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Title: The Marriage Thread
Post by: thechoson on August 18, 2004, 09:03:23 PM
About when do you want to get hitched, and what things need to be done for you to feel ready, besides actually having someone you love?

I'd like to be close to 27ish, and be making enough money to easily support my wife and I, so that if she doesn't want to work she doesn't have to.

I'd also like to be done with school.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: Dewitt on August 18, 2004, 09:05:17 PM
30 years old is the ideal time. i would also like to be engaged for a long period of time before marriage.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: NYKnicks on August 18, 2004, 09:25:13 PM
I'd have to say before I'm 30, other than that, its all open, preferably after 26 though. Anyway...Dewitt...is that a chia pet...
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: thechoson on August 18, 2004, 09:25:53 PM
30 years old is the ideal time. i would also like to be engaged for a long period of time before marriage.

this is dewitt? mothefucker
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: Ginatio on August 18, 2004, 09:40:34 PM
30 years old is the ideal time. i would also like to be engaged for a long period of time before marriage.

this is dewitt? mothefucker

yea. look at the aim screename, you cooze
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: casino on August 18, 2004, 09:41:55 PM
35-40.

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Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: Dewitt on August 18, 2004, 09:42:08 PM
ginatio, please refrain from posting on this thread if you aren't here to talk about when you're getting married. thank you.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: Ginatio on August 18, 2004, 09:42:50 PM
ginatio, please refrain from posting on this thread if you aren't here to talk about when you're getting married. thank you.

@#!* yourself
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: NYKnicks on August 18, 2004, 09:45:17 PM
"Chi Chi Chi Chia!!! And now brand new you can buy self f-ing Chia-Head! It rolls, it contorts, does all sorts of stunts, just pour the water on and the f-ing starts, when that green grass starts growing, its a good sign, when the Head starts to grow feet and come after you, promptly throw it into a swamp."
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: TDPookie1 on August 18, 2004, 09:45:42 PM
I plan to be married the summer after my second year of law school, that way I can graduate with my married name :)
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: NYKnicks on August 18, 2004, 09:46:38 PM
Does anyone know anyone who married in undergrad? I know a couple of people and man they pulled some good grades afterwards, maybe I should have found a wife...
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: Dewitt on August 18, 2004, 09:46:48 PM
ginatio, please refrain from posting on this thread if you aren't here to talk about when you're getting married. thank you.

@#!* yourself

ingest me
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: Ginatio on August 18, 2004, 09:47:51 PM
ginatio, please refrain from posting on this thread if you aren't here to talk about when you're getting married. thank you.

@#!* yourself

ingest me

 ::)
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: TDPookie1 on August 18, 2004, 09:51:13 PM
Does anyone know anyone who married in undergrad? I know a couple of people and man they pulled some good grades afterwards, maybe I should have found a wife...

No, but a lot of people I knew got married in June right around graduation time.  With rings that were way too small ;)  This is why I'm waiting a few years.  I'm not making any commitments until there are two carats on my finger :)  J/K, since I think I'm already committed.  But I still want a 2-carat diamond.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: NYKnicks on August 18, 2004, 09:53:35 PM
Good to see you've got a long term goal in mind :D



No, but a lot of people I knew got married in June right around graduation time.  With rings that were way too small ;)  This is why I'm waiting a few years.  I'm not making any commitments until there are two carats on my finger :)  J/K, since I think I'm already committed.  But I still want a 2-carat diamond.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: jrhc1210 on August 18, 2004, 09:56:27 PM
27ish sounds about right. I'd like to enjoy some years of being "married but childless" - earliest I'd want kids is 30.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: TDPookie1 on August 18, 2004, 09:57:18 PM
Good to see you've got a long term goal in mind :D



No, but a lot of people I knew got married in June right around graduation time.  With rings that were way too small ;)  This is why I'm waiting a few years.  I'm not making any commitments until there are two carats on my finger :)  J/K, since I think I'm already committed.  But I still want a 2-carat diamond.

Hee hee :)  Already picked out my ring.  Hopefully it'll still be waiting for me in Jamaica next time I go back.  Although I hear that the southern Caribbean has better jewelry anyway.  The savings will pay for the vacation :)
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: NYKnicks on August 18, 2004, 09:58:27 PM
Thats admirable, got it all set up already, good luck, I'm sure you'll enjoy every moment  ;)


Hee hee :)  Already picked out my ring.  Hopefully it'll still be waiting for me in Jamaica next time I go back.  Although I hear that the southern Caribbean has better jewelry anyway.  The savings will pay for the vacation :)
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: wstaffor on August 18, 2004, 09:59:35 PM
Me and the lady will probably get married the summer before law school for me and med school for her. So...22. Didn't realize that was so young to most here, pretty common in the south.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: mukhia on August 18, 2004, 10:00:36 PM

Hee hee :)  Already picked out my ring.  Hopefully it'll still be waiting for me in Jamaica next time I go back.  Although I hear that the southern Caribbean has better jewelry anyway.  The savings will pay for the vacation :)


  LOL!  TD - is there anything you don't plan or spreadsheet in your life?!   ;D
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: TDPookie1 on August 18, 2004, 10:09:24 PM
Me and the lady will probably get married the summer before law school for me and med school for her. So...22. Didn't realize that was so young to most here, pretty common in the south.

