54 AM
Pretty boy

Who isn't a pretty boy??  :D

But this dude is MORE than pretty ::fanning myself:: ;)

yum yum
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: pikey on July 06, 2007, 11:57:21 AM
okay so I may be alone in this but how do u guys feel about dating someone in the field vs someone outside of it?  in a lot of ways it's easier but sometimes, its harder. what do u guys think? 

I'm doing it.  It works.  But she doesn't like to talk about the law.

Lol, I was talking to her last night about that  :D
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 06, 2007, 12:08:36 PM
okay so I may be alone in this but how do u guys feel about dating someone in the field vs someone outside of it?  in a lot of ways it's easier but sometimes, its harder. what do u guys think? 

I'm doing it.  It works. But she doesn't like to talk about the law.

Lol, I was talking to her last night about that  :D

Lol yes she told me you guys talked.  Remember, what happens on the board stays on the board! ;)
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: pikey on July 06, 2007, 12:14:14 PM
okay so I may be alone in this but how do u guys feel about dating someone in the field vs someone outside of it?  in a lot of ways it's easier but sometimes, its harder. what do u guys think? 

I'm doing it.  It works. But she doesn't like to talk about the law.

Lol, I was talking to her last night about that  :D

Lol yes she told me you guys talked.  Remember, what happens on the board stays on the board! ;)

She said it would prolly be better for your relationship if she stayed off the board.  :P
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 06, 2007, 12:18:07 PM
okay so I may be alone in this but how do u guys feel about dating someone in the field vs someone outside of it?  in a lot of ways it's easier but sometimes, its harder. what do u guys think? 

I'm doing it.  It works. But she doesn't like to talk about the law.

Lol, I was talking to her last night about that  :D

Lol yes she told me you guys talked.  Remember, what happens on the board stays on the board! ;)

She said it would prolly be better for your relationship if she stayed off the board.  :P

Yes, probably so.  She likes those annoying babies, national healthcare, and such.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: blk_reign on July 06, 2007, 12:24:03 PM
 :D

okay so I may be alone in this but how do u guys feel about dating someone in the field vs someone outside of it?  in a lot of ways it's easier but sometimes, its harder. what do u guys think? 

I'm doing it.  It works. But she doesn't like to talk about the law.

Lol, I was talking to her last night about that  :D

Lol yes she told me you guys talked.  Remember, what happens on the board stays on the board! ;)

She said it would prolly be better for your relationship if she stayed off the board.  :P
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: pikey on July 06, 2007, 12:27:16 PM
okay so I may be alone in this but how do u guys feel about dating someone in the field vs someone outside of it?  in a lot of ways it's easier but sometimes, its harder. what do u guys think? 

I'm doing it.  It works. But she doesn't like to talk about the law.

Lol, I was talking to her last night about that  :D

Lol yes she told me you guys talked.  Remember, what happens on the board stays on the board! ;)

She said it would prolly be better for your relationship if she stayed off the board.  :P

Yes, probably so.  She likes those annoying babies, national healthcare, and such.

Yeah, she said something along the lines of "he says some crazy things"  :D
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: blk_reign on July 06, 2007, 12:34:14 PM
 :D


Ha! yeah I remember it was a huge relief to know she doesn't share his views...
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 06, 2007, 12:36:57 PM
Ha! yeah I remember it was a huge relief to know she doesn't share his views...

Ha!  She says some off-the-wall stuff too!
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Nemesis on July 06, 2007, 12:47:24 PM
okay so I may be alone in this but how do u guys feel about dating someone in the field vs someone outside of it?  in a lot of ways it's easier but sometimes, its harder. what do u guys think?  

My SO is also in the field (old news, I know). I find it VERY comforting because we both have to go through the same things so he's really understanding. And we'll probably both end up in BigLaw, which I don't have a problem with either. We'll be working comparable hours so I don't think there'll be a lot of resentment. Also, hopefully it'll make us appreciate our time together. So it works for me.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: cui bono? on July 07, 2007, 05:30:55 AM
okay so I may be alone in this but how do u guys feel about dating someone in the field vs someone outside of it?  in a lot of ways it's easier but sometimes, its harder. what do u guys think? 

My SO is also in the field (old news, I know). I find it VERY comforting because we both have to go through the same things so he's really understanding. And we'll probably both end up in BigLaw, which I don't have a problem with either. We'll be working comparable hours so I don't think there'll be a lot of resentment. Also, hopefully it'll make us appreciate our time together. So it works for me.

I've been dating in the field too.  Which is great for me because he's a bit more experienced in the field so he's able to tell me what I'm going to go thru before I go thru it.  Then once I go thru it, he's able to give me advice as to how to deal.  But he's not that much more experienced to where it's like he's my dad or something.  We'll prolly end up in different areas in the law tho.  He's more analytical than I am. I'm more passionate about ppl and would be in something like civil rights/public interest and I can see him in something a lil more "dry". 

But I'm just wondering should a relationship where 2 ppl are involved in law progress, woildn't it eventually cause issues?  Like if they both have a really important firm event to go to on the same night and the events are in diff states or something, which do they go to or do they go to their respective ones?  I just think eventually one will have to sacrifice for the other. 

   
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Kirk Lazarus on July 07, 2007, 07:19:41 AM
okay so I may be alone in this but how do u guys feel about dating someone in the field vs someone outside of it?  in a lot of ways it's easier but sometimes, its harder. what do u guys think? 

My SO is also in the field (old news, I know). I find it VERY comforting because we both have to go through the same things so he's really understanding. And we'll probably both end up in BigLaw, which I don't have a problem with either. We'll be working comparable hours so I don't think there'll be a lot of resentment. Also, hopefully it'll make us appreciate our time together. So it works for me.

I've been dating in the field too.  Which is great for me because he's a bit more experienced in the field so he's able to tell me what I'm going to go thru before I go thru it.  Then once I go thru it, he's able to give me advice as to how to deal.  But he's not that much more experienced to where it's like he's my dad or something.  We'll prolly end up in different areas in the law tho.  He's more analytical than I am. I'm more passionate about ppl and would be in something like civil rights/public interest and I can see him in something a lil more "dry". 

But I'm just wondering should a relationship where 2 ppl are involved in law progress, woildn't it eventually cause issues?  Like if they both have a really important firm event to go to on the same night and the events are in diff states or something, which do they go to or do they go to their respective ones?  I just think eventually one will have to sacrifice for the other. 

   

Or they'll have to both sacrifice something for each other at times.

A relationship without sacrifice is a farce anyway.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: blk_reign on July 07, 2007, 07:30:06 AM
pretty damn much...i think we're overanalyzing here..i'm sorry but a firm event is not going to be more important than my relationship/marriage... if we both have an event the same night different city/state then it's pretty much a coin toss or a no go in my opinion... folks have to take turns in sacrificing things of that nature and to me... simply being happy at the end of the day is what's most important.. a promotion in the field isn't going to be solely based on whether or not one chooses to schmooze @ the big event of the yr anyway..and regardless of what some of you guys may say on here-- no one wants to be alone at the end of the day.. and self love isn't going to keep you warm @ night...

and to be completely real about the whole situation..the only reason that i am in a different state than my SO right now is because of school..there's no way in hell that i'd enter a marriage..or get engaged and live across the world from the one that i love due to a job..that's silly...

okay so I may be alone in this but how do u guys feel about dating someone in the field vs someone outside of it?  in a lot of ways it's easier but sometimes, its harder. what do u guys think? 

My SO is also in the field (old news, I know). I find it VERY comforting because we both have to go through the same things so he's really understanding. And we'll probably both end up in BigLaw, which I don't have a problem with either. We'll be working comparable hours so I don't think there'll be a lot of resentment. Also, hopefully it'll make us appreciate our time together. So it works for me.

I've been dating in the field too.  Which is great for me because he's a bit more experienced in the field so he's able to tell me what I'm going to go thru before I go thru it.  Then once I go thru it, he's able to give me advice as to how to deal.  But he's not that much more experienced to where it's like he's my dad or something.  We'll prolly end up in different areas in the law tho.  He's more analytical than I am. I'm more passionate about ppl and would be in something like civil rights/public interest and I can see him in something a lil more "dry". 

But I'm just wondering should a relationship where 2 ppl are involved in law progress, woildn't it eventually cause issues?  Like if they both have a really important firm event to go to on the same night and the events are in diff states or something, which do they go to or do they go to their respective ones?  I just think eventually one will have to sacrifice for the other. 

   

Or they'll have to both sacrifice something for each other at times.

A relationship without sacrifice is a farce anyway.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: justGem on July 07, 2007, 07:50:48 AM
okay so I may be alone in this but how do u guys feel about dating someone in the field vs someone outside of it?  in a lot of ways it's easier but sometimes, its harder. what do u guys think? 

My SO is also in the field (old news, I know). I find it VERY comforting because we both have to go through the same things so he's really understanding. And we'll probably both end up in BigLaw, which I don't have a problem with either. We'll be working comparable hours so I don't think there'll be a lot of resentment. Also, hopefully it'll make us appreciate our time together. So it works for me.

