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talking about grades?

olive

talking about grades?
« on: January 05, 2007, 01:26:02 PM »
My friend who just graduated from my law school a few years ago told me not to talk about grades - that it would either make me feel bad or make the other person feel bad - and that no good would come of it.

I have one grade so far and I've only told my family. I haven't even discussed the fact that we have a grade posted with any of my classmates, let alone tell them how I fared.

I'm starting school soon - Should I expect that a lot of my classmates will be discussing grades? I was surprised by how many people discussed exams, but grades are more personal.

Did many people at your school discuss grades? Ask about yours? Tell you theirs? I'm just wondering what to expect..

Re: talking about grades?
« Reply #1 on: January 05, 2007, 01:30:56 PM »
Your friends advice is good. Make it your policy that you do not discuss grades with other law students because nothing good can come from it. You'll be surprised at how difficult this is.

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Re: talking about grades?
« Reply #2 on: January 05, 2007, 01:59:14 PM »
That advice is excellent.  DO NOT talk to any of your classmates about grades unless they beg you and you're positive your grade will be higher ;)

I keep it all in, I don't share them with anyone, trust me, it makes you feel a lot better about your grades not to have an elaborate scheme in your head of how you did compared to everyone else.  You think you'll feel better if you can compare, but you will inevitably feel worse.  Even if you get a 4.0 and someone else does, too, your accomplishment will feel less significant because you're not the only one.  There's nothing to be gained by comparing.

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Re: talking about grades?
« Reply #3 on: January 05, 2007, 02:08:52 PM »
I am not going to tell random people. If someone asks me what i made i will tell them. Ive never been one for secrets anyway. I also dont care as much about my grades as some do.

Re: talking about grades?
« Reply #4 on: January 05, 2007, 02:35:12 PM »
I'm not going to tell anyone my grades either. I have decided that it will do no good. People might try to sabatage me for this next semester or something, I've heard of this happening before. and besides people cen worry about what I got while they lose study time this semester.
Wow, you already have grades up? I don't even know how to check mine or where they will be posted, lol.

Re: talking about grades?
« Reply #5 on: January 05, 2007, 03:58:18 PM »
I think it depends. Last year I was very close with the people in my study group, and we shared our grades. I was the idiot of the group yet still had good grades. As long as you don't mind hearing that your other close friends did better than you, then it's no big deal. But if there's someone in your group who you know did really bad, then I'd be a little hesitant to discuss any grades.

With other people, I'd keep the grades hush. Kid in my group had a 4.0, yet when other people asked him if he was #1 in the class, he denied it and continues to do so.

olive

Re: talking about grades?
« Reply #6 on: January 07, 2007, 10:02:04 AM »
I think it depends. Last year I was very close with the people in my study group, and we shared our grades. I was the idiot of the group yet still had good grades. As long as you don't mind hearing that your other close friends did better than you, then it's no big deal. But if there's someone in your group who you know did really bad, then I'd be a little hesitant to discuss any grades.

With other people, I'd keep the grades hush. Kid in my group had a 4.0, yet when other people asked him if he was #1 in the class, he denied it and continues to do so.

lol I'd love to be in that kid's position :P

Re: talking about grades?
« Reply #7 on: January 07, 2007, 09:26:16 PM »
I did really well too and so far I am trying not to say anything to any of my classmates.  I don't want to come off as a dickhead, especially if some of my friends didn't do so well.

Re: talking about grades?
« Reply #8 on: January 08, 2007, 09:56:33 AM »
My study partner and I shared our grades because our classes were year-long, and it was a good way to gage which one of us was understanding each class better, so we could help the other out. It worked out well because we each did really well in 2 of four classes, and they happened to be different classes. And we did improve the next semester by "teaching" each other. Otherwise, I did not share with anyone else because your friend is right - no good can come from it.

mae

Re: talking about grades?
« Reply #9 on: January 08, 2007, 11:00:21 AM »
I only have 2 grades in and they aren't horrendous but aren't great (B, B-).  I don't intend to discuss them w/anyone beyond being super general, but a friend of mine today told me she got an A in the class where I got the B- (I didn't say what I got, she just up and told me her grade), and it pretty much made me feel like crap.  I'm sure she didn't intend that at all and was just excited about her grade, but still, it literally made me feel stupid and unmotivated.  So....I'd definitely advise not sharing your grades even with friends.