Yup, pretty young for SoCal.  Although obviously not for some people.  Maybe it's just me :)  If my boyfriend wanted to get married sooner, I'd be fine with that right now, although I do feel like I'm too young to be married.  The difference would only be in the name, since we live together and otherwise act like a married couple.  I want to wait for a better time financially so I can get my aforementioned ring and have a nicer wedding and stuff.  If I get married earlier than summer after 2L, it'll have to be in the next year, otherwise I'll have no time during 1L to plan a wedding.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: TDPookie1 on August 18, 2004, 10:10:33 PM

Hee hee :)  Already picked out my ring.  Hopefully it'll still be waiting for me in Jamaica next time I go back.  Although I hear that the southern Caribbean has better jewelry anyway.  The savings will pay for the vacation :)


  LOL!  TD - is there anything you don't plan or spreadsheet in your life?!   ;D

Ha ha, I tend to plan everything out, but I'm very quick to scrap my plans as I easily change my mind about stuff.  And I'm fine with that, and I'll admit when I have a plan that it's probably going to change.

Excel is fun though :)
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: Jrtzsweetie on August 18, 2004, 10:19:35 PM
For me, I'd like to get engaged maybe during my last year of law school, be engaged for a while (1-2 years), and def. be married by 30.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: Dewitt on August 18, 2004, 10:22:00 PM
hmmmm. since thechoson isn't here, i'll have to speak in his stead. considering jrtz wants to get married at 30, i can only assume that dewitt had prior knowledge of that fact and stated the same thing in his typical toolish manner. jrtzsweetie... you should find a real man... come to ben toe bocks.  ;D
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: mukhia on August 18, 2004, 10:23:35 PM
Hmmm...bento boxes are always rip offs at Japanese restaurants - they use day old rice and meat and sticky tempura...
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: NYKnicks on August 18, 2004, 10:25:02 PM
So I guess we all know what this tells us about the chia pet.

Hmmm...bento boxes are always rip offs at Japanese restaurants - they use day old rice and meat and sticky tempura...
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: mukhia on August 18, 2004, 10:28:56 PM
And while we're at it, aren't Chia pets just about the worst human creation in the world?  Whoever thought of them ought to be force-fed each and every single last one of them.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: Dewitt on August 18, 2004, 10:29:42 PM
Hmmm...bento boxes are always rip offs at Japanese restaurants - they use day old rice and meat and sticky tempura...

sorry honey, i don't know anything of this "bento box" you speak of. i'm a white guy named ben. i also have bad body odor.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: NYKnicks on August 18, 2004, 10:30:55 PM
but what about the chia head...I mean it sprouts and grows, with frowzy hair and all. Then again, they do start looking really ugly when they start dying, ever seen one like that?

And while we're at it, aren't Chia pets just about the worst human creation in the world?  Whoever thought of them ought to be force-fed each and every single last one of them.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: mukhia on August 18, 2004, 10:31:18 PM
Hmmm...bento boxes are always rip offs at Japanese restaurants - they use day old rice and meat and sticky tempura...

sorry honey, i don't know anything of this "bento box" you speak of. i'm a white guy named ben. i also have bad body odor.


  LOL!  My bf says your avatar looks like Kermit's nut!
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: Dewitt on August 18, 2004, 10:32:33 PM
And while we're at it, aren't Chia pets just about the worst human creation in the world?  Whoever thought of them ought to be force-fed each and every single last one of them.

and by worst, i assume you mean the best. chia pets are awesome... along with the clapper and fake vomit. they're useful inventions which benefit mankind.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: thechoson on August 18, 2004, 10:34:12 PM
Dewitt, you are a f-ing tool.

Hope you are treating Jrtz right, she deserves a non tool.

If you slip, I'm there to pick up the slack
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: absy on August 18, 2004, 10:34:21 PM
I would definitely want to do it after law school.  Maybe within a year?  Among the things I need to do to feel ready: have a stable future planned, find the right person, be living in a state that allows marriage for my people.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: mukhia on August 18, 2004, 10:34:36 PM
And while we're at it, aren't Chia pets just about the worst human creation in the world?  Whoever thought of them ought to be force-fed each and every single last one of them.

and by worst, i assume you mean the best. chia pets are awesome... along with the clapper and fake vomit. they're useful inventions which benefit mankind.

 No - rubber chickens are useful inventions that benefit mankind...as Dave Barry would say:  do chickens find rubber humans funny?
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: thechoson on August 18, 2004, 10:35:21 PM
come to think of it, getting married is for tools

Playa for Life, female dog.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: lexylit on August 18, 2004, 10:35:41 PM
 My bf says your avatar looks like Kermit's nut!

i thought you broke up  ???

did i miss something
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: thechoson on August 18, 2004, 10:35:59 PM
So I guess we all know what this tells us about the chia pet.