I've been dating in the field too.  Which is great for me because he's a bit more experienced in the field so he's able to tell me what I'm going to go thru before I go thru it.  Then once I go thru it, he's able to give me advice as to how to deal.  But he's not that much more experienced to where it's like he's my dad or something.  We'll prolly end up in different areas in the law tho.  He's more analytical than I am. I'm more passionate about ppl and would be in something like civil rights/public interest and I can see him in something a lil more "dry". 

But I'm just wondering should a relationship where 2 ppl are involved in law progress, woildn't it eventually cause issues?  Like if they both have a really important firm event to go to on the same night and the events are in diff states or something, which do they go to or do they go to their respective ones?  I just think eventually one will have to sacrifice for the other.

   

I don't think having to sacrifice for professional obligations is specific to the legal profession.  Events, long-hours etc can arise in any profession and sacrifice comes with the territory of being in a relationship....it coincides with comprimise.  My S.O. has unpredictable hours and in my previous profession, depending on the project, I would have long hours, OOT meetings/conference/trainings/networking events etc. If we could attend events together - great, if not - no biggie.  Such sacrifices would definitely fall into the 'minor' category of things that can cause problems in a long-term relationship. 
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 07, 2007, 08:07:33 AM
Like if they both have a really important firm event to go to on the same night and the events are in diff states or something, which do they go to or do they go to their respective ones?  I just think eventually one will have to sacrifice for the other.
 

Um go stag?
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: blk_reign on July 07, 2007, 08:51:51 AM
amen amen... that's exactly how i feel.. folks are acting like life is beginning and ending with "the law".. screw that  :D like all of a sudden we're important.. and the "little people" ie the folk we love and those that love and support us have to now take a back seat... folks that choose to live like that will suffer one way or another @ some point in their lives.. u can't step on the backs of those that support u just because u're starting to make that paper...

okay so I may be alone in this but how do u guys feel about dating someone in the field vs someone outside of it?  in a lot of ways it's easier but sometimes, its harder. what do u guys think? 

My SO is also in the field (old news, I know). I find it VERY comforting because we both have to go through the same things so he's really understanding. And we'll probably both end up in BigLaw, which I don't have a problem with either. We'll be working comparable hours so I don't think there'll be a lot of resentment. Also, hopefully it'll make us appreciate our time together. So it works for me.

I've been dating in the field too.  Which is great for me because he's a bit more experienced in the field so he's able to tell me what I'm going to go thru before I go thru it.  Then once I go thru it, he's able to give me advice as to how to deal.  But he's not that much more experienced to where it's like he's my dad or something.  We'll prolly end up in different areas in the law tho.  He's more analytical than I am. I'm more passionate about ppl and would be in something like civil rights/public interest and I can see him in something a lil more "dry". 

But I'm just wondering should a relationship where 2 ppl are involved in law progress, woildn't it eventually cause issues?  Like if they both have a really important firm event to go to on the same night and the events are in diff states or something, which do they go to or do they go to their respective ones?  I just think eventually one will have to sacrifice for the other.

   

I don't think having to sacrifice for professional obligations is specific to the legal profession.  Events, long-hours etc can arise in any profession and sacrifice comes with the territory of being in a relationship....it coincides with comprimise.  My S.O. has unpredictable hours and in my previous profession, depending on the project, I would have long hours, OOT meetings/conference/trainings/networking events etc. If we could attend events together - great, if not - no biggie.  Such sacrifices would definitely fall into the 'minor' category of things that can cause problems in a long-term relationship. 
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Nemesis on July 07, 2007, 12:11:53 PM
Um go stag?

Exactly  :D
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Stand under my Umbrella ella ella, aye!! on July 08, 2007, 06:13:05 AM
I like mine barefoot and pregnant.  Preferably cooking something.  She has to be good with numbers.  Going dolos never an option - I already have trophies for my shelf.  j/k. kind of...
amen amen... that's exactly how i feel.. folks are acting like life is beginning and ending with "the law".. screw that  :D like all of a sudden we're important.. and the "little people" ie the folk we love and those that love and support us have to now take a back seat... folks that choose to live like that will suffer one way or another @ some point in their lives.. u can't step on the backs of those that support u just because u're starting to make that paper...

okay so I may be alone in this but how do u guys feel about dating someone in the field vs someone outside of it?  in a lot of ways it's easier but sometimes, its harder. what do u guys think? 

My SO is also in the field (old news, I know). I find it VERY comforting because we both have to go through the same things so he's really understanding. And we'll probably both end up in BigLaw, which I don't have a problem with either. We'll be working comparable hours so I don't think there'll be a lot of resentment. Also, hopefully it'll make us appreciate our time together. So it works for me.

I've been dating in the field too.  Which is great for me because he's a bit more experienced in the field so he's able to tell me what I'm going to go thru before I go thru it.  Then once I go thru it, he's able to give me advice as to how to deal.  But he's not that much more experienced to where it's like he's my dad or something.  We'll prolly end up in different areas in the law tho.  He's more analytical than I am. I'm more passionate about ppl and would be in something like civil rights/public interest and I can see him in something a lil more "dry". 

But I'm just wondering should a relationship where 2 ppl are involved in law progress, woildn't it eventually cause issues?  Like if they both have a really important firm event to go to on the same night and the events are in diff states or something, which do they go to or do they go to their respective ones?  I just think eventually one will have to sacrifice for the other.

   

I don't think having to sacrifice for professional obligations is specific to the legal profession.  Events, long-hours etc can arise in any profession and sacrifice comes with the territory of being in a relationship....it coincides with comprimise.  My S.O. has unpredictable hours and in my previous profession, depending on the project, I would have long hours, OOT meetings/conference/trainings/networking events etc. If we could attend events together - great, if not - no biggie.  Such sacrifices would definitely fall into the 'minor' category of things that can cause problems in a long-term relationship. 

I think it would cause issues.  Lawyers divorce rates are high as hell.  *&^%, divorce rates are high as hell.  Eventually one will have to sacrifice if they are planning to have a family.  No family?  it may not be such a big deal.  kids change things.  Unless they can get a nanny, there will be one person doing more career sacrifice than the other.  Hopefully they can afford a good nanny, or can find a salt of the earth illegal to instill some values in the child.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Kirk Lazarus on July 08, 2007, 07:51:16 AM
I haven't had time to look it up, but I wonder what the divorce rate of Blacks looks like.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Pulchritudinous Male on July 08, 2007, 08:18:41 AM
I haven't had time to look it up, but I wonder what the divorce rate of Blacks looks like.

You mean from the very few who decide to get married anyway?

But seriously actually divorce is lower per failed marriage with African-Americans than other the other races. By that I mean that traditionally married black people that have a failed marriage just move out and move on staying in a perpetual state of SEPARATION. They even will move in and start new families without having been divorced from their first marriage.

Basically black people are more likely not to get an official legal divorce than the other races.

Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 08, 2007, 08:35:52 AM
According to this study, the AA divorce rate is 12%, compared to 10% for whites and 7% for hispanics:
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/pdf/aahmi.pdf
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Pulchritudinous Male on July 08, 2007, 09:10:45 AM
According to this study, the AA divorce rate is 12%, compared to 10% for whites and 7% for hispanics:
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/pdf/aahmi.pdf

Yes I see. Good find #1.

In my defense I'll say that I was talking about divorce per failed marriage. I actually present at a doctoral dissertation presentation that talked about this. The numbers were quite alarming.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 08, 2007, 09:14:04 AM
how is a divorce rate defined?
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Nemesis on July 08, 2007, 09:40:41 AM
According to this study, the AA divorce rate is 12%, compared to 10% for whites and 7% for hispanics:
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/pdf/aahmi.pdf

I wonder what it is for mutt Trinis?  :D

I think it would cause issues.  Lawyers divorce rates are high as hell.  *&^%, divorce rates are high as hell.  Eventually one will have to sacrifice if they are planning to have a family.  No family?  it may not be such a big deal.  kids change things.  Unless they can get a nanny, there will be one person doing more career sacrifice than the other.  Hopefully they can afford a good nanny, or can find a salt of the earth illegal to instill some values in the child.

Well, I think two people making biglaw salaries can definitely afford a nanny. And I don't think we should forget the role of family! I think it would be much easier to manage if you're close to your and/or your spouse's family. Just another support network I guess.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Stand under my Umbrella ella ella, aye!! on July 08, 2007, 11:23:22 AM
According to this study, the AA divorce rate is 12%, compared to 10% for whites and 7% for hispanics:
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/pdf/aahmi.pdf

I wonder what it is for mutt Trinis?  :D

I think it would cause issues.  Lawyers divorce rates are high as hell.  sh*t, divorce rates are high as hell.  Eventually one will have to sacrifice if they are planning to have a family.  No family?  it may not be such a big deal.  kids change things.  Unless they can get a nanny, there will be one person doing more career sacrifice than the other.  Hopefully they can afford a good nanny, or can find a salt of the earth illegal to instill some values in the child.

Well, I think two people making biglaw salaries can definitely afford a nanny. And I don't think we should forget the role of family! I think it would be much easier to manage if you're close to your and/or your spouse's family. Just another support network I guess.