Hmmm...bento boxes are always rip offs at Japanese restaurants - they use day old rice and meat and sticky tempura...

shouldn't you be sleeping you tool?
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: TDPookie1 on August 18, 2004, 10:36:07 PM
I would definitely want to do it after law school.  Maybe within a year?  Among the things I need to do to feel ready: have a stable future planned, find the right person, be living in a state that allows marriage for my people.

Hopefully there will be more such states in 3-4 years, or whenever it is you're graduating from LS.  I'm assuming that your people is not the incestuous (sp?) variety or anything like that...
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: mukhia on August 18, 2004, 10:38:11 PM
 My bf says your avatar looks like Kermit's nut!

i thought you broke up  ???

did i miss something

 Don't even ask - it's on again in our on/off relationship...
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: NYKnicks on August 18, 2004, 10:38:39 PM
when did I become a tool...


shouldn't you be sleeping you tool?
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: thechoson on August 18, 2004, 10:39:04 PM
 My bf says your avatar looks like Kermit's nut!

i thought you broke up  ???

did i miss something

 Don't even ask - it's on again in our on/off relationship...

congrats! hope it goes well for you .
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: thechoson on August 18, 2004, 10:39:32 PM
when did I become a tool...


shouldn't you be sleeping you tool?

the moment you started talking about chia pets
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: lexylit on August 18, 2004, 10:39:40 PM
Don't even ask - it's on again in our on/off relationship...

boo  >:( he sounded not good enough for you.

i like you!
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: absy on August 18, 2004, 10:39:53 PM
You would be correct in that assumption.  We've got Massachusetts so far, and in five years (I'm a rising senior, then I'm hoping to defer for a year) I bet there will be a number more.  I never really wanted to live in those other states (e.g. Utah, Missouri, Mississippi) anyway.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: NYKnicks on August 18, 2004, 10:40:03 PM
you rat


the moment you started talking about chia pets
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: thechoson on August 18, 2004, 10:40:40 PM
you rat


the moment you started talking about chia pets

get to a 1000 posts, rookie, then you can call me whatever you want.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: mukhia on August 18, 2004, 10:48:45 PM
You would be correct in that assumption.  We've got Massachusetts so far, and in five years (I'm a rising senior, then I'm hoping to defer for a year) I bet there will be a number more.  I never really wanted to live in those other states (e.g. Utah, Missouri, Mississippi) anyway.


 Echoing TD's sentiments - it would be nice if all of my friends could have a marriage in the proper sense everywhere!
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: mukhia on August 18, 2004, 10:51:06 PM
Don't even ask - it's on again in our on/off relationship...

boo  >:( he sounded not good enough for you.

i like you!


  LOL!  Might be off again if he keeps peeking at what I'm typing (no more volley girls to distract him)!  Yes, well, we both know we are not headed down the marriage path, but I love him for some odd reason all the same.  Maybe we just gravitate toward each other because we both know we're as good as it gets in Milwaukee - LOL!
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: TDPookie1 on August 18, 2004, 11:00:34 PM
You would be correct in that assumption.  We've got Massachusetts so far, and in five years (I'm a rising senior, then I'm hoping to defer for a year) I bet there will be a number more.  I never really wanted to live in those other states (e.g. Utah, Missouri, Mississippi) anyway.


 Echoing TD's sentiments - it would be nice if all of my friends could have a marriage in the proper sense everywhere!

Yes, like the polar opposite of Shrubby's amendment idea would be fine by me.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: Wescline on August 19, 2004, 08:33:02 AM
I got married this April and I was 28 and my wife was 25. My mother in law really wanted us to wait until I got out of law school, but we would rather go ahead and get married than wait another 3 years.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: jacy85 on August 19, 2004, 09:47:56 AM
I don't know when I'm going to get engaged.  My boyfriend has all the necessary info on a ring, and according to him, there's a plan in place he can activate at any time.  He's such a dork.

We'll be moving in together in the middle of 1L as he has to stay in Boston an extra 4 months or so.  Once we move in together dec/jan next year, he has a year limit to propose.  Stats say that the longer you live together unengage/unmarried, the more likely you are to divorce, so I'm putting a cap on it.

As to when we get married, money will definitely be an issue.  As in I won't have any during law school.  So optimistically I'm hoping for a wedding a year after I graduate law school.  Which would make me about 28 and him 31.  Which seems so far away.  :(  Maybe both of our parents will help out and we can get hitched sooner.  Stupid money!
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: jrhc1210 on August 19, 2004, 09:48:50 AM


We'll be moving in together in the middle of 1L as he has to stay in Boston an extra 4 months or so.  Once we move in together dec/jan next year, he has a year limit to propose.  Stats say that the longer you live together unengage/unmarried, the more likely you are to divorce, so I'm putting a cap on it.