Is a highly underated statement.  Grandparents or caring aunts and uncles can mean all the difference in the world.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: cui bono? on July 09, 2007, 10:42:30 AM
LMAO, Ya'll crack me up.  Aint nobody trying to step on the backs of loved ones.  Just saying-  the law is a jealous mistress evetually some kinda sacrifice will  have to be made.  Not saying dead the relationship (like I did  :D) but 'splain to the SO how the law is if not in the field.  If they are in the field both will have to take a back seat at some pt.  Like if I had a big case that I was stressed about, then he'd have to back up for a min.  If he had a huge case that he was stressing over, I'd have to back up a min.  Or if we had to attend a function to impress the big whigs @ the firm. 

And no, the law isn't the only profession out there like that but, the law seems like a whole 'nother animal.     


amen amen... that's exactly how i feel.. folks are acting like life is beginning and ending with "the law".. screw that  :D like all of a sudden we're important.. and the "little people" ie the folk we love and those that love and support us have to now take a back seat... folks that choose to live like that will suffer one way or another @ some point in their lives.. u can't step on the backs of those that support u just because u're starting to make that paper...

okay so I may be alone in this but how do u guys feel about dating someone in the field vs someone outside of it?  in a lot of ways it's easier but sometimes, its harder. what do u guys think? 

My SO is also in the field (old news, I know). I find it VERY comforting because we both have to go through the same things so he's really understanding. And we'll probably both end up in BigLaw, which I don't have a problem with either. We'll be working comparable hours so I don't think there'll be a lot of resentment. Also, hopefully it'll make us appreciate our time together. So it works for me.

I've been dating in the field too.  Which is great for me because he's a bit more experienced in the field so he's able to tell me what I'm going to go thru before I go thru it.  Then once I go thru it, he's able to give me advice as to how to deal.  But he's not that much more experienced to where it's like he's my dad or something.  We'll prolly end up in different areas in the law tho.  He's more analytical than I am. I'm more passionate about ppl and would be in something like civil rights/public interest and I can see him in something a lil more "dry". 

But I'm just wondering should a relationship where 2 ppl are involved in law progress, woildn't it eventually cause issues?  Like if they both have a really important firm event to go to on the same night and the events are in diff states or something, which do they go to or do they go to their respective ones?  I just think eventually one will have to sacrifice for the other.

   

I don't think having to sacrifice for professional obligations is specific to the legal profession.  Events, long-hours etc can arise in any profession and sacrifice comes with the territory of being in a relationship....it coincides with comprimise.  My S.O. has unpredictable hours and in my previous profession, depending on the project, I would have long hours, OOT meetings/conference/trainings/networking events etc. If we could attend events together - great, if not - no biggie.  Such sacrifices would definitely fall into the 'minor' category of things that can cause problems in a long-term relationship. 
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: pikey on July 09, 2007, 10:49:08 AM
LMAO, Ya'll crack me up.  Aint nobody trying to step on the backs of loved ones.  Just saying-  the law is a jealous mistress evetually some kinda sacrifice will  have to be made.  Not saying dead the relationship (like I did  :D) but 'splain to the SO how the law is if not in the field.  If they are in the field both will have to take a back seat at some pt.  Like if I had a big case that I was stressed about, then he'd have to back up for a min.  If he had a huge case that he was stressing over, I'd have to back up a min.  Or if we had to attend a function to impress the big whigs @ the firm. 
And no, the law isn't the only profession out there like that but, the law seems like a whole 'nother animal.     


amen amen... that's exactly how i feel.. folks are acting like life is beginning and ending with "the law".. screw that  :D like all of a sudden we're important.. and the "little people" ie the folk we love and those that love and support us have to now take a back seat... folks that choose to live like that will suffer one way or another @ some point in their lives.. u can't step on the backs of those that support u just because u're starting to make that paper...

okay so I may be alone in this but how do u guys feel about dating someone in the field vs someone outside of it?  in a lot of ways it's easier but sometimes, its harder. what do u guys think? 

My SO is also in the field (old news, I know). I find it VERY comforting because we both have to go through the same things so he's really understanding. And we'll probably both end up in BigLaw, which I don't have a problem with either. We'll be working comparable hours so I don't think there'll be a lot of resentment. Also, hopefully it'll make us appreciate our time together. So it works for me.

I've been dating in the field too.  Which is great for me because he's a bit more experienced in the field so he's able to tell me what I'm going to go thru before I go thru it.  Then once I go thru it, he's able to give me advice as to how to deal.  But he's not that much more experienced to where it's like he's my dad or something.  We'll prolly end up in different areas in the law tho.  He's more analytical than I am. I'm more passionate about ppl and would be in something like civil rights/public interest and I can see him in something a lil more "dry". 

But I'm just wondering should a relationship where 2 ppl are involved in law progress, woildn't it eventually cause issues?  Like if they both have a really important firm event to go to on the same night and the events are in diff states or something, which do they go to or do they go to their respective ones?  I just think eventually one will have to sacrifice for the other.

   

I don't think having to sacrifice for professional obligations is specific to the legal profession.  Events, long-hours etc can arise in any profession and sacrifice comes with the territory of being in a relationship....it coincides with comprimise.  My S.O. has unpredictable hours and in my previous profession, depending on the project, I would have long hours, OOT meetings/conference/trainings/networking events etc. If we could attend events together - great, if not - no biggie.  Such sacrifices would definitely fall into the 'minor' category of things that can cause problems in a long-term relationship. 

That's the norm for most professions.  My parents are an investment banker and an accountant and they definitely have to deal with stuff like that.  You make it work for you.  Law is no different.  Hell, I've only been working for two years and I already have schmoozy events that I'm required to attend.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: cui bono? on July 09, 2007, 10:59:05 AM
Yeah my mom is a teacher and my dad, before he retired, was an electric technician.   I do think the law is a lil' diff than a lot of other professions tho.  I had to schmooze as a RE agent. IT SUCKED!  However, it was a different thing than when I went to firm nights etc.   So, I'm just wondering how it would be if me and the future hubby were both lawyers.  Would seem to me like they'd have to alternate the backseat. 
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Nemesis on July 09, 2007, 11:41:36 AM
So the conclusion is that, in order to make their relationship work, they have to be willing to compromise!

Well everybody has to do that so I feel a lot better.  :P
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: law_dawg_07 on July 09, 2007, 12:58:14 PM
I agree with you in that sacrifices will have to be made.  And yet another thing that comes to mind is that if I am such the busy attorney married to or dating yet an equally busy attorney, what kind of life does that equate to?  Its great to have that mutual understanding going but is the trade-off depriving yourself of a normal relationship?

Yeah my mom is a teacher and my dad, before he retired, was an electric technician.   I do think the law is a lil' diff than a lot of other professions tho.  I had to schmooze as a RE agent. IT SUCKED!  However, it was a different thing than when I went to firm nights etc.   So, I'm just wondering how it would be if me and the future hubby were both lawyers.  Would seem to me like they'd have to alternate the backseat. 
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Nemesis on July 09, 2007, 01:00:43 PM
I agree with you in that sacrifices will have to be made.  And yet another thing that comes to mind is that if I am such the busy attorney married to or dating yet an equally busy attorney, what kind of life does that equate to?  Its great to have that mutual understanding going but is the trade-off depriving yourself of a normal relationship?

What would a normal relationship be? A busy attorney and a not so busy SO?
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: blk_reign on July 09, 2007, 01:38:00 PM
who knows? i'm getting a headache reading all of this lol :D..if the love is real it'll work regardless of the profession period... life is about compromise unless u're living it alone

I agree with you in that sacrifices will have to be made.  And yet another thing that comes to mind is that if I am such the busy attorney married to or dating yet an equally busy attorney, what kind of life does that equate to?  Its great to have that mutual understanding going but is the trade-off depriving yourself of a normal relationship?

What would a normal relationship be? A busy attorney and a not so busy SO?
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: justGem on July 09, 2007, 01:46:05 PM
Words outta my mouth. (literally about 2 pages back :D ...why is this dead horse still taking a beating  ???)

who knows? i'm getting a headache reading all of this lol :D..if the love is real it'll work regardless of the profession period... life is about compromise unless u're living it alone

I agree with you in that sacrifices will have to be made.  And yet another thing that comes to mind is that if I am such the busy attorney married to or dating yet an equally busy attorney, what kind of life does that equate to?  Its great to have that mutual understanding going but is the trade-off depriving yourself of a normal relationship?

What would a normal relationship be? A busy attorney and a not so busy SO?
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: blk_reign on July 09, 2007, 02:13:23 PM
i have my suspicions but i'll keep my mouth shut :-X

Words outta my mouth. (literally about 2 pages back :D ...why is this dead horse still taking a beating  ???)

who knows? i'm getting a headache reading all of this lol :D..if the love is real it'll work regardless of the profession period... life is about compromise unless u're living it alone

I agree with you in that sacrifices will have to be made.  And yet another thing that comes to mind is that if I am such the busy attorney married to or dating yet an equally busy attorney, what kind of life does that equate to?  Its great to have that mutual understanding going but is the trade-off depriving yourself of a normal relationship?