I've read that too. Why do you think that is?
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: dsong02 on August 19, 2004, 09:50:53 AM


We'll be moving in together in the middle of 1L as he has to stay in Boston an extra 4 months or so.  Once we move in together dec/jan next year, he has a year limit to propose.  Stats say that the longer you live together unengage/unmarried, the more likely you are to divorce, so I'm putting a cap on it.



I've read that too. Why do you think that is?

the longer you live together unwed/unengaged, the longer you recognize that there is still a way out of the relationship without the hassles of a marriage between you two.  and the longer this happens and then you get married, the harder it is to get out of that mindset, so its easier to get a divorce because getting out of a relationship has always been a viable option.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: TDPookie1 on August 19, 2004, 09:58:51 AM
I don't know when I'm going to get engaged.  My boyfriend has all the necessary info on a ring, and according to him, there's a plan in place he can activate at any time.  He's such a dork.

We'll be moving in together in the middle of 1L as he has to stay in Boston an extra 4 months or so.  Once we move in together dec/jan next year, he has a year limit to propose.  Stats say that the longer you live together unengage/unmarried, the more likely you are to divorce, so I'm putting a cap on it.

As to when we get married, money will definitely be an issue.  As in I won't have any during law school.  So optimistically I'm hoping for a wedding a year after I graduate law school.  Which would make me about 28 and him 31.  Which seems so far away.  :(  Maybe both of our parents will help out and we can get hitched sooner.  Stupid money!

If all else fails, there's always Vegas :)  I wouldn't mind having a small wedding in Vegas after 1L (or even before), then having a reception when we have more money.  Something tells me my boyfriend's parents wouldn't be too happy with that.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: TDPookie1 on August 19, 2004, 10:00:54 AM


We'll be moving in together in the middle of 1L as he has to stay in Boston an extra 4 months or so.  Once we move in together dec/jan next year, he has a year limit to propose.  Stats say that the longer you live together unengage/unmarried, the more likely you are to divorce, so I'm putting a cap on it.



I've read that too. Why do you think that is?

the longer you live together unwed/unengaged, the longer you recognize that there is still a way out of the relationship without the hassles of a marriage between you two.  and the longer this happens and then you get married, the harder it is to get out of that mindset, so its easier to get a divorce because getting out of a relationship has always been a viable option.

Yeah, that's the reasoning I've heard.  Kinda worries me too.  I've been practically living with my boyfriend for 2 years now, though it's only been official for 6 weeks now.  (Before that, I had my own apartment but stayed at his place every night.)  I'm hoping that since we talk about getting married all the time, I already have the mindset of being in this for the long haul.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: Kathcolo on August 19, 2004, 10:06:03 AM
Also, whereas couples that move in together after getting married are typically moving into a new place together and it is lke a fresh start from their previous single life, couples who live together come back from their honeymoon to the same place and life they were living before they said, I do.

But, the flip side is that a lot of couples I know who did not live together had a VERY rocky first year of marriage because you are not used to the quirks of living with another person. The fact that Wonderful Walter leaves his shoes in the middle of the floor and is not a huge deal when you are not living day in and day out with it. When you are sharing a house it is a whole other ball of wax!

We were told in pre-marital counseling class, "You need to be realistic about getting married. It is very hard and if you think that it will be easy or that the other person will change who they are now because you now have the same last name, you will be disappointed" As a side note, I HIGHLY recommend pre-marital counseling. I thought it was wonderful!  

My husband and I lived together for about 6 months before getting engaged and then 14 months before we were married. For us it was an economic issue. We could not afford 2 places if I was going to live in the area of Atlanta I wanted.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: GentleTim on August 19, 2004, 11:35:40 AM
About when do you want to get hitched, and what things need to be done for you to feel ready, besides actually having someone you love?

I'd like to be close to 27ish, and be making enough money to easily support my wife and I, so that if she doesn't want to work she doesn't have to.

I'd also like to be done with school.

I'd like to get hitched on Oct. 9th.  Of this year.  After being engaged for 3 1/2 months.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: GentleTim on August 19, 2004, 11:43:08 AM
No, but a lot of people I knew got married in June right around graduation time.  With rings that were way too small ;)  This is why I'm waiting a few years.  I'm not making any commitments until there are two carats on my finger :)  J/K, since I think I'm already committed.  But I still want a 2-carat diamond.

2 carats defines ostentatious.  A 2 carat diamond of even reasonable quality is like a year of law school (or more).
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: dsong02 on August 19, 2004, 11:44:21 AM
No, but a lot of people I knew got married in June right around graduation time.  With rings that were way too small ;)  This is why I'm waiting a few years.  I'm not making any commitments until there are two carats on my finger :)  J/K, since I think I'm already committed.  But I still want a 2-carat diamond.

2 carats defines ostentatious.  A 2 carat diamond of even reasonable quality is like a year of law school (or more).


more. 
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: TDPookie1 on August 19, 2004, 11:57:41 AM
About when do you want to get hitched, and what things need to be done for you to feel ready, besides actually having someone you love?