What would a normal relationship be? A busy attorney and a not so busy SO?
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Nemesis on July 09, 2007, 02:27:58 PM
i have my suspicions but i'll keep my mouth shut :-X

hrmmm...

lotta secrets on the board today...
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 09, 2007, 02:29:40 PM
you found out mine. well, everyone knew but you but still lol  :D
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Nemesis on July 09, 2007, 02:33:58 PM
you found out mine. well, everyone knew but you but still lol  :D

Yeah and I thought we were pals!  >:(
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 09, 2007, 02:36:48 PM
you found out mine. well, everyone knew but you but still lol  :D

Yeah and I thought we were pals!  >:(

it never came up. sowee  :-[
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Nemesis on July 09, 2007, 02:38:40 PM
it never came up. sowee  :-[

Apology accepted  ;D

Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: law_dawg_07 on July 09, 2007, 03:08:32 PM
Good point.  Just asking cause this law thing is a bit intimidating that's all.  Sorry if I am guilty of beating a dead horse...I must admit that I dont really read everything on here...


I agree with you in that sacrifices will have to be made.  And yet another thing that comes to mind is that if I am such the busy attorney married to or dating yet an equally busy attorney, what kind of life does that equate to?  Its great to have that mutual understanding going but is the trade-off depriving yourself of a normal relationship?

What would a normal relationship be? A busy attorney and a not so busy SO?
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Burning Sands, Esq. on July 09, 2007, 07:14:05 PM
I wont even pretend to front as if I read any of the preceding 18 or so pages in detail, but I just wanted to add a story from my mentee who just finished up his 1L year that ties into the original question that (I assume) this thread is predicated upon: is it a wise idea to date in law school - understood as, is it a wise idea to START dating in law school...

His story in a nutshell. Bright kid. Focussed.  Worked for a few years before coming to law school.  Had a long-term on & off relationship (you know the type) for a number of years with lady friend from undergrad.  The infamous relationship without a title.  Halfway through first semester, as he was closing out the library every day which is customary for 1L's to do, she started commenting more and more on his lack of availability.  Somewhere after the 2nd LRW assignment, the kid finally catches some free time and goes back home for the weekend, only to find that baby girl is chillin with ya boy Craig and them - talkin' about see ya when I see ya, peace!  Two fingers, shootin up the deuces.  Now, whether she was wrong or within her right is largely irrelevant to the toll that it had on my mentee's studies and how off balance he got as a result.  When somebody's been in your life that long I guess it's not exactly easy to just "brush it off."  Had it occurred during finals it may have been fatal.  Luckily for my mentee (relatively speaking) it occurred during the middle of the semester and he was able to bounce back and get it together but he never quite recovered that lost time and ended up doing so-so on first semester finals.

2nd semester, same kid, starts dating a law student at another law school.  Cool girl.  2L.  Somebody who knows wsup with the time constraints of law school.  Seems like a good look at first...   


BUT as it turns out baby girl has an ex-boyfriend that she hasn't quite gotten out of her system.  And she doesn't disclose this to my mentee until after they've been dating for a few months.  By that time I guess things had gotten somewhat serious between my mentee and baby girl and between baby girl and her ex, and thus the 3 of them ended up spending the rest of the semester caught up in a love triangle.  Again, my man's study time invariably suffered.

Now the weird part about this story is that my mentee is not the type of cat who you would classify as the unfocused type.  He hits the books like next 1L, always hitting me up for advice on classes, jobs, professors, etc.  But he did allow that room for infiltration during his 1L year that inevitably had an effect on his concentration, which in turn, had an effect on his grades.  I ran into him the other day and he said something that stuck with me.  He said in looking back at his first year, he realizes that he allowed his dating life to have too much control over his law school life, and that he's always going to wonder how much better his 1L year could have ended up if he had never had those distractions.


Even though I'm pretty sure things will work out for the man, he makes a good point.

Food for thought.







Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Burning Sands, Esq. on July 09, 2007, 08:53:33 PM
You're a downer, yo. :D

LOL

Don't kill the messenger.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: pikey on July 10, 2007, 06:07:20 AM
You're a downer, yo. :D

LOL

Don't kill the messenger.

What about all the stories of relationships that helped people?
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: cui bono? on July 10, 2007, 06:20:10 AM
i have my suspicions but i'll keep my mouth shut :-X

hrmmm...

lotta secrets on the board today...


Secrets?  well damn, I feel left out!  IWANNAKNOW!  :D


I wont even pretend to front as if I read any of the preceding 18 or so pages in detail, but I just wanted to add a story from my mentee who just finished up his 1L year that ties into the original question that (I assume) this thread is predicated upon: is it a wise idea to date in law school - understood as, is it a wise idea to START dating in law school...

His story in a nutshell. Bright kid. Focussed.  Worked for a few years before coming to law school.  Had a long-term on & off relationship (you know the type) for a number of years with lady friend from undergrad.  The infamous relationship without a title.  Halfway through first semester, as he was closing out the library every day which is customary for 1L's to do, she started commenting more and more on his lack of availability.  Somewhere after the 2nd LRW assignment, the kid finally catches some free time and goes back home for the weekend, only to find that baby girl is chillin with ya boy Craig and them - talkin' about see ya when I see ya, peace!  Two fingers, shootin up the deuces.  Now, whether she was wrong or within her right is largely irrelevant to the toll that it had on my mentee's studies and how off balance he got as a result.  When somebody's been in your life that long I guess it's not exactly easy to just "brush it off."  Had it occurred during finals it may have been fatal.  Luckily for my mentee (relatively speaking) it occurred during the middle of the semester and he was able to bounce back and get it together but he never quite recovered that lost time and ended up doing so-so on first semester finals.

2nd semester, same kid, starts dating a law student at another law school.  Cool girl.  2L.  Somebody who knows wsup with the time constraints of law school.  Seems like a good look at first...  


BUT as it turns out baby girl has an ex-boyfriend that she hasn't quite gotten out of her system.  And she doesn't disclose this to my mentee until after they've been dating for a few months.  By that time I guess things had gotten somewhat serious between my mentee and baby girl and between baby girl and her ex, and thus the 3 of them ended up spending the rest of the semester caught up in a love triangle.  Again, my man's study time invariably suffered.

Now the weird part about this story is that my mentee is not the type of cat who you would classify as the unfocused type.  He hits the books like next 1L, always hitting me up for advice on classes, jobs, professors, etc.  But he did allow that room for infiltration during his 1L year that inevitably had an effect on his concentration, which in turn, had an effect on his grades.  I ran into him the other day and he said something that stuck with me.  He said in looking back at his first year, he realizes that he allowed his dating life to have too much control over his law school life, and that he's always going to wonder how much better his 1L year could have ended up if he had never had those distractions.


Even though I'm pretty sure things will work out for the man, he makes a good point.

Food for thought.




is a downer.  But a good cautionary tale.  The 0Ls should know that the dating scene is gonna take a beating. 

You're a downer, yo. :D

LOL

Don't kill the messenger.

What about all the stories of relationships that helped people?

go back a few pages.  I have some more tales that are good but I kinda wanna steer ppl away from that. 
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: n/a on July 10, 2007, 06:49:40 AM
I don't get it.  Seems like alot of people on here WANT to get into a relationship when they get to LS.

Itd be one thing if you're trying to keep a LDR going you brought with you to school... but to start a new one DURING school???  Why bother?

Besides, we are not a good-looking group, ha.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 10, 2007, 06:50:46 AM
lol
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: cui bono? on July 10, 2007, 06:53:15 AM
I don't get it.  Seems like alot of people on here WANT to get into a relationship when they get to LS.

Itd be one thing if you're trying to keep a LDR going you brought with you to school... but to start a new one DURING school???  Why bother?

Besides, we are not a good-looking group, ha.


been trying to tell folks.   LS---> not a lot of good looking ppls.  As u go up the educational ladder, down goes the level of attractiveness  :D  

Eh but it's the type of thing that you have to be there to really get it, ya know?  Soon as ppl get in they wont be worried about this type of stuff.  The focus will soon change. When I was a 0L, I was asking folks "what do LS students wear"  :D
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: pikey on July 10, 2007, 07:16:24 AM

You're a downer, yo. :D

LOL

Don't kill the messenger.

What about all the stories of relationships that helped people?

go back a few pages.  I have some more tales that are good but I kinda wanna steer ppl away from that.  

Why?  There are plenty of people who maintain happy, healthy relationships in ls.  You should have an idea about how much "drama" is involved in your relationship.  In old boy's case, long term on-again-off-again relationships are rarely drama free.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: cui bono? on July 10, 2007, 07:22:46 AM

You're a downer, yo. :D

LOL

Don't kill the messenger.

What about all the stories of relationships that helped people?

go back a few pages.  I have some more tales that are good but I kinda wanna steer ppl away from that.  

Why?  There are plenty of people who maintain happy, healthy relationships in ls.  You should have an idea about how much "drama" is involved in your relationship.  In old boy's case, long term on-again-off-again relationships are rarely drama free.