I'd like to be close to 27ish, and be making enough money to easily support my wife and I, so that if she doesn't want to work she doesn't have to.

I'd also like to be done with school.

I'd like to get hitched on Oct. 9th.  Of this year.  After being engaged for 3 1/2 months.

What are you doing on this board, then?  Go plan your wedding!  :)  Congrats!
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: TDPookie1 on August 19, 2004, 12:00:18 PM
No, but a lot of people I knew got married in June right around graduation time.  With rings that were way too small ;)  This is why I'm waiting a few years.  I'm not making any commitments until there are two carats on my finger :)  J/K, since I think I'm already committed.  But I still want a 2-carat diamond.

2 carats defines ostentatious.  A 2 carat diamond of even reasonable quality is like a year of law school (or more).


My ring:
1.5 carat princess cut center, 0.51 tcw in two smaller princess cut diamonds, one on each side of the center.  Platinum band.  Excellent quality in the diamonds, nearly flawless.
Price here: Who knows?
Price in Jamaica: $12,000, before negotiation.

I'm telling you, the savings will pay for the vacation to buy my ring.  And my honeymoon in Tahiti.  :)
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: GentleTim on August 19, 2004, 12:08:24 PM
My ring:
1.5 carat princess cut center, 0.51 tcw in two smaller princess cut diamonds, one on each side of the center.  Platinum band.  Excellent quality in the diamonds, nearly flawless.
Price here: Who knows?
Price in Jamaica: $12,000, before negotiation.

*Way* more reasonable than a 2 carat diamond.  Having just done my lifetime's work in diamond/ring shopping, I don't think that you'll save as much as you think by getting it in Jamaica, unless you drive a mean-ass bargin. ;)
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: Kathcolo on August 19, 2004, 12:10:25 PM
Yeah, my ring is- center princess cut stone .91 ct but VERY good quality and there are three diamonds on either side set in platinum and my wedding ring is idential only with the center stone missing. I have no idea what it cost, but I know my husband was eating PB and J the whole time he was paying for it!!
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: Annie on August 19, 2004, 12:14:08 PM

I'd like to be close to 27ish, and be making enough money to easily support my wife and I, so that if she doesn't want to work she doesn't have to.

I'd also like to be done with school.

Will you marry me? No prenups, please.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: Annie on August 19, 2004, 12:15:35 PM
I'd like to be 26 when I'm married. Right outta law school. Or better yet, how about getting married next year, so the dude can PAY for my law school? Because Dad's ready to pass on the bills.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: dsong02 on August 19, 2004, 12:18:17 PM
My ring:
1.5 carat princess cut center, 0.51 tcw in two smaller princess cut diamonds, one on each side of the center.  Platinum band.  Excellent quality in the diamonds, nearly flawless.
Price here: Who knows?
Price in Jamaica: $12,000, before negotiation.

*Way* more reasonable than a 2 carat diamond.  Having just done my lifetime's work in diamond/ring shopping, I don't think that you'll save as much as you think by getting it in Jamaica, unless you drive a mean-ass bargin. ;)

i would NOT buy a diamond outside of the states.  they are usually not IGA certified, and any other certification is just crap (EGL, LGL).  if it is not IGA certified, usually the appraisal of the ring is much lower than what you pay for it because its not very high quality.  when you try to insure it (separate insurance or homeowners insurance), they wont give you a good price for it.  

ive done my share of diamond shopping...bought my wife a 2.4ct princess E/IF (for those of you know diamonds, you should know what that means), perfect symmetry, excellent cut.  and yes, its been over 2 years now and im still eating pb&j.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: lexylit on August 19, 2004, 12:18:52 PM
oy  :-\
i really haven't thought about this stuff. the ring conversation is way over my head.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: dsong02 on August 19, 2004, 12:20:14 PM
oy  :-\
i really haven't thought about this stuff. the ring conversation is way over my head.

i love it when my wife says 'oy'.  its so cute.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: Kathcolo on August 19, 2004, 12:21:45 PM
Yeah, no joke when Dad and I were getting ready to walk down the aisle for my wedding rehearsal he said, "24 hours from today you are OFF the payroll!" But, I'm not really...

I'm working and putting my husband through law school although I might be starting a graduate program next year. If he wants to stay going to the private law school he is attending now, he'll have to get scholarships next year.  
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: GentleTim on August 19, 2004, 12:22:38 PM
bought my wife a 2.4ct princess E/IF (for those of you know diamonds, you should know what that means), perfect symmetry, excellent cut.

<Choking Sounds>

<Pause to recover breath>

Holy *&^%.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: TDPookie1 on August 19, 2004, 12:23:05 PM
My ring:
1.5 carat princess cut center, 0.51 tcw in two smaller princess cut diamonds, one on each side of the center.  Platinum band.  Excellent quality in the diamonds, nearly flawless.
Price here: Who knows?
Price in Jamaica: $12,000, before negotiation.