LS is a new game.  It does put pressure on the relationship-  even a good solid one.  Marriages break up.  And yes, ppl do maintain good relationships while in LS.  I know of plenty of ppl and I have done it myself.  Optimism is good.  Realism is better.  What I want the 0ls to do is solidify their relationships NOW b4 they get into school-  dating, parents, friends, etc.  'Splain that LS is gonna be hard-  gonna take time esp until u get ur bearings.  The relationship WILL change somewhat. 

I dont want to paint a sunshiney view of relationships in LS and getting 0ls' hopes up.  I want to scare u so that u do what I want u to do  :D  which is soldify the relationships now/hone those good communication skills/splain how LS is. 
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: cui bono? on July 10, 2007, 07:47:18 AM
But why paint a view at all?  Everyone's different, and everyone deals differently with relationships.  Why not just say, you know what, LS can be a little rough from a dating perspective, but be careful and aware, and do you?


Want u all to be prepared.  LS is no joke. Will hurt even the strongest relationships a lil.  Hopefully it will make it stronger. But yes, by all means, "do you".   But I kinda feel like a big sis knowing what ya'll are about to go thru
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: n/a on July 10, 2007, 07:47:43 AM
But why paint a view at all?  Everyone's different, and everyone deals differently with relationships.  Why not just say, you know what, LS can be a little rough from a dating perspective, but be careful and aware, and do you?

Because she's trying to help people.  She could just say "F these guys, theyll learn the hard way"

Just because people are different doesn't mean that the same stresses and strains on relationships wont exist for the huge majority of LS students.  I appreciate the advice, and had gotten it into my head that it would NOT be a good idea to get into a relationship or chase tail, other than random play at the bars.  The above 20 pages just solidify that premonition.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Nemesis on July 10, 2007, 08:03:13 AM
been trying to tell folks.   LS---> not a lot of good looking ppls. As u go up the educational ladder, down goes the level of attractiveness  :D  

Eh but it's the type of thing that you have to be there to really get it, ya know?  Soon as ppl get in they wont be worried about this type of stuff.  The focus will soon change. When I was a 0L, I was asking folks "what do LS students wear"  :D

Say what now? I'm fine as hell!
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 10, 2007, 08:06:22 AM
i thought that, the smart uglies/dumb hotties thing, to be true. but i don't think so anymore.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: cui bono? on July 10, 2007, 08:07:29 AM
been trying to tell folks.   LS---> not a lot of good looking ppls. As u go up the educational ladder, down goes the level of attractiveness  :D  

Eh but it's the type of thing that you have to be there to really get it, ya know?  Soon as ppl get in they wont be worried about this type of stuff.  The focus will soon change. When I was a 0L, I was asking folks "what do LS students wear"  :D

Say what now? I'm fine as hell!

Of course u are but 2 of us can't possibly go to every school  ;)  Just not fair for the other 200+ law schools out there  :D

But why paint a view at all?  Everyone's different, and everyone deals differently with relationships.  Why not just say, you know what, LS can be a little rough from a dating perspective, but be careful and aware, and do you?

Because she's trying to help people.  She could just say "F these guys, theyll learn the hard way"

Just because people are different doesn't mean that the same stresses and strains on relationships wont exist for the huge majority of LS students.  I appreciate the advice, and had gotten it into my head that it would NOT be a good idea to get into a relationship or chase tail, other than random play at the bars.  The above 20 pages just solidify that premonition.

 :-* :-*

I didn't say don't make people aware - I said, why (essentially) say "don't do it"?  By all means, inform, but why take it to the next level?

That being said, I understand where cui and Sands are coming from in that they're trying to be helpful, and I certainly appreciate it.  I just don't quite get the mild hating on relationships entire, regardless of type or situation.  Since I'm sort of an outside observer, as I'm not in a relationship and am not really looking for one, the situation is just . . . curious to me.

Eh, Sands and I aren't saying "don't do it".  LOL- this all comes full circle because this time last year he and some others were telling me the same thing.  And I was like, "why, I dont understand...why is everyone being so anti-relationship.  Am I going to be so jaded when I finish?".  Now, I get it.  The student has become the teacher!  And I did give some good examples.  I'm being manipulative in the sense that I'm trying to scare ya'll into doing something that I want you to do for yourself:  If u all are in one, I want u to solidify it rt. now; If you are not in one, I want u to understand that pursuing one will be more difficult.  Why? Because LS is different than anything you have faced before.  

I'm ironically not anti-relationship.  I'm anti-badrelationship and I'm anti-anythingthatcausesmo'stress.  Dating is possible.

 
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: justGem on July 10, 2007, 08:08:10 AM
been trying to tell folks.   LS---> not a lot of good looking ppls. As u go up the educational ladder, down goes the level of attractiveness  :D 

Eh but it's the type of thing that you have to be there to really get it, ya know?  Soon as ppl get in they wont be worried about this type of stuff.  The focus will soon change. When I was a 0L, I was asking folks "what do LS students wear"  :D

Say what now? I'm fine as hell!

Amen, you ain't the only one! :D
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: cui bono? on July 10, 2007, 08:08:47 AM
Man, but overall boyz and galz  yeeeech
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: cui bono? on July 10, 2007, 10:11:43 AM

Of course u are but 2 of us can't possibly go to every school  ;)  Just not fair for the other 200+ law schools out there  :D
 

Whatchu mean, the 2 of you? :P :D
okay +1 = 3 of us
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: cui bono? on July 10, 2007, 10:18:09 AM
LOL-  neither Sands nor I will be hurt if ya'll go ahead and get into a relationship despite our "protests".  We are saying "do you"  but we're saying "do you... proceed with caution".  I'm saying that I want you guys to be healthy, wealthy, and happy.  The way to do that is to be cautious.  And ANYTHING/ANYONE that causes you stress while in your first yr, you need to have the strength to wave goodbye to, at least for the moment.  Not saying dead the relationship-  but modify it if it causes a prob.  But SOLIDIFY the relationships now. It's not as doom and gloom as I guess it seems like we're saying. 
    LOL this is soooo funny because I was saying this exact thing last year!    I was like "Sands/SMU/etc, it seems like ppl in law school are so down on relationships/ no real patience for ppl.  What's the deal with that?  I hope I don't get that way"  HAHA!  LS kinda changes ur perspective on things.  Doesn't change u completely but you see things differently as you begin "thinking like a lawyer".  Even things that you'd think are totally unrelated to LS.  For me, I'm not as sensitive as I was in my relationships-  better things to worry about.
        Dating is do-able.    But dating the wrong ppl is now more detrimental than it was b4 because of the situations Sands described.  What if it were closer to exam time?  What if he didn't bounce back?  I guess we should be advocating more "coping" skills but it's easier just to say "be careful". 
    I have more "pretty" stories.  Like how 2 of my friends met in LS 2 years ago.  Started out just studying together and now very serious and a "power" couple - doing very big things in BLSA.  Very attractive.  Both are supportive of the other and both are very ambituous. 
    Another story:  my mentor just got engaged!!!!  He's studying for the bar right now and rt before he graduated he proposed to his long time g/f.  The g/f is not in the field.  She seems wonderful.  And not to sound too girly (sorry fellas) but I love the way she looks at him-  so adoring, so sweet.    She's interested in his interests too-  shows up at events. Permanent fixture at BLSA events.  And is more than just "arm candy"  as she adds to the discussion at the dinner table. He's very "revolutionary" and she kinda mellows him out without being emasculating.  She seems to share his interests as far as his need to reach out to the newbies, like myself- she's right along with him cosigning what he says about succeeding in LS.  Granted she's not in LS but she's seen a whole bunch being with him.  They're so beautiful together and I'm really happy for him. 
    Obvious story:  SMU!   
 
Now this is the "dating & relationships thread", I'm curious as to why there aren't any questions/discussions on other "relationships" to be had in LS.  Like just being friends-  m/f,  mentor-mentee relationships (Sands mentioned he was a mentor to this guy, why not ask Sands about that instead of saying how much of a downer Sands' post was; I just mentioned that I have a mentor, ask me about that), professor/student relationships (dating or otherwise); study groups; what happens to your relationships with your best friends that aren't going to LS now that you are; how is your relationship gonna be with the parental unit(s) now that you are in LS, organizations, etc.  Back to the mentor/mentee thing-  why not ask how that came about, what are the benefits, what goes into being a good mentee/mentor, is it just students or actual lawyers, how do u ask someone to become ur mentor, should your mentor be the same sex as you/same potential field?   The focus on the dating thing is kinda why I may seem so anti-relationship  ---> I don't want you guys to focus on the wrong thing and end up hurting yourselves.    
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: pikey on July 10, 2007, 10:25:11 AM
It's not a matter of focusing on the wrong thing.  I think (hope) we all know that there's more to life than "him" or "her".  Most people who see the title "dating and relationships" would assume the thread is about dating and other types of non-platonic relationships, not about relationships with your mentor.