*Way* more reasonable than a 2 carat diamond.  Having just done my lifetime's work in diamond/ring shopping, I don't think that you'll save as much as you think by getting it in Jamaica, unless you drive a mean-ass bargin. ;)

My sister's a master negotiator.  The price dropped $2K in seconds, which would have covered the price of the trip for two people (including cruise, airfare, hotel in Miami).
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: dsong02 on August 19, 2004, 12:23:47 PM
bought my wife a 2.4ct princess E/IF (for those of you know diamonds, you should know what that means), perfect symmetry, excellent cut.

<Choking Sounds>

<Pause to recover breath>

Holy *&^%.

i said the same thing when i asked how much it was. 
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: GentleTim on August 19, 2004, 12:26:01 PM
i said the same thing when i asked how much it was. 

I'm impressed you didn't decide to buy a house instead...
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: dsong02 on August 19, 2004, 12:26:59 PM
i said the same thing when i asked how much it was. 

I'm impressed you didn't decide to buy a house instead...

ring was more important than the house.  just ask my wife.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: TDPookie1 on August 19, 2004, 12:27:56 PM

ive done my share of diamond shopping...bought my wife a 2.4ct princess E/IF (for those of you know diamonds, you should know what that means), perfect symmetry, excellent cut.  and yes, its been over 2 years now and im still eating pb&j.

Now that's love :)

I'd love to get a bigger diamond, but it would look really ridiculous on my little hands.  Even my 2.01 tcw beauty looked a little goofy, and I don't like solitaires, so I'm going to have to settle for a smaller center stone.

Thanks for the tip about certification/insurance.  I hadn't really thought about that.  I thought the one in Jamaica was IGA, but I could be off.  Wasn't paying all that much attention to what the guy was saying cuz there was a big shiny rock in front of my face.  Plus, I knew we weren't getting it then.  I'll have to do my research before taking the engagement ring trip :)
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: Kathcolo on August 19, 2004, 12:28:12 PM
Why can't you have the ring and the house?
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: TDPookie1 on August 19, 2004, 12:29:08 PM
i said the same thing when i asked how much it was. 

I'm impressed you didn't decide to buy a house instead...

ring was more important than the house.  just ask my wife.

That's definitely true.  You live in at least 2-3 different houses in your adult life, but you will always have the one ring.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: dsong02 on August 19, 2004, 12:29:31 PM

ive done my share of diamond shopping...bought my wife a 2.4ct princess E/IF (for those of you know diamonds, you should know what that means), perfect symmetry, excellent cut.  and yes, its been over 2 years now and im still eating pb&j.

Now that's love :)

I'd love to get a bigger diamond, but it would look really ridiculous on my little hands.  Even my 2.01 tcw beauty looked a little goofy, and I don't like solitaires, so I'm going to have to settle for a smaller center stone.

Thanks for the tip about certification/insurance.  I hadn't really thought about that.  I thought the one in Jamaica was IGA, but I could be off.  Wasn't paying all that much attention to what the guy was saying cuz there was a big shiny rock in front of my face.  Plus, I knew we weren't getting it then.  I'll have to do my research before taking the engagement ring trip :)

just make sure.  IGA certificates are embossed, laminated, and have holograms on them.  they are hard to duplicate.  diamonds might come with a cert, but the certs might be fake, so watch out.  and if you can, make sure the diamond is etched with the cert number.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: dsong02 on August 19, 2004, 12:30:38 PM
i said the same thing when i asked how much it was. 

I'm impressed you didn't decide to buy a house instead...

ring was more important than the house.  just ask my wife.

That's definitely true.  You live in at least 2-3 different houses in your adult life, but you will always have the one ring.

uh...can you tell that to my wife?  she wants several rings...one for the 5 year, 10 year, etc etc anniversaries.  and she wants to pass down her original ring to our son to give to his future wife.  of course, all bets are off if hes gay.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: GentleTim on August 19, 2004, 12:31:19 PM
 Wasn't paying all that much attention to what the guy was saying cuz there was a big shiny rock in front of my face.  

This is why guys shouldn't take the woman along when ring shopping. ;)
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: Kathcolo on August 19, 2004, 12:34:05 PM
Did you pick out her/your ring or did you/him pick it out on their own?
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: GentleTim on August 19, 2004, 12:35:23 PM
I'd like to get hitched on Oct. 9th.  Of this year.  After being engaged for 3 1/2 months.

What are you doing on this board, then?  Go plan your wedding!  :)  Congrats!

Thanks!!  It's quite entertaining to be doing LS apps and planning a wedding at the same time.  But I have to be honest and say that most of the wedding stuff is successfully delegated to my financee...  I just have to smile and nod a lot ;)
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: GentleTim on August 19, 2004, 12:38:45 PM
Did you pick out her/your ring or did you/him pick it out on their own?

I picked it out.  But in the 3-4 months leading up to it, I walked her by lots of jewlery shops to get an idea of what she liked.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: TDPookie1 on August 19, 2004, 12:39:53 PM
i said the same thing when i asked how much it was. 

I'm impressed you didn't decide to buy a house instead...

ring was more important than the house.  just ask my wife.

That's definitely true.  You live in at least 2-3 different houses in your adult life, but you will always have the one ring.

uh...can you tell that to my wife?  she wants several rings...one for the 5 year, 10 year, etc etc anniversaries.  and she wants to pass down her original ring to our son to give to his future wife.  of course, all bets are off if hes gay.

I will say no such thing to your wife.  :)

My brother-in-law made a rule with my sister that she can have as many diamond rings as fit on her wedding ring finger at one time.  She's currently operating at maximum capacity with her engagement ring, matching wedding band, and one-year anniversary band.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: TDPookie1 on August 19, 2004, 12:40:31 PM
 Wasn't paying all that much attention to what the guy was saying cuz there was a big shiny rock in front of my face.  

This is why guys shouldn't take the woman along when ring shopping. ;)

That could make for a very expensive mistake on the guy's part :)
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: dsong02 on August 19, 2004, 12:41:50 PM
 Wasn't paying all that much attention to what the guy was saying cuz there was a big shiny rock in front of my face.  

This is why guys shouldn't take the woman along when ring shopping. ;)

ABSOLUTELY!

when a girl asks you if she can go along, treat her like a drug and 'JUST SAY NO'!!!!
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: GentleTim on August 19, 2004, 12:43:13 PM
That could make for a very expensive mistake on the guy's part :)

Picking out the ring is one thing.  Picking it up is another.  It's hard to negotiate with someone drooling over the merchandise ;)
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: TDPookie1 on August 19, 2004, 12:45:43 PM
That could make for a very expensive mistake on the guy's part :)

Picking out the ring is one thing.  Picking it up is another.  It's hard to negotiate with someone drooling over the merchandise ;)

I think that's the real reason behind putting the jewelry in glass cases.  It has nothing to do with security but everything to do with keeping drool off the inventory.  :)
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: GentleTim on August 19, 2004, 12:46:16 PM
That could make for a very expensive mistake on the guy's part :)

And there should be an element of surprise I think.  Doesn't it take a bit of the excitement out of it if you pick out the exact ring yourself.  I mean, then you *know* you're about to get engaged.  
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: TDPookie1 on August 19, 2004, 12:48:32 PM
That could make for a very expensive mistake on the guy's part :)

And there should be an element of surprise I think.  Doesn't it take a bit of the excitement out of it if you pick out the exact ring yourself.  I mean, then you *know* you're about to get engaged.  

If I do ditch the Caribbean idea per dsong's warnings, then I'd want my sister go to ring shopping with my boyfriend so I won't know what or when.  Otherwise, I have to be there.  I think I'd be a little peeved if my sister and boyfriend went off to the Caribbean and I had to stay home, plus the surprise would be ruined.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: Kathcolo on August 19, 2004, 12:49:41 PM
That is too funny. My husband wanted me to pick out exactly what I wanted because, "You're the one who has to wear it forever and even if you hated it, you would never tell me. So, you pick out whatever you want." So, I was the one who dealt with the jeweler and picked everything out. When I was going to get it was a surprise, but that was it. What I wanted was custom designed with a matching band. I love that there is not another ring like it, close, but not like it.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: Kathcolo on August 19, 2004, 12:50:42 PM
Plus, I knew we were getting engaged someday. He told me the first month we were dating that he wanted to marry me.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: TDPookie1 on August 19, 2004, 12:51:20 PM
Plus, I knew we were getting engaged someday. He told me the first month we were dating that he wanted to marry me.

Wow.  You're the envy of a lot of women for that :)

When did you get married?
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: Kathcolo on August 19, 2004, 12:53:28 PM
We got engaged in December of 2002 and married in April 24th, 2004. I have a sweet engagement story...wanna hear? 
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: GentleTim on August 19, 2004, 12:56:36 PM
That is too funny. My husband wanted me to pick out exactly what I wanted because, "You're the one who has to wear it forever and even if you hated it, you would never tell me. So, you pick out whatever you want." So, I was the one who dealt with the jeweler and picked everything out. When I was going to get it was a surprise, but that was it. What I wanted was custom designed with a matching band. I love that there is not another ring like it, close, but not like it.

For my fiancee, it was more important that I put all the work in, and that I knew her well enough to (correctly) guess her tastes.  If I'd had her pick it out, she would have been disappointed.  
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: GentleTim on August 19, 2004, 12:57:54 PM
We got engaged in December of 2002 and married in April 24th, 2004. I have a sweet engagement story...wanna hear? 

Absolutely!
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: dsong02 on August 19, 2004, 01:01:34 PM
That is too funny. My husband wanted me to pick out exactly what I wanted because, "You're the one who has to wear it forever and even if you hated it, you would never tell me. So, you pick out whatever you want." So, I was the one who dealt with the jeweler and picked everything out. When I was going to get it was a surprise, but that was it. What I wanted was custom designed with a matching band. I love that there is not another ring like it, close, but not like it.

yeah...to be honest, my wife wouldnt let me pick out her ring cuz i woulda screwed it up.  she picked out the stone and we had a jeweler design her band. 

i woulda been in deep *&^% if i picked it out. 
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: wstaffor on August 19, 2004, 01:08:18 PM
You people are insane. My girlfriend would kick my ass if I spent more than 2-3k on her ring. She actually made me LOWER the carat weight I was looking at. Of course, she has insanely tiny hands, and she though anything over 1ct tw looked ridiculous.