In addition, law school and future career simply isn't the number one focus for everyone.  Obviously it is for you, that's great, but it's also great that other people have other focuses.  I've seen too many people live hectic, career-dominated lives and I am determined that I will not be one of them.  I am all about the balance.  Law school and my career will be very important, but they will not be the be all and end all in my life.  Maybe I won't do as well as I could.  But I'd rather do ok and be happy than stress myself out, cut everyone off, and be at the top of my class.  I know that I'll have great options regardless and I'll be sucessful regardless.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: cui bono? on July 10, 2007, 10:32:15 AM
It's not a matter of focusing on the wrong thing.  I think (hope) we all know that there's more to life than "him" or "her".  Most people who see the title "dating and relationships" would assume the thread is about dating and other types of non-platonic relationships, not about relationships with your mentor.

In addition, law school and future career simply isn't the number one focus for everyone.  Obviously it is for you, that's great, but it's also great that other people have other focuses.  I've seen too many people live hectic, career-dominated lives and I am determined that I will not be one of them.  I am all about the balance.  Law school and my career will be very important, but they will not be the be all and end all in my life.  Maybe I won't do as well as I could.  But I'd rather do ok and be happy than stress myself out, cut everyone off, and be at the top of my class.  I know that I'll have great options regardless and I'll be sucessful regardless.

LOL, u said u were looking to improve your reasoning earlier so lemme help u.  You're missing the pt.  of mine and Sands' responses.  I'm saying one thing and you are seeing quite another.  Not saying it is the #1 focus for everyone.  But I guess I'm assuming that if you are paying $ for legal ed, u wanna do well. Neither Sands nor I is saying that you can't date and if you do, u wont do as well.  No one is talking about balance. You should have balance in ur life, LS or otherwise.  Should be a goal. And I'm talking about stress the other way! And nowhere did I say that u personally will not be sucessful.  Not what the heck I was talking about but: Meeting a mate in LS should not be a focus period for a number of reasons.   I'm sorry but u are missing the point entirely.   ??? 

And "relationships in LS" regardless of the assumption could be what I just described. - just to help out the "reasoning"  ;) 
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: pikey on July 10, 2007, 10:43:35 AM
It's not a matter of focusing on the wrong thing.  I think (hope) we all know that there's more to life than "him" or "her".  Most people who see the title "dating and relationships" would assume the thread is about dating and other types of non-platonic relationships, not about relationships with your mentor.

In addition, law school and future career simply isn't the number one focus for everyone.  Obviously it is for you, that's great, but it's also great that other people have other focuses.  I've seen too many people live hectic, career-dominated lives and I am determined that I will not be one of them.  I am all about the balance.  Law school and my career will be very important, but they will not be the be all and end all in my life.  Maybe I won't do as well as I could.  But I'd rather do ok and be happy than stress myself out, cut everyone off, and be at the top of my class.  I know that I'll have great options regardless and I'll be sucessful regardless.

LOL, u said u were looking to improve your reasoning earlier so lemme help u.  You're missing the pt.  of mine and Sands' responses.  I'm saying one thing and you are seeing quite another.  Not saying it is the #1 focus for everyone.  But I guess I'm assuming that if you are paying $ for legal ed, u wanna do well. Neither Sands nor I is saying that you can't date and if you do, u wont do as well.  No one is talking about balance. You should have balance in ur life, LS or otherwise.  Should be a goal. And I'm talking about stress the other way! And nowhere did I say that u personally will not be sucessful.  Not what the heck I was talking about but: Meeting a mate in LS should not be a focus period for a number of reasons.   I'm sorry but u are missing the point entirely.   ??? 

And "relationships in LS" regardless of the assumption could be what I just described. - just to help out the "reasoning"  ;) 

Maybe that's what you intend.  But it comes across quite differently.  Anyway, this is a stupid arguement.  You're gonna do you, I'm gonna do me, and hopefully we all do well.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: cui bono? on July 10, 2007, 10:48:40 AM
 ::) ::) ::)  Sweetie, u couldnt be further away.  And u do that quite often with me and I'm starting to think it's more personal. I could say the sky is blue and you'd take it to mean something else and find SOMETHING "wrong" with it. Every week I say something and you say "well that what u may have meant but that's not how it comes across"  That's not how it comes across to YOU.  I think it's a lil disgusting.  Whatever... I aint got no beef with you.  But you do need a little more help with reasoning, I'd be glad to help u.  I mean that sincerely.   :)     


It's not a matter of focusing on the wrong thing.  I think (hope) we all know that there's more to life than "him" or "her".  Most people who see the title "dating and relationships" would assume the thread is about dating and other types of non-platonic relationships, not about relationships with your mentor.

In addition, law school and future career simply isn't the number one focus for everyone.  Obviously it is for you, that's great, but it's also great that other people have other focuses.  I've seen too many people live hectic, career-dominated lives and I am determined that I will not be one of them.  I am all about the balance.  Law school and my career will be very important, but they will not be the be all and end all in my life.  Maybe I won't do as well as I could.  But I'd rather do ok and be happy than stress myself out, cut everyone off, and be at the top of my class.  I know that I'll have great options regardless and I'll be sucessful regardless.

LOL, u said u were looking to improve your reasoning earlier so lemme help u.  You're missing the pt.  of mine and Sands' responses.  I'm saying one thing and you are seeing quite another.  Not saying it is the #1 focus for everyone.  But I guess I'm assuming that if you are paying $ for legal ed, u wanna do well. Neither Sands nor I is saying that you can't date and if you do, u wont do as well.  No one is talking about balance. You should have balance in ur life, LS or otherwise.  Should be a goal. And I'm talking about stress the other way! And nowhere did I say that u personally will not be sucessful.  Not what the heck I was talking about but: Meeting a mate in LS should not be a focus period for a number of reasons.   I'm sorry but u are missing the point entirely.   ??? 

And "relationships in LS" regardless of the assumption could be what I just described. - just to help out the "reasoning"  ;) 

Maybe that's what you intend.  But it comes across quite differently.  Anyway, this is a stupid arguement.  You're gonna do you, I'm gonna do me, and hopefully we all do well.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: cui bono? on July 10, 2007, 10:49:49 AM
Before it got off track, this is where we were:

LOL-  neither Sands nor I will be hurt if ya'll go ahead and get into a relationship despite our "protests".  We are saying "do you"  but we're saying "do you... proceed with caution".  I'm saying that I want you guys to be healthy, wealthy, and happy.  The way to do that is to be cautious.  And ANYTHING/ANYONE that causes you stress while in your first yr, you need to have the strength to wave goodbye to, at least for the moment.  Not saying dead the relationship-  but modify it if it causes a prob.  But SOLIDIFY the relationships now. It's not as doom and gloom as I guess it seems like we're saying. 
    LOL this is soooo funny because I was saying this exact thing last year!    I was like "Sands/SMU/etc, it seems like ppl in law school are so down on relationships/ no real patience for ppl.  What's the deal with that?  I hope I don't get that way"  HAHA!  LS kinda changes ur perspective on things.  Doesn't change u completely but you see things differently as you begin "thinking like a lawyer".  Even things that you'd think are totally unrelated to LS.  For me, I'm not as sensitive as I was in my relationships-  better things to worry about.
        Dating is do-able.    But dating the wrong ppl is now more detrimental than it was b4 because of the situations Sands described.  What if it were closer to exam time?  What if he didn't bounce back?  I guess we should be advocating more "coping" skills but it's easier just to say "be careful". 
    I have more "pretty" stories.  Like how 2 of my friends met in LS 2 years ago.  Started out just studying together and now very serious and a "power" couple - doing very big things in BLSA.  Very attractive.  Both are supportive of the other and both are very ambituous. 
    Another story:  my mentor just got engaged!!!!  He's studying for the bar right now and rt before he graduated he proposed to his long time g/f.  The g/f is not in the field.  She seems wonderful.  And not to sound too girly (sorry fellas) but I love the way she looks at him-  so adoring, so sweet.    She's interested in his interests too-  shows up at events. Permanent fixture at BLSA events.  And is more than just "arm candy"  as she adds to the discussion at the dinner table. He's very "revolutionary" and she kinda mellows him out without being emasculating.  She seems to share his interests as far as his need to reach out to the newbies, like myself- she's right along with him cosigning what he says about succeeding in LS.  Granted she's not in LS but she's seen a whole bunch being with him.  They're so beautiful together and I'm really happy for him. 
    Obvious story:  SMU!   
 
Now this is the "dating & relationships thread", I'm curious as to why there aren't any questions/discussions on other "relationships" to be had in LS.  Like just being friends-  m/f,  mentor-mentee relationships (Sands mentioned he was a mentor to this guy, why not ask Sands about that instead of saying how much of a downer Sands' post was; I just mentioned that I have a mentor, ask me about that), professor/student relationships (dating or otherwise); study groups; what happens to your relationships with your best friends that aren't going to LS now that you are; how is your relationship gonna be with the parental unit(s) now that you are in LS, organizations, etc.  Back to the mentor/mentee thing-  why not ask how that came about, what are the benefits, what goes into being a good mentee/mentor, is it just students or actual lawyers, how do u ask someone to become ur mentor, should your mentor be the same sex as you/same potential field?   The focus on the dating thing is kinda why I may seem so anti-relationship  ---> I don't want you guys to focus on the wrong thing and end up hurting yourselves.    

Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 10, 2007, 10:51:18 AM
o lord :-\
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Special Agent Dana Scully on July 10, 2007, 10:52:54 AM
smh @ this post...so patronizing

::) ::) ::)  Sweetie, u couldnt be further away.  And u do that quite often with me and I'm starting to think it's more personal. I could say the sky is blue and you'd take it to mean something else and find SOMETHING "wrong" with it. Every week I say something and you say "well that what u may have meant but that's not how it comes across"  That's not how it comes across to YOU.  I think it's a lil disgusting.  Whatever... I aint got no beef with you.  But you do need a little more help with reasoning, I'd be glad to help u.     


It's not a matter of focusing on the wrong thing.  I think (hope) we all know that there's more to life than "him" or "her".  Most people who see the title "dating and relationships" would assume the thread is about dating and other types of non-platonic relationships, not about relationships with your mentor.

In addition, law school and future career simply isn't the number one focus for everyone.  Obviously it is for you, that's great, but it's also great that other people have other focuses.  I've seen too many people live hectic, career-dominated lives and I am determined that I will not be one of them.  I am all about the balance.  Law school and my career will be very important, but they will not be the be all and end all in my life.  Maybe I won't do as well as I could.  But I'd rather do ok and be happy than stress myself out, cut everyone off, and be at the top of my class.  I know that I'll have great options regardless and I'll be sucessful regardless.

LOL, u said u were looking to improve your reasoning earlier so lemme help u.  You're missing the pt.  of mine and Sands' responses.  I'm saying one thing and you are seeing quite another.  Not saying it is the #1 focus for everyone.  But I guess I'm assuming that if you are paying $ for legal ed, u wanna do well. Neither Sands nor I is saying that you can't date and if you do, u wont do as well.  No one is talking about balance. You should have balance in ur life, LS or otherwise.  Should be a goal. And I'm talking about stress the other way! And nowhere did I say that u personally will not be sucessful.  Not what the heck I was talking about but: Meeting a mate in LS should not be a focus period for a number of reasons.   I'm sorry but u are missing the point entirely.   ??? 

And "relationships in LS" regardless of the assumption could be what I just described. - just to help out the "reasoning"  ;) 

Maybe that's what you intend.  But it comes across quite differently.  Anyway, this is a stupid arguement.  You're gonna do you, I'm gonna do me, and hopefully we all do well.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: cui bono? on July 10, 2007, 10:55:27 AM
Why not focus on what I was actually saying?  Not meant to be patronizing.  Was meant sincerely.   

smh @ this post...so patronizing

::) ::) ::)  Sweetie, u couldnt be further away.  And u do that quite often with me and I'm starting to think it's more personal. I could say the sky is blue and you'd take it to mean something else and find SOMETHING "wrong" with it. Every week I say something and you say "well that what u may have meant but that's not how it comes across"  That's not how it comes across to YOU.  I think it's a lil disgusting.  Whatever... I aint got no beef with you.  But you do need a little more help with reasoning, I'd be glad to help u.     


It's not a matter of focusing on the wrong thing.  I think (hope) we all know that there's more to life than "him" or "her".  Most people who see the title "dating and relationships" would assume the thread is about dating and other types of non-platonic relationships, not about relationships with your mentor.

In addition, law school and future career simply isn't the number one focus for everyone.  Obviously it is for you, that's great, but it's also great that other people have other focuses.  I've seen too many people live hectic, career-dominated lives and I am determined that I will not be one of them.  I am all about the balance.  Law school and my career will be very important, but they will not be the be all and end all in my life.  Maybe I won't do as well as I could.  But I'd rather do ok and be happy than stress myself out, cut everyone off, and be at the top of my class.  I know that I'll have great options regardless and I'll be sucessful regardless.

LOL, u said u were looking to improve your reasoning earlier so lemme help u.  You're missing the pt.  of mine and Sands' responses.  I'm saying one thing and you are seeing quite another.  Not saying it is the #1 focus for everyone.  But I guess I'm assuming that if you are paying $ for legal ed, u wanna do well. Neither Sands nor I is saying that you can't date and if you do, u wont do as well.  No one is talking about balance. You should have balance in ur life, LS or otherwise.  Should be a goal. And I'm talking about stress the other way! And nowhere did I say that u personally will not be sucessful.  Not what the heck I was talking about but: Meeting a mate in LS should not be a focus period for a number of reasons.   I'm sorry but u are missing the point entirely.   ??? 

And "relationships in LS" regardless of the assumption could be what I just described. - just to help out the "reasoning"  ;) 

Maybe that's what you intend.  But it comes across quite differently.  Anyway, this is a stupid arguement.  You're gonna do you, I'm gonna do me, and hopefully we all do well.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 10, 2007, 11:01:45 AM
you serious? Not meant to be patronizing? that's like throwing a bucket of water on someone and then being like "oh, I didn't mean for you to get wet."  :D
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: cui bono? on July 10, 2007, 11:04:00 AM
Yes, I am quite serious. The response was way off and condescending.  Why dont you respond to what I was actually saying instead of deliberately misunderstanding?
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: blk_reign on July 10, 2007, 11:04:53 AM
exactly...

you serious? Not meant to be patronizing? that's like throwing a bucket of water on someone and then being like "oh, I didn't mean for you to get wet."  :D
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: cui bono? on July 10, 2007, 11:05:50 AM
Wow.  umm no.   
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: justGem on July 10, 2007, 11:06:19 AM
you serious? Not meant to be patronizing? that's like throwing a bucket of water on someone and then being like "oh, I didn't mean for you to get wet."  :D

Lol, shut up.........sweetie ::)
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 10, 2007, 11:10:47 AM
you serious? Not meant to be patronizing? that's like throwing a bucket of water on someone and then being like "oh, I didn't mean for you to get wet."  :D

Lol, shut up.........sweetie ::)

lol whats wrong with this post?
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: cui bono? on July 10, 2007, 11:49:58 AM
the @#!*-you-post (to those that hypocritically refuse to stay on topic purposely  ;) :D) and welcoming those who wish to continue real discussion:

LOL-  neither Sands nor I will be hurt if ya'll go ahead and get into a relationship despite our "protests".  We are saying "do you"  but we're saying "do you... proceed with caution".  I'm saying that I want you guys to be healthy, wealthy, and happy.  The way to do that is to be cautious.  And ANYTHING/ANYONE that causes you stress while in your first yr, you need to have the strength to wave goodbye to, at least for the moment.  Not saying dead the relationship-  but modify it if it causes a prob.  But SOLIDIFY the relationships now. It's not as doom and gloom as I guess it seems like we're saying. 
    LOL this is soooo funny because I was saying this exact thing last year!    I was like "Sands/SMU/etc, it seems like ppl in law school are so down on relationships/ no real patience for ppl.  What's the deal with that?  I hope I don't get that way"  HAHA!  LS kinda changes ur perspective on things.  Doesn't change u completely but you see things differently as you begin "thinking like a lawyer".  Even things that you'd think are totally unrelated to LS.  For me, I'm not as sensitive as I was in my relationships-  better things to worry about.
        Dating is do-able.    But dating the wrong ppl is now more detrimental than it was b4 because of the situations Sands described.  What if it were closer to exam time?  What if he didn't bounce back?  I guess we should be advocating more "coping" skills but it's easier just to say "be careful". 
    I have more "pretty" stories.  Like how 2 of my friends met in LS 2 years ago.  Started out just studying together and now very serious and a "power" couple - doing very big things in BLSA.  Very attractive.  Both are supportive of the other and both are very ambituous. 
    Another story:  my mentor just got engaged!!!!  He's studying for the bar right now and rt before he graduated he proposed to his long time g/f.  The g/f is not in the field.  She seems wonderful.  And not to sound too girly (sorry fellas) but I love the way she looks at him-  so adoring, so sweet.    She's interested in his interests too-  shows up at events. Permanent fixture at BLSA events.  And is more than just "arm candy"  as she adds to the discussion at the dinner table. He's very "revolutionary" and she kinda mellows him out without being emasculating.  She seems to share his interests as far as his need to reach out to the newbies, like myself- she's right along with him cosigning what he says about succeeding in LS.  Granted she's not in LS but she's seen a whole bunch being with him.  They're so beautiful together and I'm really happy for him. 
    Obvious story:  SMU!   
 
Now this is the "dating & relationships thread", I'm curious as to why there aren't any questions/discussions on other "relationships" to be had in LS.  Like just being friends-  m/f,  mentor-mentee relationships (Sands mentioned he was a mentor to this guy, why not ask Sands about that instead of saying how much of a downer Sands' post was; I just mentioned that I have a mentor, ask me about that), professor/student relationships (dating or otherwise); study groups; what happens to your relationships with your best friends that aren't going to LS now that you are; how is your relationship gonna be with the parental unit(s) now that you are in LS, organizations, etc.  Back to the mentor/mentee thing-  why not ask how that came about, what are the benefits, what goes into being a good mentee/mentor, is it just students or actual lawyers, how do u ask someone to become ur mentor, should your mentor be the same sex as you/same potential field?   The focus on the dating thing is kinda why I may seem so anti-relationship  ---> I don't want you guys to focus on the wrong thing and end up hurting yourselves.    

Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Burning Sands, Esq. on July 10, 2007, 12:22:00 PM
You're a downer, yo. :D

LOL

Don't kill the messenger.

What about all the stories of relationships that helped people?

Exception to the rule, but not the rule.

The rule is, during 1L don't start nothing new.

The other general rule is if you already got somebody good, hold on to them.  They will help you.


That's about it.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: pikey on July 10, 2007, 12:24:27 PM
You're a downer, yo. :D

LOL

Don't kill the messenger.

What about all the stories of relationships that helped people?

Exception to the rule, but not the rule.

The rule is, during 1L don't start nothing new.

The other general rule is if you already got somebody good, hold on to them.  They will help you.


That's about it.

I can work with that.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Kirk Lazarus on July 10, 2007, 12:34:38 PM
You're a downer, yo. :D

LOL

Don't kill the messenger.

What about all the stories of relationships that helped people?

Exception to the rule, but not the rule.

The rule is, during 1L don't start nothing new.

The other general rule is if you already got somebody good, hold on to them.  They will help you.


That's about it.

This is why you're the elder. Perfect advice, said in 3 lines what we couldn't in 17 pages
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 10, 2007, 12:36:06 PM
Damn. You givin' nukka the Kobie treatment.  :D

That oughta' teach you for pointin' out my typos.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Kirk Lazarus on July 10, 2007, 12:37:16 PM
Damn. You givin' nukka the Kobie treatment.  :D

That oughta' teach you for pointin' out my typos.

lol...man, i can't give credit where credit is due? Hating ass busta.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 10, 2007, 12:38:14 PM
Busta? What is this, 1995?
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Kirk Lazarus on July 10, 2007, 12:39:05 PM
Busta? What is this, 1995?

The NAACP buried the contemporary word.


ETA: Not that I would ever call you that, jsia.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Burning Sands, Esq. on July 10, 2007, 12:43:15 PM
You're a downer, yo. :D

LOL

Don't kill the messenger.

What about all the stories of relationships that helped people?

Exception to the rule, but not the rule.

The rule is, during 1L don't start nothing new.

The other general rule is if you already got somebody good, hold on to them.  They will help you.


That's about it.

This is why you're the elder. Perfect advice, said in 3 lines what we couldn't in 17 pages



LOL :D Just trying to be like you, son.  Straight to the point.



Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Nemesis on July 10, 2007, 12:44:37 PM
LOL :D Just trying to be like you, son.  Straight to the point.

Galt? To the point? What is with all this male on male GAK??
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Kirk Lazarus on July 10, 2007, 12:45:10 PM
LOL :D Just trying to be like you, son.  Straight to the point.

Galt? To the point? What is with all this male on male GAK??

Massa and I have told you, you women are scandalous. Fellas have to stick together.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 10, 2007, 12:45:59 PM
Coooooldbloooooded!

what is GAK?
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: pikey on July 10, 2007, 12:47:32 PM
Coooooldbloooooded!

what is GAK?

gratuitous ass kissing.  You guys need to spend more time on the OTB.  :P
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Nemesis on July 10, 2007, 12:49:26 PM
Massa and I have told you, you women are scandalous. Fellas have to stick together.

Is that so?? Good to know.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Burning Sands, Esq. on July 10, 2007, 12:53:34 PM
Thanks for the good laugh. I needed that. :D

Gratuitous Ass kissing. I'm using that one.

 ;D
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Statistic on July 10, 2007, 12:58:40 PM
Coooooldbloooooded!

what is GAK?

gratuitous ass kissing.  You guys need to spend more time on the OTB.  :P

ok Jem
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: 2Lacoste on July 10, 2007, 02:35:00 PM
Busta? What is this, 1995?


Who called who a mark ass trick?!
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Special Agent Dana Scully on July 10, 2007, 05:51:10 PM
Coooooldbloooooded!

what is GAK?

gratuitous ass kissing.  You guys need to spend more time on the OTB.  :P

ok Jem

 :P

Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: smujd2007 on July 10, 2007, 06:01:29 PM
oh my . . .  :-\

You know what blk, I'm sorry you feel that way.  But this is pretty damn disgusting and pretty low of you and cahow.  Lets be ladies and rise above.  You guys know what you are doing so lets bring ourselves to "growth".  I said nothing in that post that was off-kilter and ya'll went nuts.   I'm not gonna go down that route.  And I'd appreciate my biz not being blasted on the board :)      
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Tony Montana on July 11, 2007, 06:43:48 AM

(I'm anal and notice these sorts of things.) 

Breaking News

Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 11, 2007, 07:28:44 AM
Ha!  Who de hell is you?
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: TruOne on July 11, 2007, 09:33:03 AM
I guess we can all comfortably agree that women are crazy and cause drama.

right?
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: n/a on July 11, 2007, 09:33:45 AM
I guess we can all comfortably agree that women are crazy and cause drama.

right?

You ARE educated.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: law_dawg_07 on July 11, 2007, 09:36:46 AM
 :D
I guess we can all comfortably agree that women are crazy and cause drama.

right?

This is people.  This is people moving on.  Help the cause.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Tony Montana on July 11, 2007, 09:55:32 AM
I guess we can all comfortably agree that women are crazy and cause drama.

right?

This is people.  This is people moving on.  Help the cause.

Lol

Hey, Is the Gengis in your Gengiswump moniker a reference to Genghis Khan? Or is it something/someone else?
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Tony Montana on July 11, 2007, 09:56:54 AM
Ha!  Who de hell is you?

Lol.  Who a nukka gotta be?
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: A. on July 11, 2007, 11:38:08 AM
Ha!  Who de hell is you?

Lol.  Who a nukka gotta be?

Keep it steppin', pimpin'.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: law_dawg_07 on July 11, 2007, 11:40:18 AM
uh oh...is this a BOY FIGHT???

Ha!  Who de hell is you?

Lol.  Who a nukka gotta be?

Keep it steppin', pimpin'.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Pulchritudinous Male on July 11, 2007, 12:22:07 PM
Must be the heat. Lol.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Tony Montana on July 11, 2007, 01:45:03 PM
uh oh...is this a BOY FIGHT???

Ha!  Who de hell is you?

Lol.  Who a nukka gotta be?

Keep it steppin', pimpin'.

Lol.  Fight? Nah...More like banter.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: Burning Sands, Esq. on July 11, 2007, 09:41:38 PM
Real quick, free speech is great.  However, no airing of personal business, please.

I apologize for not getting to it sooner, but with 2 weeks to go the bar has tended to give me a one track mind with a side  helping of tunnel vision.

Hope everybody is relaxed and feeling somewhat better. 
Be thankful you're not taking the bar exam. :P

Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: SKW on July 12, 2007, 11:57:45 AM
"Now this is the "dating & relationships thread", I'm curious as to why there aren't any questions/discussions on other "relationships" to be had in LS.  Like just being friends-  m/f,  mentor-mentee relationships (Sands mentioned he was a mentor to this guy, why not ask Sands about that instead of saying how much of a downer Sands' post was; I just mentioned that I have a mentor, ask me about that), professor/student relationships (dating or otherwise);"

Wait wait...folks actually date their professors? wtf...I saw a few prof profiles on my law school's website and I don't see how that's plausible AT ALL. blech
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: 2Lacoste on July 12, 2007, 12:05:39 PM
"Now this is the "dating & relationships thread", I'm curious as to why there aren't any questions/discussions on other "relationships" to be had in LS.  Like just being friends-  m/f,  mentor-mentee relationships (Sands mentioned he was a mentor to this guy, why not ask Sands about that instead of saying how much of a downer Sands' post was; I just mentioned that I have a mentor, ask me about that), professor/student relationships (dating or otherwise);"

Wait wait...folks actually date their professors? wtf...I saw a few prof profiles on my law school's website and I don't see how that's plausible AT ALL. blech


H is infamous for professor-student dating relationships.  One of my best friends had the illest crush on one prof, and they went out for dinner and everything.  I dunno if it was ever serious, but she did have the ill crush on ole dude.
Title: Re: Dating & Relationships in Law School
Post by: cui bono? on July 12, 2007, 03:12:26 PM
"Now this is the "dating & relationships thread", I'm curious as to why there aren't any questions/discussions on other "relationships" to be had in LS.  Like just being friends-  m/f,  mentor-mentee relationships (Sands mentioned he was a mentor to this guy, why not ask Sands about that instead of saying how much of a downer Sands' post was; I just mentioned that I have a mentor, ask me about that), professor/student relationships (dating or otherwise);"

Wait wait...folks actually date their professors? wtf...I saw a few prof profiles on my law school's website and I don't see how that's plausible AT ALL. blech

There we go.   :D  same at my school. YUUUUCK! However it does happen.  Some of the professors are kinda young, well sorta.  I mostly heard that someone was dating a professor at a nearby school.  Not really a big deal, just gotta make sure no one finds out.  Mostly because it could give rise to accusations like they're getting help academically.  Which-  I think is kinda nuts; the only way I can see that happening is in legal writing. It's not like the professor can take the exams in the other classes for the student.