Guess I'm just lucky? You girls who demand 2ct rings need to check your priorities, IMO.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: Kathcolo on August 19, 2004, 01:22:05 PM
Yeah my husband said he would have picked out a round solitaire in white gold or platinum.

OK, the story...Wesley and I had moved to Atlanta in the summer and started our jobs pretty recently after that, him in April and me in August so we did not feel like we could ask off for Christmas. Christmas is a HUGE deal in our families. Everyone gets together and it is just a big event in both our households. We were spending the 2 weekends on either end with his family and then mine but it was still sad to think that on Christmas morning. I had never lived away from my parents and was really upset about spending Christmas away from them. So, my office had the raffle a few days before Christmas to win a Christmas tree, well I won and we picked out, no joke, the most beautiful Frasier Fir I have ever seen! So, to make it seem less sad we got Christmas ornaments to decorate it with. These beautiful blue snowman balls and snowflakes. It really was quite pretty but I was still sad. We were putting the ornaments on our pretty Christmas tree and Wesley and I were just chatting and watching the Christmas episode of Saturday Night Live. I turned around to take one of the balls from him and Wesley had the engagement ring on an ornament hook. As I started to put it on the tree, I looked and realized it was a sparkling diamond ring and not a .99 glass ball! I turned back around and he was down on one knee and asked me to marry him. he had picked up the ring over Thanksgiving and it had been in the house for a couple weeks without me knowing! I just stood there staring at him. I was so in shock because I thought maybe for New Year's, maybe at Christmas, but not right now!! So, he asked me again, and I said, "Yes!"

For the record, I did not "demand" a big honking ring. I think my engagement ring was about $6,000 and the band was around 2500, I think. His platinum ring was not piece of tin, either! :P
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: jacy85 on August 19, 2004, 02:58:47 PM
That's such a sweet story!  I hope my guy thinks up something like that.  I told him no national holidays or birthdays.  If it's around a holiday, like yours, that's great.  But getting a ring on Christmas just seems like cheating to me.

I told my bf I don't want anything bigger than 1 caret, since I have small hands.  Platinum band, and a round stone (brilliance cut, I think it is?) are my only two big requests.  The setting and band are up to him.  He knows me well enough that he'll pick out something I'll love (I hope anyway!), and it'll be more special to me than if I pick it out myself.

And I thought about a Vegas thing, but I really want a real wedding with the big dress.  I was one of those kids that dreamed about that, and having my daddy walk me down the aisle, so I don't think I could ever give that up.  It may very well be small though, definitely less than 100 people probably.  Unless they all want to pay for their damn dinners themselves.
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: Kathcolo on August 20, 2004, 05:58:19 AM
Thanks! I thought it was a good story. Yeah, I had the traditional wedding with the big white dress and flowers and 6 bridesmaids... I loved it and it was wonderful. There were times when both my husband and I thought we should get a flight to Vegas and screw all of the other people who are difficult. My sister in law told me when I got engaged, "You will not believe me now, but if you can plan a wedding without killing one another, you can do anything" It is pretty true!! :)
Title: Re: The Marriage Thread
Post by: GentleTim on August 20, 2004, 06:21:51 AM
Yeah my husband said he would have picked out a round solitaire in white gold or platinum.

OK, the story...Wesley and I had moved to Atlanta in the summer and started our jobs pretty recently after that, him in April and me in August so we did not feel like we could ask off for Christmas. Christmas is a HUGE deal in our families. Everyone gets together and it is just a big event in both our households. We were spending the 2 weekends on either end with his family and then mine but it was still sad to think that on Christmas morning. I had never lived away from my parents and was really upset about spending Christmas away from them. So, my office had the raffle a few days before Christmas to win a Christmas tree, well I won and we picked out, no joke, the most beautiful Frasier Fir I have ever seen! So, to make it seem less sad we got Christmas ornaments to decorate it with. These beautiful blue snowman balls and snowflakes. It really was quite pretty but I was still sad. We were putting the ornaments on our pretty Christmas tree and Wesley and I were just chatting and watching the Christmas episode of Saturday Night Live. I turned around to take one of the balls from him and Wesley had the engagement ring on an ornament hook. As I started to put it on the tree, I looked and realized it was a sparkling diamond ring and not a .99 glass ball! I turned back around and he was down on one knee and asked me to marry him. he had picked up the ring over Thanksgiving and it had been in the house for a couple weeks without me knowing! I just stood there staring at him. I was so in shock because I thought maybe for New Year's, maybe at Christmas, but not right now!! So, he asked me again, and I said, "Yes!"


That's a really sweet story ;D  I love stuff like that...